Are men afraid of women with muscle?

[rott69]

Originally Posted by a68claret

once said thanks to a young lady as she moved to let me get to the smiths machine that was it thanks and a smile within two minutes her boyfriend and crew were there asking me what the f**k i was doing. I pointed out that in polite society it is the done thing to say thank you and that my daughter is the same age as his girlfriend and i find it disgusting to even think of her like that. It was only with the intervention of gym staff that it didnt come to blows so now i dont even look at a female in the gym unless they are staff or talk to me first

exactly my point.... fawk everyone thinks men are either pedo's or pervs. what kind of crap is that? what's wrong with being friendly? for example, me? I have 25 " stalking " friends, and majority of them, I admit are women. Is it my fault that, they attract my attention? all my intentions are, is to be friends with them. Guess what? none of them have even thought about adding me yet, as I may be percieved as a perv/pedo....


just my 2 cents.... if anybody cares that I'm raving and ranting in corner somewhere.

[cgc]

With out reading all 8 pages of this....

The original question about are men afraid of women with muscle....

Not a chance...I think it's cool to see a woman with muscles....VERY cool....

[Ingersoll]

Originally Posted by Anomaly.

A few weeks ago I had some girl scowl at me for trying to get her attention. I think she thought I was trying to hit on her, but I just wanted to ask her if it was her stuff on the ab crunch machine.

I know exactly what you're talking about. Just yesterday I asked a girl if she was going to use the rope handles that were sitting on the floor by her feet. When I asked her, "Excuse me, are you using those?" she looked at me like I was a back alley mugger. Maybe I surprised her?

Like you, I wasn't trying to pick this chick up, I just needed to do lat-pulldowns. It's almost insulting. This girl is not my type anyway (don't dig chubby chicks); I've always done significantly better.

I don't know what it is about the gym that seems to inspire such off-putting behaviors from so many people. When I'm at a place four and five days a week and I see the same people on just about all of those days, my natural inclination is to smile and at least say hello. But not at the gym. Go figger.

[Ingersoll]

Originally Posted by b631

you guys got it bad

my gym it the fit girls that came over to talk, mostly to give me advise about things i do wrong

as im new to the country i have to ask people to repeat themselves, then they would ask me to repeat my response, usually loosing the plot.

although the same thing happened at home

but to the original question, I find most of the women with muscles most approachable for conversation, any women who is real enough to go strong is usually a real person.

Maybe that's what guys should start doing: fake some foreign accent and act all sheepish and naive.

[MsFitFern]

some people think they are Gods gift and it makes you want to say," don't think so highly of yourself, I don't want to screw you, you aren't my type".

[JackBlair]

Originally Posted by MsFitness

I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I don't think it's intimidation - you said "I am intense... there to workout... no chat..."

Nothing wrong with that, but I think you have successfully sent out the signal that says "LEAVE ME ALONE."

You've sent out that signal, and now you wish someone would say "hi" once in a while. I think the solution is for you to say "hi" to someone now and then (whether male or female). It's a matter of natural human interaction, I believe.

But I'm not criticizing you here. Nothing wrong with not wanting to be social. But if I would LIKE some social interaction now and then, it would seem to me I have to give some now and then...

Sorry to go all Dr Phil here!

[JackBlair]

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Also, it can be weird for guys sometimes, at least for me. I WANT to be nice to people, but when I am nice to a female, i get all weirded out thinking "OMG what if she thinks I'm hitting on her???" Or then if I don't pay attention to a woman, I think "OMG, what if she thinks I am NOT Hitting on her???" Because maybe a woman likes to be hit on every now and then, and if it doesn't happen, maybe she'll feel bad about herself...

CAn't win for losing, I guess. If a guy says "HI," she'll get offended. If he DOESN'T pay any attention, she'll get offended...

But then, I want to be nice to people, esp women, because sometimes women seem afraid in the gym, because of all these guys around, or they don't know much about the weights and things. It's in their own heads mostly - most gentlemen would be more than willing to help a woman (or a man) to figure out something in the gym --- but the whole head trip is insane!

Hahaha I believe I THINK too much...

[rott69]

Originally Posted by MsFitness

some people think they are Gods gift and it makes you want to say," don't think so highly of yourself, I don't want to screw you, you aren't my type".

Really? oh gosh!! I thought I was..... gotta work on those damn bi's and tri's then huh? j/j!!!

[k1lr0y]

I think it's the guys in your specific gym. how they view & interact with others. while I'm at the gym to work, I am responsive to others (not long winded) & upon occasion initiate a pleasantry to both genders because that's how I am. I won't go out of my way to say "Hello" but I'm not not anti-social by any means.

