Dem feels when you're reading it before the breakup as you know it's forth coming. Hold me brahs
I know this is going to feel like I'm destroyed
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Dem feels when you're reading it before the breakup as you know it's forth coming. Hold me brahs
I know this is going to feel like I'm destroyed
Good points to hit. Going through this crud myself. Gotta feel to heal, but don't let the feelings sink ya. Last night was my toughest - I told her we couldn't be friends, either. I wanted to go on masturbation marathon, but slept instead.
[QUOTE=MikeOsu;1446521153]Good points to hit. Going through this crud myself. Gotta feel to heal, but don't let the feelings sink ya. Last night was my toughest - I told her we couldn't be friends, either. I wanted to go on masturbation marathon, but slept instead.[/QUOTE]
Sorry have been away for a bit but am back and around. Honestly it gets to a point where you feel that you will never get over it and you will always be thinking about it, but believe me, may take some time, feelings fade and you start to feel 'normal' again.
Not to take away from the amazing support and advice from this thread, but has anyone ever gotten back with an ex and it actually worked out? And in what scenarios do you think this is possible?
Maybe I'm clinging on to hope still, I don't know.
[QUOTE=anyonghaseyo;1446585243]Not to take away from the amazing support and advice from this thread, but has anyone ever gotten back with an ex and it actually worked out? And in what scenarios do you think this is possible?
Maybe I'm clinging on to hope still, I don't know.[/QUOTE]
i did, twice (with different exes) and it never worked, things only got worse. one advice: Do not.
[QUOTE=anyonghaseyo;1446585243]Not to take away from the amazing support and advice from this thread, but has anyone ever gotten back with an ex and it actually worked out? And in what scenarios do you think this is possible?
Maybe I'm clinging on to hope still, I don't know.[/QUOTE]
Dangerous mindset you have here, you are binding yourself to her through hope. Had gotten back with 2 ex's before making this post a few years ago and both failed miserably. Was part of the inspiration of making the post in the first place.
[QUOTE=_Roidz_;1446621093]Dangerous mindset you have here, you are binding yourself to her through hope. Had gotten back with 2 ex's before making this post a few years ago and both failed miserably. Was part of the inspiration of making the post in the first place.[/QUOTE]
idk man not trying to give anyone hope or anything because every situation is different, but chick i dated years back broke up and got together with her ex like twice before me. i was the third time and after me she went back to him and now they're married. think in total they've been together 10 years now, with a year of that married
i definitely agree with you though...for me, once its over, its over. you let your weakness control you by going back
[QUOTE=anyonghaseyo;1446585243]Not to take away from the amazing support and advice from this thread, but has anyone ever gotten back with an ex and it actually worked out? And in what scenarios do you think this is possible?
Maybe I'm clinging on to hope still, I don't know.[/QUOTE]
I have, even with the "love you but not in love" excuse. Got a call 9 months later. Ex said she was thinking about me, wanted to say hi. I straight up told her, her excuse was ****, she cried over the phone, apologized and spilled the beans on everything that happened during that time frame. Thing is, I was already over her by then and already banging a few hot chicks while casually dating another. Hung out with ex a couple times, banged her and dropped her cold turkey.
Sadly, I got the EXACT same line again as of 1 month and a half ago. I really invested so much feelings/time/energy/money and still getting over this recent girl. I feel that this one probably wont be back though. All but one of my past ex's came back eventually. Gym 5 days a week has pretty much been my therapy, hope I make it brahs.
[QUOTE=ghoulunatic;1446684833]I have, even with the "love you but not in love" excuse. Got a call 9 months later. Ex said she was thinking about me, wanted to say hi. I straight up told her, her excuse was ****, she cried over the phone, apologized and spilled the beans on everything that happened during that time frame. Thing is, I was already over her by then and already banging a few hot chicks while casually dating another. Hung out with ex a couple times, banged her and dropped her cold turkey.
Sadly, I got the EXACT same line again as of 1 month and a half ago. I really invested so much feelings/time/energy/money and still getting over this recent girl. I feel that this one probably wont be back though. All but one of my past ex's came back eventually. Gym 5 days a week has pretty much been my therapy, hope I make it brahs.[/QUOTE]
You most definitely will make it.
