Just found out GF of 4 months has a learning disability

[bdiesel]

dipping into the short bus pool... gjdm!

[ostov]

Originally Posted by bdiesel

dipping into the short bus pool... gjdm!

I loled so badly I had to do it

[qualitywah]

dude. you are lucky. it makes piitb super easy. so props to you.

no but seroiusly, if it really bothers you then don't go out with you. but if you enjoy her and care for her then i dont see any problems. your choice...

[Cosmonaut]

Originally Posted by erdons

Shes cute....

shes the one on the right...

The one on the left looks like the one with the disability, so who cares.

[slade81]

ya it pretty common, i had it and was force to take those classes throw mid and high school. great at math, slow at reading.

doesn't mean she a dumbass, it means it takes longer for her to learn somthing new. like me i suck at remembering ppl names. but onces i say the name a couple times i will remember it.

[gouscfootball]

Yea sure keep dating her...if you want kids with an average IQ of 40. What do you talk to her about anyways? A girl like that would drive me nuts.

[guest89]

Originally Posted by gouscfootball

Yea sure keep dating her...if you want kids with an average IQ of 40. What do you talk to her about anyways? A girl like that would drive me nuts.

He couldn't even tell after knowing the girl for six months dude. She isn't retarded, she just has trouble learning certain things.



If she makes you happy, and can cook, clean, take care of kids, and do chores I don't see a problem.


You handle the bills and finances and its all good.

[darknessesedge]

Originally Posted by erdons

Guys, just found out my GF of 4 months who i've been going out with for 6 months has a learning disability. I always suspected she was kinda not too bright when it came to adding numbers and stuff like that. Well today she told me that she had a learning disability and that she took special ed classes all through high school. Would any of you guys see this as a problem, how would you guys react to something like this??? Other than her problem with numbers and stuff like that, she just seems like a normal girl to me, she loves to clean, she loves to cook, she loves kids, she keeps me happy in almost every way...



cliffs
-found out gf of 4 months has a learning disability
-she took special ed classes during high school
-shes a great girl

Should this be a problem??? How would you guys react??

sounds like your gonna be spending alot of time taking her to the zoo.
so that she can pet the
ammminals....

[erdons]

Ok guys its not like she is a retard or anything. She knows how to drive, she has a job. She can carry a conversation, had she never told me about this problem I would have never known. She babysits her nephew everyday and I can tell you that she takes care of him as if he were hers, she would be a great mother. Honestly I dont see anything wrong with her, I was just surprised to hear this news, she cried and cried after she told me because she thought I would dump her because of it, but I dont see it as a reason for anything to change.

[Scarface2883]

Originally Posted by erdons

Ok guys its not like she is a retard or anything. She knows how to drive, she has a job. She can carry a conversation, had she never told me about this problem I would have never known. She babysits her nephew everyday and I can tell you that she takes care of him as if he were hers, she would be a great mother. Honestly I dont see anything wrong with her, I was just surprised to hear this news, she cried and cried after she told me because she thought I would dump her because of it, but I dont see it as a reason for anything to change.

That's nice of you, but maybe I'm just an ahole.

But I would not have children with someone with a learning disability. I wouldn't want my children to have the same problem as her.

Same with women not wanting to have children with short men. I see nothing wrong with them not wanting their children to be short.

[luckyclover]

All women have learning disabilities. Its called being a woman. Just be happy she admits it. So now you wont have to smack her around as much as other women.

[Scarface2883]

Originally Posted by luckyclover

All women have learning disabilities. Its called being a woman. Just be happy she admits it. So now you wont have to smack her around as much as other women.

Strong sexist.

More women are in college than men. just sayin'

[luckyclover]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwWM9zlKbaE


The proper way to handle bitchs up above.

[TiffTiff]

You didn't know till she told you so she can't be that stupid, right? There is one other possibility, but either way I bet you two make a great couple!

I could not resist. I am very sorry. Really!

[NYY]

Originally Posted by r0ckapejr

Can she cook?

You might have a learning disability as well.

