stay at home moms?

[mommyfisc]

we left for the weekend and i just checked this morning online and wow what a response to this thread...... ok how about a vent???? we visited my husbands friend who's girl just had a baby that is two months old! while visiting she had to go shopping for jeans...we went into one of those skinny stores (you moms who are still transforming know what i am talking about...the stores we only go into when we have money and the store is having a clearence sale so that we can buy the "fat" sizes on sale for a fraction of the price since only "skinny girls shop there regularly yup where size 28-32 is always on clearence because nobody who shops there wears that sixe...lol)....and they were having trouble finding a size small enough for her......the smallest they could find was 25....i don't know if that was hip size or what but she was very small probably 80 lbs soaking wet!!! now i am not jelous i just want to know if i was wrong for feeling like a fat cow standing next to a girl who was barley 18 that just gave birth and has a hip radious just inches different than my thigh?? sigh.... sometimes when moments like this happen in my life all i can think about is i wish i was home with my kids in my house instead of here feeling like crap.... lol well i can turn this into newly found motivation...somehow?? but honestly someone here understands what i was feeling right?

[mommyfisc]

Originally Posted by strongforgood

I'm a stay at home mom with 11 and 13 year old kids. It gets easier!

To me, the hardest part of getting back in reasonable shape was allowing my health (physical and mental) to be a priority. As you said, parenting is 24/7, and there are always a million other things you feel you need to do. You have to claim the time, and understand that you will get payback in terms of energy, clarity and longevity.

Best wishes to all of you. It's the most important job in the world.

i love this....... claim the time.... and allowing the physical and mental health to be a priority.....

[Mrs.S]

I have a friend that is a personal trainer she was 180lbs when we younger hanging on south beach and i was 102 wet. Now i have 3 kids and i am in the 170's and she is 132lbs but is a muscle she is my motivator in every way we talk everyday and she keeps me on track. I will be to my goal one day soon. And i never want to fit into a size 0 that is for sure. I have grown to look at my body very diffrently. Things change in life and sometimes you never know who will be teaching you a thing or too about health. Don't feel jealous you are on your own weight loss journey. And i am sure you will find so many woman here that will help you along the way. Have fun with it. Good luck to you

[freebirdmac]

Originally Posted by mommyfisc

we left for the weekend and i just checked this morning online and wow what a response to this thread...... ok how about a vent???? we visited my husbands friend who's girl just had a baby that is two months old! while visiting she had to go shopping for jeans...we went into one of those skinny stores (you moms who are still transforming know what i am talking about...the stores we only go into when we have money and the store is having a clearence sale so that we can buy the "fat" sizes on sale for a fraction of the price since only "skinny girls shop there regularly yup where size 28-32 is always on clearence because nobody who shops there wears that sixe...lol)....and they were having trouble finding a size small enough for her......the smallest they could find was 25....i don't know if that was hip size or what but she was very small probably 80 lbs soaking wet!!! now i am not jelous i just want to know if i was wrong for feeling like a fat cow standing next to a girl who was barley 18 that just gave birth and has a hip radious just inches different than my thigh?? sigh.... sometimes when moments like this happen in my life all i can think about is i wish i was home with my kids in my house instead of here feeling like crap.... lol well i can turn this into newly found motivation...somehow?? but honestly someone here understands what i was feeling right?

I wouldn't worry about it. Your reaction was far more about how you felt about yourself. If that had been the future you, all musclely with an under 20% bf, you wouldn't have had that reaction. It probably would have been the opposite! Feeling bad for her being so underweight with no muscles

[freebirdmac]

Originally Posted by mommyfisc

i love this....... claim the time.... and allowing the physical and mental health to be a priority.....

I found ways to keep my mental health, but my physical shape took the hit. While I didn't get fat, I was not in shape. Jello doesn't have a shape. It wasn't until 6 months ago that I was able to really obligate myself to a 3-day a week exercise program. My daughter by that time was 15. Better late than never

If you can find the time, and be consistent, go for it!

[amysuds]

As a mother of six children, I understand completely how you feel. The ages of the kids goes like this..20, 18, 17, 13, 6, 5. What I have discovered is the more I work out ...the better I handle everything else! You have made great progress...you should be so proud!!! sincerely, Amy

[norinicole]

Originally Posted by amysuds

As a mother of six children, I understand completely how you feel. The ages of the kids goes like this..20, 18, 17, 13, 6, 5. What I have discovered is the more I work out ...the better I handle everything else! You have made great progress...you should be so proud!!! sincerely, Amy

Six children?!?!

You look fabulous!!! Well done.

[Jaysmum]

I stayed home for the first 6 months of my son's life the went back to work for the adult interaction and to have some time out from being at home all the time. It worked out to be the best thing for my family.
It can be hard at times working, attending to a child, household stuff, keeping the marriage alive etc etc and then on top of that trying to keep any sort of fitness going.. but hey I look at it like thousands of other women out there are doing it.
When I have my second child I will stay home longer. I really do think it is important as a SAHM (when I was) to still get out there and socialise otherwise you can feel very isolated.
BTW I commend all you mother's out there that do the 3+ kids thing, man I couldnt do that many kids!! ha ha....

[mommyfisc]

Originally Posted by freebirdmac

I wouldn't worry about it. Your reaction was far more about how you felt about yourself. If that had been the future you, all musclely with an under 20% bf, you wouldn't have had that reaction. It probably would have been the opposite! Feeling bad for her being so underweight with no muscles

thank you! your right

[OVRWTMOM]

Originally Posted by mommyfisc

are there any stay at home moms out there? do you understand working out? eating healthy? taking care of toddlers? cleaning up dog puke? making a home cooked meal for the family? doing house chores? doing daily laundry? potty training? having a smile on your face when your husband walks through the door? the joys of finishing all your house work just to use the bathroom for 3 mins alone and then seeing that during that sort time all the toys have been pulled out of the bedrooms and back into the living room? do you live this life now? are you a wife and mom and stuck at home? i want to connect with you i need friends like you in my life other moms who are working towards body transformation and the endless joys of family life and the reality of marriage and all the things that people forgot to tell you about what it was really going to be like.....

I know what you mean. I only work weekends and it is like everyone takes advantage of my time during the week assuming I have nothing to do. I recently started working out at the gym and even my husband who is very supportive started asking if I was going to be able to get some things done by going to the gym. I told him, it was only an hour of my day. I do this for me. Endless laundry, cleaning, and cooking seems like all I do and then it is Friday night before I have to go to work in the morning and I still feel like I have not gotten everything done. So basically I understand you girl.