Help a girl~ What are the signs you can trust a man? signs of a player?

[Nasty$al]

Originally Posted by Androgen-X

Whatever they are, I love em

Amen brother. LOL.

[stone fox]

Yea good point about the definition of a player.

Is it somebody who "plays" mind games?
or somebody who "plays" the field?

If the later then yes, I guess nowadays I would fall into that category, though I'm not a big fan of categories . Nothing wrong with that. I'm open and honest about my intentions (none of which involve a serious relationship) some girls are cool with that and in the same boat, some girls choose to ignore it and think they can change one's attitude and some girls will dismiss one as a total manwhore and be done with it.

Games should be left behind with puberty in my opinion but alas a lot of folk don't agree with this.

[BballBuilder]

Sal, come to canada and come clubbing with me. hahaha

[Nasty$al]

Originally Posted by BballBuilder

Sal, come to canada and come clubbing with me. hahaha

I got a HB up there in Ottawa that I might come see... where you at homey? If you got some of that Canada dro and somewhere I can buy Patron, I'll be there faster than you can say BLACKOUT, lol.

[BballBuilder]

Originally Posted by Nasty$al

I got a HB up there in Ottawa that I might come see... where you at homey? If you got some of that Canada dro and somewhere I can buy Patron, I'll be there faster than you can say BLACKOUT, lol.

I'm in N.S. so we'd have to hit Halifax, a little far from Ottawa. hah

[Nasty$al]

Originally Posted by BballBuilder

I'm in N.S. so we'd have to hit Halifax, a little far from Ottawa. hah

Hit me on Myspace if you're on it homey! Pinky ring salute to you! ahhahahaahah

[bcd1983]

Originally Posted by SamsoniteP

if you are hot and he is hot...means he want to bang u.....and if you are chill he might stick around for more banging...

Are you involved in MENSA? Your intelligence is radiant.

[Orlando Abs]

I have a friend who is a serious player. His problem is that he is also an idiot about it.

So, one night we go out and meet 2 girls who are really cool and attractive and just got burned by their last BFs. So they meet us and are like "damn, you guys are nice looking and cool", we should all hang out again. So we do and split up and couple off at different areas of the city after dinner.

Now what I do is hang with the girl I'm with. I am not clingy, I let her free roam, etc but I do not pick up girls on the date.

My friend apparently does. So while his girl goes to the bathroom, he is hitting on other girls in the bar. Unbeknownest to him, his date (who is an attractive model with a lot of friends) texted her friends who were at that same bar to check out her date and see how he acted when she was not around.

So they see him hitting on other girls, and tell her. Ruining his "I'm a normal guy" vibe and chances at dating a hot model who is actually a cool girl.

I find all of this out later when the girl I was with tells me.

My point is, if you are connected in your city, to find out if a guy is a player, you may need to be crafty about it like this girl was.

And guys, when you are out on a date with a cool girl, do not hit on other girls (duh).

[shitbrickhouse]

thread starter: why dont u save us all some time and tell us about the guy you're interested in, and we will tell you if he's a player.

Or are you too scared we will tell you you're only gonna be a booty call to him?

[stone fox]

Originally Posted by Orlando Abs

I have a friend who is a serious player. His problem is that he is also an idiot about it.

So, one night we go out and meet 2 girls who are really cool and attractive and just got burned by their last BFs. So they meet us and are like "damn, you guys are nice looking and cool", we should all hang out again. So we do and split up and couple off at different areas of the city after dinner.

Now what I do is hang with the girl I'm with. I am not clingy, I let her free roam, etc but I do not pick up girls on the date.

My friend apparently does. So while his girl goes to the bathroom, he is hitting on other girls in the bar. Unbeknownest to him, his date (who is an attractive model with a lot of friends) texted her friends who were at that same bar to check out her date and see how he acted when she was not around.

So they see him hitting on other girls, and tell her. Ruining his "I'm a normal guy" vibe and chances at dating a hot model who is actually a cool girl.