Hey guys, i havent posted on this forum for over a year now but ive had something to do with my relationship that I need to vent about/seek advice on.
So prior to uni/college ive always been extremely sheltered, never went out, kissless virgin, no drugs, barely drank etc. Fast forward 2 years, and im studying in uni overseas.After quite alot of growing up socially/physically, and a few random hookups (nothing sexual) I land myself my first girlfriend. Now this chick was pretty hot imo, 7/10 misc standards, and had plenty of experience with guys prior. Being the cringe person which i used to be, I got extremely whipped real quick and after a 1 month honeymoon period it was over all too soon. Having been so long since this breakup, shes with some other guy now (almost a year) and we are now back to being friends, and im geniunely happy for her relationship.
immediately after her breaking up with me though, i felt absolutely horrible, i cried for days, called depression hotlines, etc. I craved the feeling of being in a relationship again, of being loved. Soon after, i met a girl through some mutual friends, and after not long of flirting on text, we were going out. First few months went great, both of us were heads over heels for one another. A bit further down the line though, I began to have second thoughts of her here and then, but usually these would pass away after a week or two, and I never showed this side of myself to her. To this very day, every person, her, her friends, my friends, think that we are a perfectly happy couple.
For about a month or 2 now though, Ive realised that the two of us are far too different to be able to last. She studies primary education, and loves kids, old people, etc. She is one of the kindest people i have seen, sometimes to the point where other people use her. On the other hand, Im dedicated to my future, my academic/gym goals and am i far more rational, rather than emphatic thinker. She has a great relationship with her parents, unlike myself. To top it all off, we have different humor, interests, etc. In addition, i dont mean to sound like a c0ck, but just aesthetics wise, i think i can do alot better than her- shes a bit chubby, and i workout regularly. How good i actually is obviously subjective but this is just the overwhelming opinion of myself- and im sure many females would agree. Even though she loves me dearly, i just dont find myself attracted to her anymore.
Lastly, ive found myself being attracted to a coworker at a retail job which ive started recently. Its difficult to tell as she is really talkaltive, but i find her teasing/touching me gently me alot, etc. I feel like i may have f*ked up when i mentioned i have a girlfirend, but i do reciprocate her teasing etc by mocking her gently, making conversation, etc.
Yeah so what should I do? Should i break up, when, and if i do, how should i approach it with this new girl? plz respond
tl;dr
-OP used to be sheltered before uni
-Grows up in uni, meets girl and then dumped after 2 months, heart broken
-Craves gf feeling, finds another girl shortly after
-After honeymoon period, i realise we are not compatible, and also im not physically attracted to her anymore
-New girl is also in the mix
- wot do
Thanks guys, really appreciate it.
Well guys i've begun a ''new relationship'' with my ex twice.Both times it was very hard keeping it normal and out of fighting.Things got even worse when my parents showed up in the whole thing an started to break this relationship down,leading to more fighting and feeling down.The strange thing in my case is that me and my girlfriend (my ex now),were together through all this stuff even though we fought very often,but we were together,now on the other side,when things started finally to get better my ex started to want "breaks" and stuff like that leading to her wanting to break up with me.That was a great deal of pain as I thought it was most unlikely for her to want, especially when the whole situation was better.This breakup was very painful and now I've begun going to the gym 5 days for 3hour-workouts,and I just want to Lift,eat and sleep,I'm feeling completely under the weather on a daily.
Great stuff man. I just went through a horrible break up and this is something I'm going read daily to help with the pain. Thank you for posting this
Hello poor souls,
I'm new here. 4 months ago I went through a horrible breakup. 5 years of my life vanished in a couple of days. This was after I bought the ring. There was another man, who was fit, nice looking and had a good sense of humour. Ideal man I would say.
I've realised that during the period of 5 years I became boring, skinny, angry and so on. When we got into our relationship I was taking up Muay thay, working out, had interests and friends. As time moved on, I went head down into everyday routine to earn money and **** like that. Forgot about my body, my hobbies and eventually seemed boring for my now EX gf.
This expierence opened my eyes.
When I came into her life and took her away from another guy who was busy. She wasn't happy. Now some time has passed and this happened to me. Circle closes.
