Girl has a 10 month old baby, should I pursue?

[Allen Iverson]

I used to really like this one girl about 2 years ago.

She turned me down for no apparent reason(dumped me after 1 month)... She used to say that I was not "mature" enough, and that I just spent too much time working on my car and going to the gym.

Fast forward 2 years (present time) I now have a stable "self runned" business, having a small gallery of used cars in the city and doing some financing/real estate brokerage work.

Now, she has a 10 month old baby(boy)... She does almost nothing now except go home and work 9-5 barely minimum wage about 350-380$ monthly.

She can now barely afford her own food/shelter/diapers/milk, so she stays about 2 hours away from work with her parents... (she's 22 as well)

I kind of feel bad for her now... Thinking to myself that that kid could have been mine if she didnt dump me. But now im glad she did.

She's very pretty though.

I'm kind of 50-50 on this thing because I really want to **** her still because she is hot, on the other hand... I don't want to get trapped with a baby on the way or something.

Sound advice welcome please! Thank you misc.

I will try to rep the best advices.

[dabbmw2002]

I think your better off walking through a minefield then messing with that. (serious)

[Leenad]

Stay away

[*beast*]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

I used to really like this one girl about 2 years ago.

She turned me down for no apparent reason(dumped me after 1 month)... She used to say that I was not "mature" enough, and that I just spent too much time working on my car and going to the gym.

Fast forward 2 years (present time) I now have a stable "self runned" business, having a small gallery of used cars in the city and doing some financing/real estate brokerage work.

Now, she has a 10 month old baby(boy)... She does almost nothing now except go home and work 9-5 barely minimum wage about 350-380$ monthly.

She can now barely afford her own food/shelter/diapers/milk, so she stays about 2 hours away from work with her parents... (she's 22 as well)

I kind of feel bad for her now... Thinking to myself that that kid could have been mine if she didnt dump me. But now im glad she did.

She's very pretty though.

I'm kind of 50-50 on this thing because I really want to **** her still because she is hot, on the other hand... I don't want to get trapped with a baby on the way or something.

Sound advice welcome please! Thank you misc.

I will try to rep the best advices.

get rid of the baby then **** her!

[NeloAngelo]

1. Every post of your's mentions that you have some kind of "Self-made business".
2. It is obvious you did not start that business through hard work and intelligence if you are contemplating whether to help a woman who turned you down and who now is crawling back to you with a child that isn't your's.

[Allen Iverson]

I have been picking her up after work and we've been going out for a couple of days.

She seems to really like me now. How should I go about ending our "dating" with each other without hurting her feelings?

Is there even a good way to do this or end this?

[dabbmw2002]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

I have been picking her up after work and we've been going out for a couple of days.

She seems really desperate now that she has a 10 month old kid and was abandoned by the father. How should I go about ending our "dating" with each other without hurting her feelings?

Is there even a good way to do this or end this?

fixed

[braincrusher]

put teh baby in a blender, then the girl is yours!

[cupra16]

noo

[NeloAngelo]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

I have been picking her up after work and we've been going out for a couple of days.

She seems to really like me now. How should I go about ending our "dating" with each other without hurting her feelings?

Is there even a good way to do this or end this?

lmao give me a break. Do you really have a business? A guy with your sense would go broke in a week, and I am not being an ass.

A woman with a newborn kid has been hanging around you, a person who claims to be self-made business owner?

Get a clue before you lose half your **** supporting someone else's fun night.

[namtaB]

Do you know what male lions do when they take over a pride? The very first thing they do is kill all the cubs in one massive slaughter. This insures that any offspring of the previous male is wiped out and allows any newborns to carry only his genes.

This girl's got a kid, telling you that your hobbies are a waste of time, can't make ends meet financially, turned you down once in the past and you still want to date her? Does her hotness really make up for all this baggage or do you want to be with out of sympathy?

If its the former then fuk her and run with no commitment. If its the later its best you get a grip b/c you are relying on emotion to make a decision which may have ramifications on your life down the road. Choose wisely.

[Yes_a_Guy]

She didnt want you before cause shes a bitch.