Originally Posted by MsFitness

some people think they are Gods gift and it makes you want to say," don't think so highly of yourself, I don't want to screw you, you aren't my type".

I see this from both genders, though.

[Delaware_Dad]

Holy crap this topic is getting really deep in here.. It's like Jerry Springer meets Dr. Phil with a little Oprah thrown in...

My .02 on the origional topic..

- Fit / women with muscle = hot (not just the physical part.. it also takes a ton of commitment - dedication)

- Huge women = Not so much.. ie Laura Creavalle probably a great person but just doesn't do it for me.

For me, as far as talking to people (men and women) it's all about their body language. Headphones on, no direct eye contact what so ever and I'll pass right by.. BUT After a while of going 3,4 or 5 times a week, eventually you will talk to everyone once or twice. Even if it's just a quick "Hi" It's hard not to... unless they are completely anti-social.

[rott69]

Originally Posted by Delaware_Dad

Holy crap this topic is getting really deep in here.. It's like Jerry Springer meets Dr. Phil with a little Oprah thrown in...

My .02 on the origional topic..

- Fit / women with muscle = hot (not just the physical part.. it also takes a ton of commitment - dedication)

- Huge women = Not so much.. ie Laura Creavalle probably a great person but just doesn't do it for me.

For me, as far as talking to people (men and women) it's all about their body language. Headphones on, no direct eye contact what so ever and I'll pass right by.. BUT After a while of going 3,4 or 5 times a week, eventually you will talk to everyone once or twice. Even if it's just a quick "Hi" It's hard not to... unless they are completely anti-social.

X 1,000,000,000.......

[doofusdave]

Well, it's pretty much all been said already, but fwiw, I go to the gym to workout, not socialize. I don't ignore people (male or female) if I get a nod or a "hello," I'll return it, but I don't go out of my way to greet everyone I happen to see at the gym every day either.

As far as being intimidated by a muscled female, heck no. I have a deep respect for everyone who commits to the will of the iron, and a little more so when I see a female who is clearly giving her all in the gym.

[ironman_gee83]

Nod heads but nothing too much till i get my workout done. Plus, everyones got a busy schedule and trying hard to make time for their workouts so its better to go through wit ur workout and convert the gym into a pub.

Dont take it personal, MsFitness. Its just the best way of doing things. But smiles and hello nodes are ok in my books.

[Capt. America]

Hell no...I love a woman with muscles...as long as they ain't bigger than mine!

[ssouthbeach14]

Originally Posted by MsFitness

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

no.. im not afraid at all.. i would say that i perfer a girl with muscle.. they are just few and far between where i live...

[BoiseLifer]

Do you say hi to them? =)

Originally Posted by MsFitness

I am not asking to marry them, just say hi dammit........dont treat me like I am carrying the bubonic plague

[Inthegrass]

Originally Posted by rott69

exactly my point.... fawk everyone thinks men are either pedo's or pervs. what kind of crap is that? what's wrong with being friendly? for example, me? I have 25 " stalking " friends, and majority of them, I admit are women. Is it my fault that, they attract my attention? all my intentions are, is to be friends with them. Guess what? none of them have even thought about adding me yet, as I may be percieved as a perv/pedo....


just my 2 cents.... if anybody cares that I'm raving and ranting in corner somewhere.

I can remember when my kids were very young and I use to take them places like the park so that they would get a chance to play with other kids their age (2-5 years approx).
So here we are at the park and there might be four or five mothers there with their kids and me with mine. I swear if they could have built a brick wall between me and them they would have. It's like I was lepper.
Fortunately I always loved playing with my kids more than talking so I spent a lot of time on the jungle gym.

Jeff

P.S. Oh and I love women with muscle! Very sexy!!

[IdahoViking]

I would not recomend sneaking up behind them and yelling "BLEAH" in their ear as an ice-breaker; especially if they are lifting heavy at the time.

[Yawdman]

It could be the look on your face that guys don't find approachable. I don't think they're intimidated, but they really don't know what to expect. They think that if they attempt to interact and it goes wrong, it could turn into a "scene". Last thing any guy wants is to be embarrassed by a hot woman in a gym and having the gym staff ask you to leave. Even though you don't intend it, the look on your face might be saying "leave me alone or you'll be sorry".

I almost didn't approach my wife because of that, she didn't look very approachable, but I said what the hey, and now we're married. Most people don't say hi to me because my face just looks grumpy when I don't smile...oh well.

You might have to say hi or try softening your expression to turn things around.

[farsscf]

I have not read this whole thread but I am surprised it is still going. I personally think you look great but mostly all you hear, esp from women, is "why will guys not leave me alone in the gym?" Come work out at my gym and I will pay you attention if you want. I also feel most people are "in the zone" in the gym and want to be left alone. Maybe people are respecting you by not talking to you? You obviously take it serious, it shows.