My situation today is pretty sad. Almost no friends and friends who I still have contact with, are pretty busy with their lives. I also have extreme anxiety and depression, I feel broken.
How can I leave this situation ?
* Kill myself ( Yes I have this as a choice, but anyway we will die anyway someday, so theres no point )
* Lie in my bed and watch the ceiling, rolling the tape back and forth about where I went wrong ( this will get me nowhere )
* Ask for peoples attention and tell everybody my story about how sad I am ( **** that, I don't need anyone to feel sorry for my ass, also this will get me nowhere )
* Google **** like how to get your ex GF back and check compatibilities of us using some astrology sites ( It was interesting for sometime, but I see that it also won't take me nowhere )
My steps forward:
* Get up of the ****ing bed and shave my face
* Start working out ( yes I feel sad that for so much time I let my body down, my biggest treasure that walks step in step with my mind everyday )
* Accept the fact that I'm single and I can't depend too much on other people ( I don't want to have sex, because after the breakup I've tried to rebound and I allmost killed myself afterwards, so I need to learn to love myself now, before I start feeling something for somebody )
* Stop with those god damned cancer sticks ( I really want to, but probably I'm so low on dopamine my body craves for cigs )
* Start to eat regularly and healthy ( sometimes I manage to do it )
My fears:
* I feel really weak, I'm afraid if I start up too hard I might end up with a stroke or smth.
* Peoples reaction when grey skeleton enters a gym and starts jerking those machines
* Relapse
* Staying alone ( this I think is just my consciousness playing tricks on me )
Yeah, so hello everybody, as time goes on and I have results to show I'll probably open up a new topic and tell how I'm coping and doing with my life.
[QUOTE=Povilas929;1455699213]Hello poor souls,
I'm new here. 4 months ago I went through a horrible breakup. 5 years of my life vanished in a couple of days. This was after I bought the ring. There was another man, who was fit, nice looking and had a good sense of humour. Ideal man I would say.
I've realised that during the period of 5 years I became boring, skinny, angry and so on. When we got into our relationship I was taking up Muay thay, working out, had interests and friends. As time moved on, I went head down into everyday routine to earn money and **** like that. Forgot about my body, my hobbies and eventually seemed boring for my now EX gf.
This expierence opened my eyes.
When I came into her life and took her away from another guy who was busy. She wasn't happy. Now some time has passed and this happened to me. Circle closes.
My situation today is pretty sad. Almost no friends and friends who I still have contact with, are pretty busy with their lives. I also have extreme anxiety and depression, I feel broken.
How can I leave this situation ?
* Kill myself ( Yes I have this as a choice, but anyway we will die anyway someday, so theres no point )
* Lie in my bed and watch the ceiling, rolling the tape back and forth about where I went wrong ( this will get me nowhere )
* Ask for peoples attention and tell everybody my story about how sad I am ( **** that, I don't need anyone to feel sorry for my ass, also this will get me nowhere )
* Google **** like how to get your ex GF back and check compatibilities of us using some astrology sites ( It was interesting for sometime, but I see that it also won't take me nowhere )
My steps forward:
* Get up of the ****ing bed and shave my face
* Start working out ( yes I feel sad that for so much time I let my body down, my biggest treasure that walks step in step with my mind everyday )
* Accept the fact that I'm single and I can't depend too much on other people ( I don't want to have sex, because after the breakup I've tried to rebound and I allmost killed myself afterwards, so I need to learn to love myself now, before I start feeling something for somebody )
* Stop with those god damned cancer sticks ( I really want to, but probably I'm so low on dopamine my body craves for cigs )
* Start to eat regularly and healthy ( sometimes I manage to do it )
My fears:
* I feel really weak, I'm afraid if I start up too hard I might end up with a stroke or smth.
* Peoples reaction when grey skeleton enters a gym and starts jerking those machines
* Relapse
* Staying alone ( this I think is just my consciousness playing tricks on me )
Yeah, so hello everybody, as time goes on and I have results to show I'll probably open up a new topic and tell how I'm coping and doing with my life.[/QUOTE]
My man what's good.To begin with don't bother yourself thinking of negative ways to deal with the situation (ie kill yourself,lay on your bed etc..).Go positive-mode.You know what? Thoughts are just like people,let me explain myself.In your life you hafe people around you,some good some bad,because you let them be near you,you let them get in your life and take a place in it..Same thing whith thoughts,you think that you should smoke cigs and lay on your bed crying and thinking just because you let those thoughts come in and have a seat.So what you need to do is to be alert,everytime a negative thought knocks on the door of your mind,keep the dang door shut and don't let that stuff in man.