Originally Posted by erdons

Guys, just found out my GF of 4 months who i've been going out with for 6 months has a learning disability. I always suspected she was kinda not too bright when it came to adding numbers and stuff like that. Well today she told me that she had a learning disability and that she took special ed classes all through high school. Would any of you guys see this as a problem, how would you guys react to something like this??? Other than her problem with numbers and stuff like that, she just seems like a normal girl to me, she loves to clean, she loves to cook, she loves kids, she keeps me happy in almost every way...

Op, I see what you did there.

Originally Posted by ryannath

More women are in college than men. just sayin'

Going to college doesn't mean you're smart at all.

[skinnyguy1986]

personally i wouldn't mind as long as shes not totally dumb.. i dont think it makes much a difference its not like your with her because shes smart.. as long as you 2 could make each other happy then its fine..

[wimpking]

Originally Posted by erdons

Guys, just found out my GF of 4 months who i've been going out with for 6 months has a learning disability. I always suspected she was kinda not too bright when it came to adding numbers and stuff like that. Well today she told me that she had a learning disability and that she took special ed classes all through high school. Would any of you guys see this as a problem, how would you guys react to something like this??? Other than her problem with numbers and stuff like that, she just seems like a normal girl to me, she loves to clean, she loves to cook, she loves kids, she keeps me happy in almost every way...



cliffs
-found out gf of 4 months has a learning disability
-she took special ed classes during high school
-shes a great girl

Should this be a problem??? How would you guys react??

hmm that's tough.. does she have big boobs and a thick booty?

[Jaw-Knee]

Originally Posted by ryannath

Strong sexist.

More women are in college than men. just sayin'

When was the last time you saw a good female mechanic, plumber, roofer or carpenter? Lots of guys take jobs that other people see as ****ty because they're good at what they do and they don't wanna go to college. ****, if I were a good carpenter or mechanic, I probably wouldn't go to college.

Guys also don't have the option of stripping to put themselves through school.

/hijack

As far as dating somebody with a learning disability goes, if I were dating a girl like yours, OP, I wouldn't let her go. So she has problems with numbers, big deal. Only thing that'd matter to me would be her potential as a wife and mother. Seems like your girl's got that **** down pat.

[rf0t0]

I don't know whats more stupid. You giving a damn about your girlfriend talking special ed classes in high school. Or the guy saying he wouldn't want to have kids with her, as if "stupidity" is inherited through genetics. it just makes me think you are kinda dumb guy.

[Darkhare]

She's hot for being retarded, I'd say stay with her.

[jakethesLAsnake]

Originally Posted by ostov

I loled so badly I had to do it

[SaintGermain]

Originally Posted by Mycophage

well, sounds like i'm 4 months late with this tidbit of info, but children (amazingly) get the MAJORITY of their intelligence from the mother, according to my ridiculously good psychology teacher in medical school. he neglected to say if it was 51%, or 99% intelligence from the woman, but he did stress MAJORITY.

guess ya gotta roll with the punches at this point. it's not most women really contribute anything intelligent anyways, but i'd be worried about my kids if they came outta her....sorry.

I'm sorry to hear this coming from a medic.

"Learning disability" is very often just a term used to pigeon hole students who need additional help at school. It could mean anything from severe retardation to simply having trouble with numbers at a particular stage of her education. Given that the OP dated this girl for 6 months without noticing anything, it sounds as if this "disability" might be negligible.

Intelligence is not a discrete quality by itself - it is multi-faceted and includes abilities as disparate as memory, reasoning, and numeracy. For Mycophage to say that "intelligence" largely comes from the mother is simply meaningless. The claim that the foetal environment can impact on intelligence (which I assume is what Mycophage is getting at) is not very well developed. It is certainly not something anyone should be worrying about when choosing who to date, or even have kids with...

If this girl is kind, loyal, and trustworthy, then you should be damn grateful!

[F.A.M.E.]

Its just something you'll both have to work with. I don't think its a make or break problem, theres far worst probs out there. Be supportive, patient, etc. When a person has unconditional love for another, it doesn't matter if the person is missin a leg, or unable to see, etc. You've stated she makes you happy, just keep on goin the way you've kept on goin with her before finding this out. Good luck.