Now that you have money she wants you and she wants you to pay for her kid

Dont be a fool.

[Allen Iverson]

Originally Posted by NeloAngelo

1. Every post of your's mentions that you have some kind of "Self-made business".
2. It is obvious you did not start that business through hard work and intelligence if you are contemplating whether to help a woman who turned you down and who now is crawling back to you with a child that isn't your's.

I did start the business, but with a capital that borrowed from my parents.

That point aside, I know I am not that intelligent, but I am pretty diligent and hardworking.

I realize you are saying that I should not help her. Is there even a good way to make her feel even worse for turning me down?

Should I just "never talk to her again" and ignore her txt messages and calls?

[aenz1879]

It's all up to you but baby momma drama will catch regardless. She isn't prolly looking for a booty call anyway so good luck.

[NeloAngelo]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

I did start the business, but with a capital that borrowed from my parents.

That point aside, I know I am not that intelligent, but I am pretty diligent and hardworking.

I realize you are saying that I should not help her. Is there even a good way to make her feel even worse for turning me down?

Should I just "never talk to her again" and ignore her txt messages and calls?

What are you talking about? At first I thought you were trying to just be a good guy and help her out, now you are trying to "make her feel worse for turning you down"? The best revenge is success. You should never have even looked at her again. She sees you for your money now, and if you don't believe that you're nuts.

[Allen Iverson]

Originally Posted by NeloAngelo

lmao give me a break. Do you really have a business? A guy with your sense would go broke in a week, and I am not being an ass.

A woman with a newborn kid has been hanging around you, a person who claims to be self-made business owner?

Get a clue before you lose half your **** supporting someone else's fun night.

Although it is kind or related, I do have business sense, and I am pretty good and making decisions in "money making" and holding on to money/investing.

I was raised in a business environment, and I always ask opinions from my parents because they seem to be very good at this. But not in the environment of being social, especially with women... I am not a very social person, hence the reason I spend most of the time here in the internet/at the misc.

I realize that she could, or probably is trying to milk me for what i'm worth. That's why I posted here to get opinion from you guys. Opinions are always good and opinions are free.

I am not lying about having a business at the age 22, I could take pictures or even proof if you reall want.

You honestly give alot of good points. Reps.

[BJplayer]

Where is the baby daddy? Does he plan to have a part in the child's life? She seemed to think he was mature enough to date, while you were some jackass that she couldnt be bothered with. Now that she id the one who has shown not be mature enough to be engaged in a relationship without getting knocked up by some loser, all of the sudden you are mature enough for her? I would be her friend, but nothing more. She has shown her true colors to you already. What more evidence do you need sir?

[notorius1]

Just **** her and make sure you wear a rubber. She'll do you without much hesitation because shes effin poor so she needs some money dick

[notorius1]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

Although it is kind or related, I do have business sense, and I am pretty good and making decisions in "money making" and holding on to money/investing.

I was raised in a business environment, and I always ask opinions from my parents because they seem to be very good at this. But not in the environment of being social, especially with women... I am not a very social person, hence the reason I spend most of the time here in the internet/at the misc.

I realize that she could, or probably is trying to milk me for what i'm worth. That's why I posted here to get opinion from you guys. Opinions are always good and opinions are free.

I am not lying about having a business at the age 22, I could take pictures or even proof if you reall want.

You honestly give alot of good points. Reps.

Just use her b4 she uses you.

[Allen Iverson]

Originally Posted by NeloAngelo

What are you talking about? At first I thought you were trying to just be a good guy and help her out, now you are trying to "make her feel worse for turning you down"? The best revenge is success. You should never have even looked at her again. She sees you for your money now, and if you don't believe that you're nuts.

So success is the best revenge I see.

I guess maybe I am just really bitter about the past.



I realize she sees me for my money now...

I know this is a dumb ass question, but what exactly would you do in this exact situation?

Would you just suddenly stop seeing her?

Should I flaunt on something right before dumping her?

Is it even bad I want revenge?

I was practically a teen 2 years ago, clueless and she dumped me.

This is a ****ing rant I guess, but im not even entirely sure!

I still like her! But I also want to make her feel bad.