Then you should start setting goals.You are like X years old and live there and so on,think of who you really are now and plan how you would like to see yourself in Y years..Once you do that start working on that plan toward your goal.When I broke up whith my now exGF,I was depressed but I said ''Hey,I want to compete in IFBB'' so no matter my hurt feelings I led myself towards a goal I wanted to achieve.
Moreover the say ''Every obstacle is set for a good reason'' so if you were still together with your now ex you might had bigger issues in the long run..
so,conclunding I just want to remind you to stay positive and start setting goals,meeting new people and point yourself towards something you really want..Good luck my friend.
Thanks man, I will use your advice ! stay safe
Ended a 4 year relationship on Sunday.
I was okay that night and yesterday, but it's hitting me hard today. Seeing my house half empty is rough. I had tons of red flags in my relationship, and I know it's for the best but I really loved that girl. I was going to marry her despite our differences. I'm pretty sure she's moved all of her things out already. It's an empty feeling for sure.
I don't have the urge to contact her and have never spoken to an ex before. My last relationship made me much sadder, but this one is worse on a different level since I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
I see many places in which I went wrong and tried to learn from it, but it never worked out. I'm not one of those guys afraid to be single, and honestly I'm a good looking successful man. There's tons of women I could "be" with. At 28, I'm getting a little jaded with relationships. I want a family, I want stability and I want someone to share my life with.
Anyone else break up after being engaged?
[QUOTE=kenfowler;1455731473]Ended a 4 year relationship on Sunday.
I was okay that night and yesterday, but it's hitting me hard today. Seeing my house half empty is rough. I had tons of red flags in my relationship, and I know it's for the best but I really loved that girl. I was going to marry her despite our differences. I'm pretty sure she's moved all of her things out already. It's an empty feeling for sure.
I don't have the urge to contact her and have never spoken to an ex before. My last relationship made me much sadder, but this one is worse on a different level since I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
I see many places in which I went wrong and tried to learn from it, but it never worked out. I'm not one of those guys afraid to be single, and honestly I'm a good looking successful man. There's tons of women I could "be" with. At 28, I'm getting a little jaded with relationships. I want a family, I want stability and I want someone to share my life with.
Anyone else break up after being engaged?[/QUOTE]
Hey man, seems our situation is pretty similar. I'm 30 and our 9 year relationship ended 5 days ago. I feel like I'm on another planet right now. First 2 days I was sooking like a baby but I hit the gym the last 2 days, I haven't lifted like this in years. Felt like I got my balls back.
Im in a half empty house too and I ignored the red flags coz I didnt want to face the truth. I knew she was going to do it and it made me depressed and angry all the time. However I know im only partly at fault for the ****ed up result of our relationship. My girl was a nightmare, stubborn and extremely cold. All her personal attacks took a toll and it eventually broke my spirit. Over the last 5 years or so I slowly became a broken person, slept 5 hours a night, lost any ambition and became very depressed knowing I couldn't change her to the one I wanted to marry. I was ****ting myself about being alone too.
Maybe it would help you to think about the EX's negative traits rather then the future you think you've lost. Im struggling with that myself coz Ive bought 2 ****ing rings! (but never actually asked her). My mates however have helped me realise I would've been depressed forever if I stayed with a selfish ball breaker like her.
You say you had some differences with your girl? Unless they were very petty then theres no way in hell asking her to marry you was a great idea. Thats why I never did it, deep down I knew something was off. Really tough for me though coz she was my only serious GF and after 9 years I had no idea if I was in the right or wrong coz I didnt know if all girls were just as nuts as mine. Im almost certain I could never pull a girl this good looking ever again, based on my fading looks and her increasing looks but I know I've got a good heart and I'm a better person so her time will come where so realises she ****ed up. Hopefully Ill be completely moved on by then and ill have enough self respect to tell her to **** right off.