I find all of this out later when the girl I was with tells me.

My point is, if you are connected in your city, to find out if a guy is a player, you may need to be crafty about it like this girl was.

And guys, when you are out on a date with a cool girl, do not hit on other girls (duh).

Yea but it sounds like your buddy dodged a bullet though because she sounds like a total head case....

[Orlando Abs]

Originally Posted by stone fox

Yea but it sounds like your buddy dodged a bullet though because she sounds like a total head case....

I don't know. I think she was sick of dealing with players and since she knew people working at the bar figured she would ask their opinion on my friend.

I say this just because I have known her a while now and she seems pretty normal for the most part.

[Jacked_J]

I have the sense that the OP is very insecure.

I get the sense that you`re the kind of girl who just wouldn`t trust a guy with girl alone, period! Have more confidence in yourself.

Also, don`t be so selfish either. If you`re dating him, and he`s interested in other girls, that`s completely normal! People like people.

You should judge him on how responsible and respectful he is. A guy can be interested in many girls and not be a player. It`s his personality and character. I tend to like many girls, and my girl knows. I find it insane that she wouldn`t even consider another guy.

This whole monogamous thing is ridiculous.

[OneBetter]

if he puts up with you for a month, then he's not a player unless you're drop dead amazing a month is way to much time to waste if you have only one intention.

[Ladycole]

Originally Posted by bcd1983

Are you involved in MENSA? Your intelligence is radiant.

I thought the same thing **radiant* is a good word for it~

Originally Posted by ****brickhouse

thread starter: why dont u save us all some time and tell us about the guy you're interested in, and we will tell you if he's a player.

Or are you too scared we will tell you you're only gonna be a booty call to him?

Not afraid of being told the truth...either way. I just find this whole social/dating dance fascinating and also perplexing. So many factors are at play at the same time.

Isn't it said that people are actually *more afraid* of SUCCESS than failure?

I can deal with a guy being an ass, nothing new right?

But when you get the *INTUITION* it could be good, that's when it's tricky?

Trust or be cynical.?~?

Originally Posted by Jacked_J

I have the sense that the OP is very insecure.

I get the sense that you`re the kind of girl who just wouldn`t trust a guy with girl alone, period! Have more confidence in yourself.

Also, don`t be so selfish either. If you`re dating him, and he`s interested in other girls, that`s completely normal! People like people.

You should judge him on how responsible and respectful he is. A guy can be interested in many girls and not be a player. It`s his personality and character. I tend to like many girls, and my girl knows. I find it insane that she wouldn`t even consider another guy.

This whole monogamous thing is ridiculous.

Insecure? No. **Inexperienced with dating** for sure~~
(out of a very long-term relationship, and this is all new to me...you see the difference? I'm used to being able to trust a man no matter what, now???)

Also, I understand with your cynicism about monogamy. I posted a previous thread regarding this same issue...

Live. Learn. Play. Live life, right?
Enjoy it while you can~~now where do men & players fit into the picture?

And of course, things could all be fun & games if STDs, pregnancy, and morals didn't get in the way...it's all a balance~

Originally Posted by OneBetter

if he puts up with you for a month, then he's not a player unless you're drop dead amazing a month is way to much time to waste if you have only one intention.

I am getting the main point here among most threads is take it slow, observe the man...

[LeftNut]

I always say that trust is nothing more than blind hope. When it comes to girls and relationships then I value respect much higher from the other person. For whatever semblance of 'Trust' that I do, well that has to be earned and I don't just throw it out there for anyone just because its the right thing to do when you're with someone.

The same should be applied to men. Let him earn your 'trust' through his actions and not let him cloud your judgement through his words. You'll know yourself if a guy is a player quite simply through how much respect in his actions are afforded to you. The more respect given the greater the indication that they are trustworthy.

[Ladycole]

Originally Posted by LeftNut

I always say that trust is nothing more than blind hope. When it comes to girls and relationships then I value respect much higher from the other person. For whatever semblance of 'Trust' that I do, well that has to be earned and I don't just throw it out there for anyone just because its the right thing to do when you're with someone.