[vnmama]

Thanks for posting this. When I first started going to the gym about 3 years ago, I thought there must be some kind of "gym culture" I was not aware of, because no one would say hi to me or even make eye contact. It was actually quite upsetting at first.

I always smile and say hi if someone will look at me, but it doesn't happen very often, men or women.

[Bulldog92]

Sometimes guys are intimidated by attractive women. Some might be looking for a chance to say hello, but if you are like me with ipod earphones in and a look of pain on your face for the better part of the workout (bodylanguage) they might not say hi. I always make it a point to say hi the the regulars at my gym guys and girls. Of course...those guys might just be stupid.

[wheymaster02]

Good morning Fern, although several people have made personal preferences on insecurities and the fact that they go to the gym to work out and not socialize, I am certain that it is a matter of preference. Everyone is on their own level, some can communicate some can't, some men are insecure, as are some women, but, everyone is approachable if we can find or are willing to find the way to approach each other on an individual level. I am focused in the gym and let me tell you this gym is packed. I spend a lot of time planning my route to the next piece of equipment, with a lot of people in the way. I have to speak to them. Out of every 10 people I talk to, there may be one American. So my advice to you is this. You know how you growl at yourself in the mirror, ha ha, go ahead and growl at them in that manor and see what the response is. You take care you beautiful mother of 4 and let me know how the growling goes.

With many respects,

Brent

[rott69]

here's a better one...

are Asians racists, bigots, illiterates, and judgemental? read on....



http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...#post118698031

[MsFitFern]

All I was saying is to perhaps say a casual "hello" in passing. A friggin head nod. I workout with 2 feet of some of these people 5 days a week and they can't even look up when we pass in the 'hallway".....thats kind of 5th grade, isn't it? And the dirty looks from women and their girlfriends gotta go.......

[pauljw]

I agree Fern. It's called "common courtesy". When you are in the gym that often you would think they would, as you say nod or just say "hi". We have the same in our gym. Some people will almost run the other way when you try to interact with them. I try a couple of times whether they are male or female and you learn quickly who's friendly and who's not.

[mchenrycruiser]

Originally Posted by MsFitness

All I was saying is to perhaps say a casual "hello" in passing. A friggin head nod. I workout with 2 feet of some of these people 5 days a week and they can't even look up when we pass in the 'hallway".....thats kind of 5th grade, isn't it? And the dirty looks from women and their girlfriends gotta go.......

i dont think you are grasping this.......these guys in the gym....they could say the EXACT same thing about you.....YOUR not nodding at them either.....I think your of the opinion that a guy has to make the first move.......well I might be of the opinion the women shouldnt be muscular......youve broken one steriotype.....now break another one and YOU say hello...I mean ,youve been told this already and yet you still wine about nobody talking to you.....ummmm how bout YOU talk to them?are you shy?do you think your some sort of princess that should be placed on a pedestal?i dont get it....why caqnt you open your freakin mouth and utter the word hi?

[OnTheRoad]

Originally Posted by MsFitness

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I could have written this!!! so I read the thread and thought maybe some of the fault could lie with me and my ipod and the "f$#@k off" face I have on.

Today I went to the gym and

-made eye contact with a regular, received smile, nod and wink back
-started a conversation with another female, received a great tip back
-acknowledged another regular with a smile and received one back

Finished a awesome workout and got into my car with a big smile on my face. I know now what I was giving out...........I was getting in return.

I now just hope no one chats to me...I am not that socialable..lol

[Donnie T]

I'm the opposite of intimidated, I'm attracted. I love a muscular, fit woman.

But from my perspective, as the t-shirt says "I'm not here to talk." I wear my headphones and don't talk to ANYONE. The most I'll do is give a head nod to another regular.

When I see a fit woman getting into her workout, I wouldn't bother her out of courtesy, not because I'm intimidated. She's there to work out hard, the same as I am, and I don't want to be bothered, so why would I bother her?

Just my $.02.

[rott69]

Originally Posted by OnTheRoad

I could have written this!!! so I read the thread and thought maybe some of the fault could lie with me and my ipod and the "f$#@k off" face I have on.

Today I went to the gym and

-made eye contact with a regular, received smile, nod and wink back
-started a conversation with another female, received a great tip back
-acknowledged another regular with a smile and received one back

Finished a awesome workout and got into my car with a big smile on my face. I know now what I was giving out...........I was getting in return.

I now just hope no one chats to me...I am not that socialable..lol

see what a little initiative gets 'ya....!! Nice, I wouldn't mind being acknowledged once in awhile, especially from hot, muscular women such as yourself....