Hang in there buddy, you're not the only one.
Cheers.
well ... my relationship is gonna go down the rivers ...
gf of 5 years (7 total, from dating to official status) dropped the bomb the other day saying she wasnt sure about her feelings for me. Now if it hadnt been that we live together and have built a foundation for a future together, i would bolt. But she says that she still wanna fix us. And I know i havent been the man that she deserves and its all my fault for being a stubborn and often angry prick that have got us in this ****ed up situation, but i dont know if she is prolonging the break or she really wants me to put in work so out relationship _might_ work. Im getting all these mixed signals. She wants us not to have sex in 20 days because sex confuses her and she really wants to find out if she still have those strong feelings for me. We can make out, we can touch eachother but 0 sexors. She says she wants counselling, and she wants me to improve in this time and show her that guy that she fell inlove with is still here. My mind is running! wtf is this?? can this be salvated/saved or is she just adjusting her mind to the inevitable break?
I can change. I will if that saves us. It aint like i cheated or beat her up
Feels in this thread. My gf broke up with me exactly
One month ago. I lost interest in her in the last few weeks ago; wasn't as physically attracted to her as my other ex'es. I was cold and distant. On top of that l, I always doubted my feelings for her through the 1.5 years we were together and felt like I just stayed with her because she stuck with me through some hard times. She dumped me because she felt she didn't feel connected to me anymore and that we were just going through the motions. I was so shocked yet knew this is what I wanted deep down inside but just felt scared to do it. I pleaded her to work on it, but she denied. I felt like **** and cried a bit. Fast forward 2.5 weeks later and she blocks all my best friends on Instagram and me as well...I find out she posted pictures of her and a new guy in Australia making out, on boats, etc. Only 2.5 weeks! I felt betrayed, angry and my ego hit the ****. This guy was shorter, skinner and of an ethnicity that her parents would never approve of her to date because of how racist they are (I know it's wrong but that's how they were ). And what makes matters weirder is he probably paid for her vacation since she's in college and relatively broke. I feel crushed and very angry...but it's so weird because I never felt like I was in love with her and instead just attached and comfortable with her. Regardless, I still feel betrayed, saddened and angry by what she did. But I feel better then a month ago. Also, my libido has been shot from the break up.
[QUOTE=beastin007;1461427383]well ... my relationship is gonna go down the rivers ...
gf of 5 years (7 total, from dating to official status) dropped the bomb the other day saying she wasnt sure about her feelings for me. Now if it hadnt been that we live together and have built a foundation for a future together, i would bolt. But she says that she still wanna fix us. And I know i havent been the man that she deserves and its all my fault for being a stubborn and often angry prick that have got us in this ****ed up situation, but i dont know if she is prolonging the break or she really wants me to put in work so out relationship _might_ work. Im getting all these mixed signals. She wants us not to have sex in 20 days because sex confuses her and she really wants to find out if she still have those strong feelings for me. We can make out, we can touch eachother but 0 sexors. She says she wants counselling, and she wants me to improve in this time and show her that guy that she fell inlove with is still here. My mind is running! wtf is this?? can this be salvated/saved or is she just adjusting her mind to the inevitable break?
I can change. I will if that saves us. It aint like i cheated or beat her up[/QUOTE]
Dude. Improve your self for the best. Be thankful you have a girl willing to be that open with you to tell you what she's feeling. She's literally telling you how to fix your relationship instead of just bolting. Man up and do every single thing to make yourself a better man and better partner and if in the end you still break up, well then there's a better you in the long run regardless.
Don't be in my position and let yourself self sabotage a good thing. I made some dumb mistakes, was in a funk/depression and didn't try enough to fix things and get better. I saw the signs all along that I needed to change but was too depressed to do anything to make a difference. I just went through the motions of life and she was my fallback happiness. I wasn't happy, but I could always go home to her and forget about it, I was happy with her, but it just masked how I really felt. I knew I needed to change and improve myself and my life for the better but I just coasted along. And that wasn't fair to her either, it's a lot of pressure to put on someone for them to be your sole source of happiness. And now it's too late. It took me making some mistakes and hear leaving me for me to finally wake up and actually take action to get to the bottom of my problems and fix them and improve myself. It's been two weeks and I've already learned so much that would have saved us and made us stronger in the long run. But it happened for me at the expense of my girl. If you still have time, work on becoming a better person. You need to do that regardless, maybe in your case you can do it before losing your girl. Trust me, you don't want the regret of doing it too late.