I know she is trying to milk me though... Damn... ****

[Allen Iverson]

Reps owed to those I couldnt rep.

[dabbmw2002]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

So success is the best revenge I see.

I guess maybe I am just really bitter about the past.



I realize she sees me for my money now...

I know this is a dumb ass question, but what exactly would you do in this exact situation?

Would you just suddenly stop seeing her?

Should I flaunt on something right before dumping her?

Is it even bad I want revenge?

I was practically a teen 2 years ago, clueless and she dumped me.

This is a ****ing rant I guess, but im not even entirely sure!

I still like her! But I also want to make her feel bad.

I know she is trying to milk me though... Damn... ****

Seriously, tell her that you think she needs to worry about raising her kid and that she would be better off without the distraction of having a boyfriend. Which, is actually pretty true.

[NeloAngelo]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

So success is the best revenge I see.

I guess maybe I am just really bitter about the past.



I realize she sees me for my money now...

I know this is a dumb ass question, but what exactly would you do in this exact situation?

Would you just suddenly stop seeing her?

Should I flaunt on something right before dumping her?

Is it even bad I want revenge?

I was practically a teen 2 years ago, clueless and she dumped me.

This is a ****ing rant I guess, but im not even entirely sure!

I still like her! But I also want to make her feel bad.

I know she is trying to milk me though... Damn... ****

Honestly, I wouldn't have gotten involved in the first place. Mistake made, learn from it.

Now, THIS IS WHAT I THINK I WOULD DO. Given that she is in a bad way and I am already involved, I would probably try to give her a little capital to get through the week and see if I can't help her find work. If she doesn't want to work, I'd forget about it right then and there. Then I would explain to her that I have to be leaving and that I wish her the best and will try to help her out a bit, like previously described.

Other than that you need to be on the ball a little more when something like this happens.

[wesleybarrasso]

I wouldn't she is just trying to find someone to pay her bills etc.

[Dirty Joe]

Originally Posted by BJplayer

Where is the baby daddy? Does he plan to have a part in the child's life? She seemed to think he was mature enough to date, while you were some jackass that she couldnt be bothered with. Now that she is the one who has shown not be mature enough to be engaged in a relationship without getting knocked up by some loser, all of the sudden you are mature enough for her? I would be her friend, but nothing more. She has shown her true colors to you already. What more evidence do you need sir?

Best advice you got so far. As far as how to let her down, I would take the same route that she took with you without being an ass.

[Allen Iverson]

Originally Posted by Dirty Joe

Best advice you got so far. As far as how to let her down, I would take the same route that she took with you without being an ass.

What? Tell her I don't think she's mature enough?

Yeah, thats exactly what I need, just a taste of her own medicine.

[stealth_swimmer]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

I have been picking her up after work and we've been going out for a couple of days.

She seems to really like me now. How should I go about ending our "dating" with each other without hurting her feelings?

Is there even a good way to do this or end this?

That's cus you got your own business now. Seriously dude, she sounds like a gold-digger.

[bdiesel]

you don't find it odd she is into you now? you probably have a decent job and can support her and her kid from some scumbag she should have never ****ed in the first place. steer clear. she's just looking for a guy to play daddy.

[RedSoxfan1978]

Originally Posted by NeloAngelo

lmao give me a break. Do you really have a business? A guy with your sense would go broke in a week, and I am not being an ass.

A woman with a newborn kid has been hanging around you, a person who claims to be self-made business owner?

Get a clue before you lose half your **** supporting someone else's fun night.

X1000

[BJplayer]

Originally Posted by Allen Iverson

What? Tell her I don't think she's mature enough?

Yeah, thats exactly what I need, just a taste of her own medicine.

Well, obviously she is immature. She engaged in unprotected sex with some dude of questionable character who is no where to be found now that she is pregnant. If she isnt mature enough to keep from getting pregnant with some random dude, then she certainly isnt the type of person who is mature enough to date. She cant even afford to take care of herself, and yet she is mature enough to bring a child into this world? And chose this loser to sleep with? Its pretty obvious that she is very immature and NOT the type person to get involved with on any level. Seriously...