A serious question to the females (serious) (kinda long read)

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 04:48 PM

Ok, so there is this girl at my job that i like...she's white, redhead, blue eyes...sexy sweet lips, gorgeous. Anyway, we met and started conversing at work through email. I really like her but she have a bf....now I normally run the other way when i find out a girl have a bf....because i'm not into that. But i really like her. Her b-day came up and she told me alot about herself that she LOVES animals and dinosaurs and love expeditions and hiking and stuff like that.

So the day before her b-day, i stayed back after work and hid notes and gifts around her cubicle. I hid a note underneath her mouse so she would find that note...then read it so it could lead her to the other notes and gifts. I hid a little tiger teddy bear, a dinosaur and a coloring book (she loves coloring books) Then sent some flowers to her later that day, because she said she'd love some flower....but she knows her bf won't buy her any. Anyway...when i came to work, she was so happy and loved what i did for her. We are now a hot commodity at work because everybody knows about what i did for her that day (news get around an office really quick)

Well, it's been 2 months now since we've been talking to each other at work...we go to lunch together on fridays....but i want more..i want her. I'm now coming to the realization that she's not going to leave her bf for me and that i shouldn't have even tried to get her in the first place.

What do you all think i should do?
Should i leave her alone?
Continue pursuing her since she's worth it?

Serious answers alone please.

I don't have a problem getting women...i just click with her and i don't get that feeling with alot of women that i meet....so she's special.

TiffTiff · 07-24-2008, 04:56 PM

You sound pretty nice for a whore. Lol.

Anyways, I bet she likes you too. Just be up front and ask her what the deal is. You never know..she might dump him for you.

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by TiffTiff

You sound pretty nice for a whore. Lol.

Anyways, I bet she likes you too. Just be up front and ask her what the deal is. You never know..she might dump him for you.

She does like me, and i've asked her whats up. But she said that i can't expect her to leave her bf (of 3 years) for a new guy so quick. But the way things are going...i don't think she's ever gonna leave him for me.

It's quite depressing knowing that you can't have something that you want so bad.

JAWS22 · 07-24-2008, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by YoMaMa84

Ok, so there is this girl at my job that i like...she's white, redhead, blue eyes...sexy sweet lips, gorgeous. Anyway, we met and started conversing at work through email. I really like her but she have a bf....now I normally run the other way when i find out a girl have a bf....because i'm not into that. But i really like her. Her b-day came up and she told me alot about herself that she LOVES animals and dinosaurs and love expeditions and hiking and stuff like that.

So the day before her b-day, i stayed back after work and hid notes and gifts around her cubicle. I hid a note underneath her mouse so she would find that note...then read it so it could lead her to the other notes and gifts. I hid a little tiger teddy bear, a dinosaur and a coloring book (she loves coloring books) Then sent some flowers to her later that day, because she said she'd love some flower....but she knows her bf won't buy her any. Anyway...when i came to work, she was so happy and loved what i did for her. We are now a hot commodity at work because everybody knows about what i did for her that day (news get around an office really quick)

Well, it's been 2 months now since we've been talking to each other at work...we go to lunch together on fridays....but i want more..i want her. I'm now coming to the realization that she's not going to leave her bf for me and that i shouldn't have even tried to get her in the first place.

What do you all think i should do?
Should i leave her alone?
Continue pursuing her since she's worth it?

Serious answers alone please.

I don't have a problem getting women...i just click with her and i don't get that feeling with alot of women that i meet....so she's special.

I..... hate..... you.... NEGGED... for no reason at all.

TiffTiff · 07-24-2008, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by YoMaMa84

She does like me, and i've asked her whats up. But she said that i can't expect her to leave her bf (of 3 years) for a new guy so quick. But the way things are going...i don't think she's ever gonna leave him for me.

It's quite depressing knowing that you can't have something that you want so bad.

I bet if you ignore her it'll drive her crazy. She's playing games w/ you. IDK..I might think an ultimatum is in order.

Why would she stay w/ a guy who never buys her flowers? Damn.

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by JAWS22

I..... hate..... you.... NEGGED... for no reason at all.

Just don't assume that all white girls don't like black guys. I never look at skin color...if i'm attracted to you, then i'll come talk to you.

