Why does it matter??

Sh0rtnF1t · 08-12-2008, 07:55 PM

Just have to get this off of my chest cause I dont have anyone to talk to about it.....How do you fully get over someone?

I thought I was but I just found out that my ex has a new girlfriend and it bothers me???? WHY??? I wish it didnt but it does for some reason.....

I need to learn that I dont have to settle for anyone, just cant seem to find someone that treats me like I am supposed to be treated.....Didnt think it would be this hard and I thought for sure that I might find someone before he did...not that it was a race but it sucks being lonely...I am so frustrated!!!! Any words of wisdom would help me at this point I am sure

DaCougarMech · 08-12-2008, 07:59 PM

how are you supposed to be treated?

ImFromDuval · 08-12-2008, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Sh0rtnF1t

Just have to get this off of my chest cause I dont have anyone to talk to about it.....How do you fully get over someone?

I thought I was but I just found out that my ex has a new girlfriend and it bothers me???? WHY??? I wish it didnt but it does for some reason.....

I need to learn that I dont have to settle for anyone, just cant seem to find someone that treats me like I am supposed to be treated.....Didnt think it would be this hard and I thought for sure that I might find someone before he did...not that it was a race but it sucks being lonely...I am so frustrated!!!! Any words of wisdom would help me at this point I am sure

If he treated you so good then why did u guys break up?

m dot holla · 08-12-2008, 08:02 PM

Everyone has trouble getting over their ex's/relationship. You just need to realize that everything happens for a reason. He moved on and so do you. That doesn't necessarily mean to date someone A.S.A.P or go to the club and bring back all sorts of dick. Concentrate on something you are passionate about to get him off your mind whether it be working out, work, dancing..whatever to do. Hang with some of your friends and enjoy yourself, you only have one life to live so you might as well enjoy it.

"If you're not laughing, you're not living."

yoj · 08-12-2008, 08:02 PM

The very question would be... how did you find out about his new GF? If you are still creeping his facebook or talking to him or his friends, then that is also my very first bit of advice... STOP! You will drive yourself nuts. I have caught myself doing it too and its just a desctructive habit. Remove him from your friends or block him if you have to. What does it matter?

The second by the book piece of advice would be "find someone else" but that can be much harder for girls, since they have to wait to be approached so who knows when that could be, in 5 minutes or 5 years lol. But you could obviously do things to get yourself out there. Go out with your friends. Sitting around on BB.com isn't going to get anyone to approach you :P

w4rrior · 08-12-2008, 08:05 PM

I would say the best way is to just find someone else... but like you said it's hard to find someone better or equal to a EX.

Maybe you have to be more trusting or lower your standards?

Sh0rtnF1t · 08-12-2008, 08:07 PM

wow....kind of feel like I am being beat down here, he treated me like crap and I am wondering why I still care so much that he has moved on....A friend actually told me that he has a gf now, I am not creeping around or stalking him!! Geese give me some credit, nor am I trying to find someone on here!! I used to be overweight and then decided to do something about it, he was never supportive of me and actually told me to get fat again because he couldnt stand other guys even just looking at me! I am on Bspace for myself because I have huge goals just like everyone else on here and was looking for moral support! I am just simply asking how to get over someone completely, I am not asking for a pitty party.

Sh0rtnF1t · 08-12-2008, 08:10 PM

I also dont have high standards, if you saw the picture of him you would see that. He is overweight but that didnt matter to me. Yes, now I would like to find someone that might be into some of the same things as I am. They dont have to be completely hardcore into working out like I am, I just want to find someone that wants to take care of themselves, is that too much to ask?

N01SYtZ · 08-12-2008, 08:12 PM

Sitting on BB.com talking about HIM wont get your mind off HIM.
Go out have some with a few friends maybe a girls night out go shopping etc. whatever you like to do!

Sh0rtnF1t · 08-12-2008, 08:16 PM

Ok..........guess I am not going to get any help here.....I wasnt looking to be bashed, just thought I might be able to get some nice suggestions. Thanks to all that did have good intentions....

IzRiot · 08-12-2008, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by N01SYtZ

Sitting on BB.com talking about HIM wont get your mind off HIM.
Go out have some with a few friends maybe a girls night out go shopping etc. whatever you like to do!

Jaw-Knee · 08-12-2008, 08:18 PM

If the dude was such a jackass, why is he such a big deal? I'm assuming you've broken up with guys before? Or did he dump you and you're having a hard time dealing with it? If that's the case, get over yourself. If not... Well, go work out and get the endorphins running through your system, then go home and eat chocolate or whatever it is that girls do when they're upset.

Sh0rtnF1t · 08-12-2008, 08:21 PM

Jesus!! Some of you people are mean as hell.....

yoj · 08-12-2008, 08:24 PM

I wasn't saying you were trying to find someone on here, it was a joke lighten up!

. What I meant was that you have to be at least trying to find someone new, are you?

As for the moral support, I would say you are quite cute and I wouldn't think you should have a problem finding someone new at all. But I didn't say that before because I don't usually creep on girls over the internet haha (unlike 99% of the poeple on here). But who knows really, if your standards are too high then it will be tough and if they are too low it will be easy!

Jaw-Knee · 08-12-2008, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Sh0rtnF1t

Jesus!! Some of you people are mean as hell.....