The same should be applied to men. Let him earn your 'trust' through his actions and not let him cloud your judgement through his words. You'll know yourself if a guy is a player quite simply through how much respect in his actions are afforded to you. The more respect given the greater the indication that they are trustworthy.

Well said and perfectly clear. Thank you.

[JoeyDaFool]

women will always be attracted to players. they will marry an ugly guy with money but they will cheat on him with me

[Nasty$al]

Originally Posted by JoeyDaFool

women will always be attracted to players. they will marry an ugly guy with money but they will cheat on him with me

X10000000000000000000000000

I'm gonna be the BALLIN ASS PLAYER that SLAUGHTERS any female he damn well chooses, LOL.

[SamsoniteP]

Originally Posted by Nasty$al

X10000000000000000000000000

I'm gonna be the BALLIN ASS PLAYER that SLAUGHTERS any female he damn well chooses, LOL.

u ain't ballin.........My dad stunts more than u.

[Nasty$al]

Originally Posted by SamsoniteP

u ain't ballin.........My dad stunts more than u.

My dad? Seriously? LMAO... That says it all, you beta.

[SamsoniteP]

Originally Posted by Nasty$al

My dad? Seriously? LMAO... That says it all, you beta.

this beta has a friend who has a friend, whose dad owns one of the biggest CEO firms in the world..

LOL WUT?

[stone fox]

Originally Posted by LeftNut

I always say that trust is nothing more than blind hope. When it comes to girls and relationships then I value respect much higher from the other person. For whatever semblance of 'Trust' that I do, well that has to be earned and I don't just throw it out there for anyone just because its the right thing to do when you're with someone.

The same should be applied to men. Let him earn your 'trust' through his actions and not let him cloud your judgement through his words. You'll know yourself if a guy is a player quite simply through how much respect in his actions are afforded to you. The more respect given the greater the indication that they are trustworthy.

I agree completely. I always throw out a bit of Willy Shakes here to sound pompous and self important

"love all, trust few,"

I don't know about you guys but I can count on one hand the amount of friends I feel I can truelly trust with anything....that's after 24 years on this planet! That doesn't mean I'm some insecure paranoid freak who thinks everybody is out to get me. It just means I don't have particularly high expectations of people based on 24 years of observing them.....

So why should you trust somebody you know for a month, looks nice and says the right things?

I'd proceed with an open mind, hope for the best but don't expect it.

[LovesMuscles]

Originally Posted by stone fox

I agree completely. I always throw out a bit of Willy Shakes here to sound pompous and self important

"love all, trust few,"

I don't know about you guys but I can count on one hand the amount of friends I feel I can truelly trust with anything....that's after 24 years on this planet! That doesn't mean I'm some insecure paranoid freak who thinks everybody is out to get me. It just means I don't have particularly high expectations of people based on 24 years of observing them.....

So why should you trust somebody you know for a month, looks nice and says the right things?

I'd proceed with an open mind, hope for the best but don't expect it.

Agreed. The few people I've ever completely trusted, I knew for at least 2 1/2 years.

[Crazymix]

Originally Posted by Ladycole

You guys are the experts...mind lending a shortie a hand?

What are the signs you can trust a man?
Signs of a player?
When to stay? when to bolt?

what is a PLAYER to you?

[Below 30]

Originally Posted by LovesMuscles

I know.



We're talking about toying with someone's feelings.

How often does a player decieve a female into thinking there could be committment in the future just to get into her pants?

He'll bull**** his way to get the hot woman mainly because she's hot and he wants to **** her.

Yet the woman spends thousands of dollars a year on cosmetics and surgery, to make sure her looks stands out to attract men. Women act like they don't know what a man really wants, thus they waste their own time in the long run.

Originally Posted by ryannath

I agree.

What else does a man need a woman for? Honestly.......