[dontdisagree]

Originally Posted by erdons

Should this be a problem??? How would you guys react??

**** NO

TBH Im quite pissed off that you're asking other people. The answer is no, its not a problem.

You should be glad that you have that GF if you're in it for a long term relationship (If anyone doesnt know the reason why, y ou're probably too young and too self centered)


I would rather take a girl with a learning disability than a total knock out who's got money and is good in bed, because they're trouble


/anger



ps: To people who think this is such a big deal, look at yourselves first and find out what your short comings are

[Mycophage]

Originally Posted by SaintGermain

I'm sorry to hear this coming from a medic.

"Learning disability" is very often just a term used to pigeon hole students who need additional help at school. It could mean anything from severe retardation to simply having trouble with numbers at a particular stage of her education. Given that the OP dated this girl for 6 months without noticing anything, it sounds as if this "disability" might be negligible.

Intelligence is not a discrete quality by itself - it is multi-faceted and includes abilities as disparate as memory, reasoning, and numeracy. For Mycophage to say that "intelligence" largely comes from the mother is simply meaningless. The claim that the foetal environment can impact on intelligence (which I assume is what Mycophage is getting at) is not very well developed. It is certainly not something anyone should be worrying about when choosing who to date, or even have kids with...

If this girl is kind, loyal, and trustworthy, then you should be damn grateful!

i definitely agree with the points you made. there are plenty of people with great genetic potential that never do anything with it, and people with much less, who accomplish more. i used to teach swim lessons to a little girl who was pretty heavily retarded, but she made the honor roll every semester through hard work.

that said, it's still best to have a mate with high genetic potential, regardless of what they've done with it.

and THAT SAID, it sounds like you really like this girl, so don't create a problem if there isn't one. you knocked her up, so in any case, you've got to make the best of the situation. if you really think she'll be a good mother, that's a lot more than most people get, and definitely something to be thankful for.

[adam75south]

she loves to clean, she loves to cook

good enough for me.

[Grayman]

I honestly don't see what the problem is. A learning disability is anything these days. By the sounds of it she just isn't very academic. That's what it used to be called before everyone was suffering from one thing or another. I can not physically see anything that would be a problem.

Originally Posted by Mycophage

well, sounds like i'm 4 months late with this tidbit of info, but children (amazingly) get the MAJORITY of their intelligence from the mother, according to my ridiculously good psychology teacher in medical school. he neglected to say if it was 51%, or 99% intelligence from the woman, but he did stress MAJORITY.

guess ya gotta roll with the punches at this point. it's not most women really contribute anything intelligent anyways, but i'd be worried about my kids if they came outta her....sorry.

I'm not sure how correct your teacher is. My mum, all respect to her, is to be fair quite stupid. My Dad on the otherhand is an extremely intelligent guy, which I assume is where I got my academic capabilities from. I certainly didn't get that from my mother.

[chasebattle]

Originally Posted by captainhorseboy

i wouldnt want to have kids with someone like that

thatd be my only concern

x2 for sure, I would not want litte retards running around... jk

but on a serious note I want my children to be successful and genes like that aint gonna help

[dontdisagree]

loads of morons in this board lulz
to all that diss her, ask yourselves whether you're even worthy of the girl
People who grew up with disabilities tend to go far and succeed in things that really count


Unlike your usual self centered moron who thinks that money and sex are the most important goals in life


She's got a learning disability, but she will still learn but most of you guys are MORONS who will probably never change for the better and learn any better

[Mycophage]

Originally Posted by Grayman

I'm not sure how correct your teacher is. My mum, all respect to her, is to be fair quite stupid. My Dad on the otherhand is an extremely intelligent guy, which I assume is where I got my academic capabilities from. I certainly didn't get that from my mother.

i agree, i'm in the same boat. stupid mom, smart dad. i find it hard to believe my professor, but he was SO spot on about EVERYTHING else in psychology, and such a good teacher, that i honestly can't imagine him being wrong. he gets paid something like $1000 an hour (no joke, he teaches for Kaplan), and honestly, i think he's worth it, he was probably the most informed and intelligent teacher i've ever had. pretty disappointing if he's right, though.