This thread gives so many feels. It's great advice for someone ready to move on. And if there were any signs of trouble then breaking up is for the best. And even then it's still hard as ****. But how do you accept and move on when things were great and you ruined them?
[QUOTE=jimmyk21;1461471843]Dude. Improve your self for the best. Be thankful you have a girl willing to be that open with you to tell you what she's feeling. She's literally telling you how to fix your relationship instead of just bolting. Man up and do every single thing to make yourself a better man and better partner and if in the end you still break up, well then there's a better you in the long run regardless.
Don't be in my position and let yourself self sabotage a good thing. I made some dumb mistakes, was in a funk/depression and didn't try enough to fix things and get better. I saw the signs all along that I needed to change but was too depressed to do anything to make a difference. I just went through the motions of life and she was my fallback happiness. I wasn't happy, but I could always go home to her and forget about it, I was happy with her, but it just masked how I really felt. I knew I needed to change and improve myself and my life for the better but I just coasted along. And that wasn't fair to her either, it's a lot of pressure to put on someone for them to be your sole source of happiness. And now it's too late. It took me making some mistakes and hear leaving me for me to finally wake up and actually take action to get to the bottom of my problems and fix them and improve myself. It's been two weeks and I've already learned so much that would have saved us and made us stronger in the long run. But it happened for me at the expense of my girl. If you still have time, work on becoming a better person. You need to do that regardless, maybe in your case you can do it before losing your girl. Trust me, you don't want the regret of doing it too late.
This thread gives so many feels. It's great advice for someone ready to move on. And if there were any signs of trouble then breaking up is for the best. And even then it's still hard as ****. But how do you accept and move on when things were great and you ruined them?[/QUOTE]
I dropped her. It had to be done. I cant be on a mfking audition just to save us if she aint putting in work too. Its all good.
Time to vent. She was my first girlfriend and broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She says that we didn't really connect and that we forced our relationship. I guess I didn't open up to her as much but we were together for only two monthes and I felt like we needed more time. She is such a good girl. I feel like crap because I think she is already talking to some other dude. She literally made all the moves that made this relationship happen as I am usually pretty shy and quiet. I goto college so there are plenty of girls and I'm also attractive but I have no idea how to introduce myself so I feel like I'm going to have to wait years to find another girl. The thing that sucks the most is that I have never had any luck with girls after getting to know them really well. I mean I'm funny, smart, respectable, kind, and can hold my own when need be but everyone seems to take me as a joke. Sort of like I am unlovable. It's silly and beta but that has been the case so far.
Hey bois.
First of all, Roidz, you are a legend for this thread. 100+ pages of helping guys out in rough times, may the gainz gods be with you.
Now, for my pickle: been with my girlfriend for 10 months, everything was going awesome, seeing each other often, sleeping over, talking on the phone or texting constantly, no fights, etc. The past 3 weeks, we've been seeing less and less of each other (she got a new job that has her waking up at 5AM, she's really tired at 3 when she gets back) and not really talking much except for a daily call at night to ask about each others' day and say good night. Last week, she had a cold and was really tired throughout, then on friday she wanted to go rock-climbing, I told her it's not a good idea since she has a cold and I didn't really have money to spare for that. She got upset, I asked her if she wants to sleep over, she already had a sleepover planned with a friend. Saturday, before we were supposed to go out with our friends, I asked her to meet me and told her that this arrangement is not gonna work for me, seeing each other once a week at most and we had to find a solution to it. She seemed to understand, went out (I ended up going home, back hurt too much) and ended up going home at 6AM. Now obviously, that angered me to no end, telling me that she's really tired and then going out for 12 hours but I also understand that she needed to let some steam go. I was shaking with anger all throughout sunday morning, didn't talk to her until the evening when she contacted me. She could definitely tell I was angry.