TiffTiff · 07-24-2008, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by YoMaMa84

Just don't assume that all white girls don't like black guys. I never look at skin color...if i'm attracted to you, then i'll come talk to you.

I think he's black too. Lol.

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by TiffTiff

I bet if you ignore her it'll drive her crazy. She's playing games w/ you. IDK..I might think an ultimatum is in order.

Why would she stay w/ a guy who never buys her flowers? Damn.

Well, today she was snapping at me so i told her i'm gonna leave her alone for good. and then she emailed me saying "i made something for you' when i asked 'what is it?' She came over and gave me a little note with a puppy on it saying "you really are nothing but nice to me, you can't be mad at a face like this....i'm sorry" So i know it would devastate her if i left her alone....but i'm not getting what i want either.

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I think he's black too. Lol.

I know...he repped me asking how can he get a white girl...lol

JAWS22 · 07-24-2008, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by YoMaMa84

Just don't assume that all white girls don't like black guys. I never look at skin color...if i'm attracted to you, then i'll come talk to you.

Hehehe well I know that ^__^ BUT.... the one I am going after is white, hair and eyes like an angel(literaly) and the sweetest little voice. I made her whole face turn red while I was embelleshing her with compliments, but she also has a boyfriend. So for now I am on stuck.

*dwest* · 07-24-2008, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by YoMaMa84

Just don't assume that all white girls don't like black guys. I never look at skin color...if i'm attracted to you, then i'll come talk to you.

You should leave her alone. (serious)

JAWS22 · 07-24-2008, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by YoMaMa84

Well, today she was snapping at me so i told her i'm gonna leave her alone for good. and then she emailed me saying "i made something for you' when i asked 'what is it?' She came over and gave me a little note with a puppy on it saying "you really are nothing but nice to me, you can't be mad at a face like this....i'm sorry" So i know it would devastate her if i left her alone....but i'm not getting what i want either.

I know...he repped me asking how can he get a white girl...lol

Dood you didn thave to tell everybody. Thats why I repped it lol. But now you get a neg. For the hell of it.

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JAWS22

Hehehe well I know that ^__^ BUT.... the one I am going after is white, hair and eyes like an angel(literaly) and the sweetest little voice. I made her whole face turn red while I was embelleshing her with compliments, but she also has a boyfriend. So for now I am on stuck.

We're in the same situation here man.

She blushes everytime i'm around her and her smile can make me happy in any bad situation.

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 05:25 PM

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You should leave her alone. (serious)

why?

gelizzy · 07-24-2008, 05:29 PM

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why?

cuz she has a boyfriend....somebody tried that **** on me(no flowers n **** though) n i been with my man for almost 3 years now....ain't no way ima just up n leave him n im sure she isn't gonna leave him...no matter how much she likes u

edit: its too much of a risk...she's been with this guy for awhile...what if she leaves him n u **** her over...not sayn u would r do it intentionally but lets just think logically here.

hunter1492 · 07-24-2008, 05:33 PM

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why?

She is wrong for encouraging you; however, if he finds out you deserve to have your ass handed to you.

TiffTiff · 07-24-2008, 05:41 PM

It'll eventually come to a head. You can only play these cat and mouse games so long.....

*dwest* · 07-24-2008, 05:42 PM

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It'll eventually come to a head. You can only play these cat and mouse games so long.....

He'll eventually find out and it will end badly.

It always does.

dunkonu9 · 07-24-2008, 05:54 PM

I say leave her alone. What if that was your girl and some dude was doing $**** like that. I would shove those flowers and little toys up his a$$ and leave him a note so he would know what order they were gonna come out in when he $hit.

anb1683 · 07-24-2008, 05:55 PM

It's like that saying "If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours"

let her go...you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. If she wants you she would give up the "not so good" relationship to be with you, especially if you did what you did for her, she'd be stupid not too, especially if he isnt treating her like she wants to be treated. You're just filling a void that her current boyfriend can't fill...in it all, she's having her cake and eating it too, and you're letting her.

JAWS22 · 07-24-2008, 05:58 PM

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I say leave her alone. What if that was your girl and some dude was doing $**** like that. I would shove those flowers and little toys up his a$$ and leave him a note so he would know what order they were gonna come out in when he $hit.

Well, that sounds like something HS and College students would do, because if your woman (if you were BF and GF and not married) wants to be with someone else and leaves you then GOOD she didnt love you the way you deserved to be loved. If I can steal that girl from that guy, I did him a favor, and I know the guy who steals her from me, or vice versa has done me a favor.