And I'm not meaning to be disrespectful or anything, but if a man doesn't want sex with her, then what does he want? Friendship? Seems pointless to me since I don't like what most females like...shopping, talking about celebs, fashion etc.

A man only needs a woman to supply his half of the DNA to create children. Society invented the rest and divorce/spousal abuse, is the end result.

Originally Posted by Ladycole

Uhh...but women like gifts and compliments, and a man that is constantly thinking of her...where is the problem here?

The problem is that you're attrcated to a player and don't realize that you (like most females) sexually neglect the nice guy until your looks fade into old woman territory -30-

[BlackHermit]

Originally Posted by Below 30

A man only needs a woman to supply his half of the DNA to create children. Society invented the rest and divorce/spousal abuse, is the end result.
-30-

No.Spousal Abuse is the result of insecure little boys trying to make themselves feel better by pushing around women. Or less comonly, insecure bitches who think they can play the "no penis" card by being physical with a man who refuses to hit back.

Welcome back.
I have missed your rediculously left wing, comparing people to animal posts.

[JoeyDaFool]

i totally agree with Below 30

[ntg4Nat]

Originally Posted by Ladycole

You guys are the experts...mind lending a shortie a hand?

What are the signs you can trust a man?
Signs of a player?
When to stay? when to bolt?

Oh girl, there are so many players on this site! Since its not even a dating site all the men that are pming for pictures and picture swapping are dead out players!

The man who is the most charming and most convincing is a player! Even if he comes off as sweet!

The man who is trying to tell you the hardest that he is really not a player - is a big time player!

On this site, check out their walls. See who they are writing too. Write the girls they are chatting it up with pms and see if they are getting the same kinds of promises and commitments from the guy!

Check out their girlfriend history. Are they dating and dumping hot chicks!

Gawd, it has been my experience that they will say whatever they want to, sweet talk, talk about family and future and get into your bed, then the first chick with bigger boobs, a nicer ass, or longer legs walks by and they are off and trying to get on her!

Players are smooth operators! Look to see if they have any long lasting relationships? But really dig about those relationships!

And if a guy is planning on meeting you and another chick with big tits on his 2 week leave PLAYER! I almost want to give him credit that he seemed sweet enough to pull that off!

Also, if the guy is writing you while in a relationship with someone else. Even if he swears that relationship is over, he is going to do the same damn thing to you. It means it was all about the conquest! He got what he wanted from her and now its time for new tits and ass!

[ntg4Nat]

Originally Posted by Ladycole

You guys are the experts...mind lending a shortie a hand?

What are the signs you can trust a man?
Signs of a player?
When to stay? when to bolt?

OH I had one more thought! If they seem too good to be true, they are definatly NOT TRUE!

[Nasty$al]

Originally Posted by ntg4Nat

Oh girl, there are so many players on this site! Since its not even a dating site all the men that are pming for pictures and picture swapping are dead out players!

The man who is the most charming and most convincing is a player! Even if he comes off as sweet!

The man who is trying to tell you the hardest that he is really not a player - is a big time player!

On this site, check out their walls. See who they are writing too. Write the girls they are chatting it up with pms and see if they are getting the same kinds of promises and commitments from the guy!

Check out their girlfriend history. Are they dating and dumping hot chicks!

Gawd, it has been my experience that they will say whatever they want to, sweet talk, talk about family and future and get into your bed, then the first chick with bigger boobs, a nicer ass, or longer legs walks by and they are off and trying to get on her!

Players are smooth operators! Look to see if they have any long lasting relationships? But really dig about those relationships!

And if a guy is planning on meeting you and another chick with big tits on his 2 week leave PLAYER! I almost want to give him credit that he seemed sweet enough to pull that off!

Also, if the guy is writing you while in a relationship with someone else. Even if he swears that relationship is over, he is going to do the same damn thing to you. It means it was all about the conquest! He got what he wanted from her and now its time for new tits and ass!

Pretty accurate, I'd say. Most women love a smooth player, if for nothing else, than a test drive.