Saw each other on monday, hung out with our group for 4-5hours during which we exchanged a couple words only. At night, I told her to meet me and told her that saturday night made me really mad because we wouldn't see each other for days on end but then she ended up going out for 12+hours, talked on the subject for a while and then she said that, because of her work, school and everything she wouldn't have more time than the past 3 weeks and she doesn't want to waste my time - something along those lines. Told her that we should work something out and after a bit of talk on the matter, she ended up saying it would be better if we broke it off. I went back home then in the morning I did what I never thought myself capable of doing, I went to her house and waited for her to go out to work, took her to work myself and told her I wouldn't quit so easily. Left her off, she said we'd talk about it.
Last night we went to a party, she was trying to be close to me and hug me, kiss me etc, I avoided her and ended up texting her after going home that I'm actually not gonna insist anymore because I know how annoying it can be for me when I'm trying to break up with someone and they insist on me staying and she should do what makes her happy. Today she texted me saying that she felt really bad that I ignored her last night, I told her that's my way of breaking ties with someone I just broke up with and she said that she didn't think we were broken up at that point. That's when I changed topics and we talked for 3 more minutes.
Now, I really, really like her. I enjoy spending time with her and she enjoys spending time with me. She's been the only person that made me genuinely happy during the past year (depression, only me and my ex-therapist know about it). It feels stupid as hell, breaking up over a non-fight like that. I know what your oppinion is on the matter of rekindling old flames, but I feel that at this point, it wouldn't even be rekindling, it would be fighting for the relationship to continue. I was thinking of contacting her tomorrow, setting up a date and talking things through. I want her in my life. What would you do if you were in my place?
Hello all,
Girlfriend of 3 years (2 years living together) broke up with me by giving me a hand-written letter, saying how "she doesn't love me that way anymore." I was (and still am) absolutely devastated. Marriage was on the horizon, she just picked out the ring, etc. I never expected it and - even after a week of digesting - I can tell you that there were no major warning signs...I thought everything was fine.
Long story short: she broke up with me via a letter, I feel and want to her respond. It is not a sappy "I want to take you back" letter, but a "my gut tells me that there is someone else...don't contact me anymore" letter.
Or do I just follow protocol and stay with the "no contact rule".
What to do.
[QUOTE=CelticBhoy;1465435801]Hello all,
Girlfriend of 3 years (2 years living together) broke up with me by giving me a hand-written letter, saying how "she doesn't love me that way anymore." I was (and still am) absolutely devastated. Marriage was on the horizon, she just picked out the ring, etc. I never expected it and - even after a week of digesting - I can tell you that there were no major warning signs...I thought everything was fine.
Long story short: she broke up with me via a letter, I feel and want to her respond. It is not a sappy "I want to take you back" letter, but a "my gut tells me that there is someone else...don't contact me anymore" letter.
Or do I just follow protocol and stay with the "no contact rule".
What to do.[/QUOTE]
I don't love you "that way anymore" means that there's someone else. I've been there... Two times -> read above posts. Humans are made to walk alone, it's nice to have company tho, but stick to our roots. Get out there, be the best that you can be and love yourself. She probably won't come back, but if you won't brake you'll come out stronger out of this situation.
Breakups and Revenge
Revenge Your Ex
Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
tfw reading through this stuff and not looking forward to hitting the dating scene again ugh
"Gf wants space".
"Gf says she doesn't feel 'that way' about me anymore."
"Gf says 'it's not you, it's me'."
"Gf says 'I don't deserve you'."
Seems to me this is the common theme for the last few pages of this thread.
And whenever these words are uttered, it means there's another dude 99% of the time.
Same chit happened to me once upon a time. Thought the gal was marriage material, we had plans to get a place together, etc... But then hypergamy kicked in. That was a couple ex'es ago. Probably the hardest breakup I've ever gone through, and the only time a girl has ever dumped me.
This thread has really put it into perspective that I'm not alone dealing with heartbreak. In my relationship I know we would have never worked out, we were too different in terms of values and goals. I still love her incredibly but it helps knowing there is someone out there who is a much better match for me. Now is time to be single and focus on self improvement.
The vast majority who are experiencing this experience trust that there is a major issue with them for feeling the way they do. This is on the grounds that there is an effective, and false, myth circling in our way of life that you ought to simply have the capacity to "get more than" a relationship without such enormous agony and decimation.