Oh, I'm sorry, was I supposed to treat you differently because you have a vagina?

Breakology · 08-12-2008, 08:29 PM

Want to get over old BF?

Drive to MD and make out with the tallest white guy you can find.

hint:

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BrotherDan · 08-12-2008, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

Oh, I'm sorry, was I supposed to treat you differently because you have a vagina?

HA! vagina........

The Experiment · 08-12-2008, 08:35 PM

Shut up and TRAIN!!!

Looks like you need to heed your own advice.

Sh0rtnF1t · 08-12-2008, 08:36 PM

Ok.........think I am over it because I just realized what douche bags most guys are. Thanks for all the help

N01SYtZ · 08-12-2008, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Sh0rtnF1t

Jesus!! Some of you people are mean as hell.....

Its called reality, sorry to say but I wasnt even trying to be mean before I was just stating how I felt.

The Experiment · 08-12-2008, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Sh0rtnF1t

Ok.........think I am over it because I just realized what douche bags most guys are. Thanks for all the help

Zing...

...and -1016 points for making a blanket assumption about three billion people. The less than shiny pennies in the fountain of life should be in the red anyway. Negged in real life, negged on an internet board. Justice has been served.

nitr0x2 · 08-12-2008, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Breakology

Want to get over old BF?

Drive to MD and make out with the tallest white guy you can find.

hint:

<----

6'10? holy ****, king of the manmores

DaCougarMech · 08-12-2008, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Sh0rtnF1t

Ok.........think I am over it because I just realized what douche bags most guys are. Thanks for all the help

i suspected as much since your first post

you think you're a princess

BigSteelCreel · 08-13-2008, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Sh0rtnF1t

Just have to get this off of my chest cause I dont have anyone to talk to about it.....How do you fully get over someone?

I thought I was but I just found out that my ex has a new girlfriend and it bothers me???? WHY??? I wish it didnt but it does for some reason.....

I need to learn that I dont have to settle for anyone, just cant seem to find someone that treats me like I am supposed to be treated.....Didnt think it would be this hard and I thought for sure that I might find someone before he did...not that it was a race but it sucks being lonely...I am so frustrated!!!! Any words of wisdom would help me at this point I am sure

Thats just a part of life. People break up. My advice is dont make it harder than it is girl. I have been in this EXACT same situation and its so easy to have hope and crap, but you just got to cut that **** out dude. Its like that person said "everything happens for a reason" if ya'll were meant to be together then god would have made it that way. Dont try and screw with destiny haha

Ace_2004 · 08-13-2008, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by DaCougarMech

how are you supposed to be treated?

lol i thought your sig was your reply, fitted well.

GPx · 08-13-2008, 12:58 PM

how long ago did you guys break up? and how long did you date?

If it's been less than a few months, it's just natural. Time and friends will help you heal.

C-Squared · 08-13-2008, 01:03 PM

I broke up with a girl after a year and she was with a new guy the next week... I was with a new girl a week after that, but the principle of it bothers me to this day!

mercury12 · 08-13-2008, 01:07 PM

This isn't me coming down on you... it's just me observing what you're saying. /Disclaimer

You say it sucks being lonely. What does having a boyfriend/girlfriend have to do with being lonely? I didn't have a girlfriend until I was in my early 20's. I wasn't lonely until that point. You need to shift your view on having a relationship.

Whether he treated you bad or not, it's always hard to see a significant other move on and "replace" you. We all like to think we're not repalceable. But it's still going to be hard for us guys to muster up some sympathy for you if he treated you poorly. When girls talk about that, we get confused and frustrated.... because we don't understand why any girl would ever stick around that. All you have to do is put on the outfit in your Avatar and go to the gym. You could have 5 dates for 5 different nights of the week by tomorrow.

Also, you HAVE to find the bad ones and filter them out. If you never had a bad boyfriend, you wouldn't realize when you had a good one.

People break up. If that wasn't the case, then everyone would marry the first person they met. You say he treated you poorly, he's probably out there saying the same thing about the way YOu treated HIM. You two had different priorities and it didn't work out. Lesson learned, on to the next lesson.

My point: It's just another step in your life. It's always difficult when you had an emotional attachment with someone and they get removed from your life. Take it as a life lesson. Learn from the relationship... right now (when the feelings are still fresh) is when you can look back and see all the red flags that you were blind to previously. The next time you're in a relationship and see the red flags... BOLT!

You need to take this as one of thousands of events in your life that make you who you are. If you're happy with who you are, be greatful. If not, learn who you want to be and start making changes.

Good luck... time will fix the feelings you're having. Recognize that it will be a little easier tomorrow.. and the day after that.

WizardGlick · 08-13-2008, 01:12 PM

You ARE over him, otherwise you'd still be with him. Who did the breaking up?

It's just that it bothers you that he was able to move on, as you perceive, so easily. Go out with friends and date a guy or two lightly maybe. You're right, it wasn't a race.

You'll be fine. Just don't fall for the same douchebag he was because you're lonely. When you least expect it you'll meet someone.

tizom · 08-13-2008, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaw-Knee

Oh, I'm sorry, was I supposed to treat you differently because you have a vagina?

hahaha, x2