TiffTiff · 07-24-2008, 06:04 PM

All's fair in Love and War...unless you're married. Lol.

dunkonu9 · 07-24-2008, 06:05 PM

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Well, that sounds like something HS and College students would do, because if your woman (if you were BF and GF and not married) wants to be with someone else and leaves you then GOOD she didnt love you the way you deserved to be loved. If I can steal that girl from that guy, I did him a favor, and I know the guy who steals her from me, or vice versa has done me a favor.

Yeah but you don't expect some douche to be off trying to hit on her all the time. There are other ladies around go talk to them. I know you should pimp the ho not the pimp but still have a little bit of respect. Now if she is lookin well then good. But he is persuing her (now she is not telling him no) but still he is after her.

If your not meant to be together when you won't end up that way.

dunkonu9 · 07-24-2008, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by TiffTiff

All's fair in Love and War...unless you're married. Lol.

Even if you are married. All's fair so when some dude it sending my lady flowers and buying her gifts and he catches a bottle to the back of his dome in a bar or finds that his car won't start well... all is fair

TiffTiff · 07-24-2008, 06:10 PM

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Even if you are married. All's fair so when some dude it sending my lady flowers and buying her gifts and he catches a bottle to the back of his dome in a bar or finds that his car won't start well... all is fair

Yeah...it's not pretty. I know

. I just meant you DEFINITELY should not try to hit up on a married woman.

dunkonu9 · 07-24-2008, 06:19 PM

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Yeah...it's not pretty. I know

. I just meant you DEFINITELY should not try to hit up on a married woman.

Yeah and there is really nothing you cna do if guys do. I mean my wife gets hit on all of the time. Alot of guys respect the fact and I usually don't say anything becuase she handles herself well. If they keep it up its thier a$$.

This girl on the other hand is not taking care of it in fact making it worse. I just know this cannot turn out good.

YoMaMa84 · 07-24-2008, 07:04 PM

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Yeah and there is really nothing you cna do if guys do. I mean my wife gets hit on all of the time. Alot of guys respect the fact and I usually don't say anything becuase she handles herself well. If they keep it up its thier a$$.

This girl on the other hand is not taking care of it in fact making it worse. I just know this cannot turn out good.

ok. thanks for YOUR opinions.

I didn't want to do it....but she encouraged it so it just happened. I'm going to end it now before it goes any further.

Thanks everyone that gave me helpful answer

kimm4 · 07-24-2008, 07:45 PM

It's been a couple months and she hasn't left her b/f yet. She's got the best of both worlds...so why would she leave him? I would hate to see you drag this on...only to get more attached...it's only going to make it worse in the end...

Good luck

dunkonu9 · 07-24-2008, 08:06 PM

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It's been a couple months and she hasn't left her b/f yet. She's got the best of both worlds...so why would she leave him? I would hate to see you drag this on...only to get more attached...it's only going to make it worse in the end...

Good luck

Yeah I kind of went off on a mini rant with MY opinions.

This is closer to what I really intended. She is getting her cake and eating it to. She loves him and there are a few things like flowers gifts and conversation that she is not getting from him. Well that is where you come in. So both of you make a great life for her. In the end the only ones getting hurt is you and him, and I hope not literally.

Also Remember the Ginuwine song talking about if she cheated on him????? Give you a little something to thank about.

Death-S · 07-24-2008, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by kimm4

It's been a couple months and she hasn't left her b/f yet. She's got the best of both worlds...so why would she leave him? I would hate to see you drag this on...only to get more attached...it's only going to make it worse in the end...

Good luck

yea idk dude you might want to think of other options than her because she's sounding like she isn't going to leave him for you and for you to become really attached and have your feelings crushed in the end, it just wont end well

JAWS22 · 07-24-2008, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by dunkonu9

Yeah and there is really nothing you cna do if guys do. I mean my wife gets hit on all of the time. Alot of guys respect the fact and I usually don't say anything becuase she handles herself well. If they keep it up its thier a$$.

This girl on the other hand is not taking care of it in fact making it worse. I just know this cannot turn out good.

Ahhhh. Your right. Just hard not to "steal" fish when your a bear the only bear without a pond.