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Asked girl out in my work building for drinks. She said she was busy. Left it alone and every conversation she's talking about how she's single, looking to start dating, or going home and having a drink alone. Pretty much quotes from our last few conversations
Do I invite her over or ask her if she wants company when she says she drinking alone or is she playing games leading me on?
Or play with her and tell her I'm gay and got back with my BF and we're getting a bottle tonight. Lol?
[QUOTE=TheWhy;1633549783]Persistence is key *******
If she's playing mind games, play them back. Flirt with her but also talk to other chicks
If you hit on someone else from work, even better[/QUOTE]
In all honesty she does seem to get extremely childest when she sees me talk to other girls. One time I ignored her on purpose and she didn't take that too keen lol.
But I mean do I put myself out there again or let it go?
Exert your dominance and **** her boss.
BUt serious, don't be persistent at work. You ask once and let it go.
[QUOTE=pondus_levo;1633550783]Exert your dominance and **** her boss.
BUt serious, don't be persistent at work. You ask once and let it go.[/QUOTE]
This
if they are interested, there are really no mind games. let it go.
dude, those "mindgames" she's playing mean that you're in the friendzone. She probably knows you're interested, but is kinda teasing you. Look at the stuff she says: she's single, she wants to date... next thing she says is, "hey what do you think about this guy?" or "I met a guy today." You get it? I could be wrong, but there's no point entertaining a tease. Let her chase you instead [if she actually is interested] and don't worry about the outcome. Lest you want to risk having the rug pulled out under. If you're not convinced (I could be wrong), then try asking her out again. After a second failure, it will be 100% clear that 1. you are interested and 2. she is not and 3. what I said above follows, friendzone etc...
[QUOTE=Ninshark;1633556083]dude, those "mindgames" she's playing mean that you're in the friendzone. She probably knows you're interested, but is kinda teasing you. Look at the stuff she says: she's single, she wants to date... next thing she says is, "hey what do you think about this guy?" or "I met a guy today." You get it? I could be wrong, but there's no point entertaining a tease. Let her chase you instead [if she actually is interested] and don't worry about the outcome. Lest you want to risk having the rug pulled out under. If you're not convinced (I could be wrong), then try asking her out again. After a second failure, it will be 100% clear that 1. you are interested and 2. she is not and 3. what I said above follows, friendzone etc...[/QUOTE]
Well if she mentions a guy then that tells me what I need to know...but if that was the case and I was truly friend zoned I don't think there would be any questions about if she was playing mind games or not.
This **** is just too confusing and maybe Ill just pretend like she doesn't exist.
I met several girls like these. Most just tease you and want you to constantly give them attention... giving you hope here and there to make sure you keep chasing.
A few are unsure of what they want or too shy/conservative to go all out.
If I were you, just ask her again. from there, I am sure you know what to do.
I wouldn't ask her again, she sounds annoying AF and it's where you work. Next thing you know, you've got an harassment case with HR "oh HR OP keeps asking me out I said no but he won't stop I was just trying to be friendly now I feel threatened boo hoo". You asked, she was busy, let her explicitly ask you or better idea, spend less time talking to, or thinking about her.
[QUOTE=ChristmasFnatic;1633854413]I met several girls like these. Most just tease you and want you to constantly give them attention... giving you hope here and there to make sure you keep chasing.
A few are unsure of what they want or too shy/conservative to go all out.
If I were you, just ask her again. from there, I am sure you know what to do.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Mr Beer;1633861343]I wouldn't ask her again, she sounds annoying AF and it's where you work. Next thing you know, you've got an harassment case with HR "oh HR OP keeps asking me out I said no but he won't stop I was just trying to be friendly now I feel threatened boo hoo". You asked, she was busy, let her explicitly ask you or better idea, spend less time talking to, or thinking about her.[/QUOTE]
Feels like an old thread. I was gonna let it go but I seen her last week and she asked what I had for lunch
"what did you have for lunch"
"I had xxx"
"oh, I love xx, I havent been there in ages. Everytime I see them I think of you". The thing is when she said that last part she got extremely nervous and like ran behind some boxes. So its clear there is an emotional connection in some sort. Its either she is so insecure she was scared to say that or it could of been she realized she ****ed up and didnt want me to get the wrong impression. I didnt know what to think so I just walked away and as I was she goes "I love to eat, user!".
I seen her today and lately she wont say Hi like she use to(trying to get me to chase, maybe?) but she did know I was there because she runs her hands through her hair.
I am definitely on her mind. Im just going to play her game and give her the cold shoulder and if she wants to keep playing this **** the next time she says shes going home to have a drink alone im going to tell her text me her address ill be over in 45mins otherwise she needs to knock this **** off and be mature.
Unless im reading all this wrong. If shes not interested there is no need really to have any conversations with me.
[QUOTE=user3657;1633865243]Feels like an old thread. I was gonna let it go but I seen her last week and she asked what I had for lunch
"what did you have for lunch"
"I had xxx"
"oh, I love xx, I havent been there in ages. Everytime I see them I think of you". The thing is when she said that last part she got extremely nervous and like ran behind some boxes. So its clear there is an emotional connection in some sort. Its either she is so insecure she was scared to say that or it could of been she realized she ****ed up and didnt want me to get the wrong impression. I didnt know what to think so I just walked away and as I was she goes "I love to eat, user!".
I seen her today and lately she wont say Hi like she use to(trying to get me to chase, maybe?) but she did know I was there because she runs her hands through her hair.
I am definitely on her mind. Im just going to play her game and give her the cold shoulder and if she wants to keep playing this **** the next time she says shes going home to have a drink alone im going to tell her text me her address ill be over in 45mins otherwise she needs to knock this **** off and be mature.
Unless im reading all this wrong. If shes not interested there is no need really to have any conversations with me.[/QUOTE]
How old are you and the woman you speak of?
No way people over 25 act like this.
[QUOTE=skinnyfat88;1633889443]How old are you and the woman you speak of?
No way people over 25 act like this.[/QUOTE]
Too many games right?
[QUOTE=user3657;1633549693]Asked girl out in my work building for drinks. She said she was busy. Left it alone and every conversation she's talking about how she's single, looking to start dating, or going home and having a drink alone. Pretty much quotes from our last few conversations
Do I invite her over or ask her if she wants company when she says she drinking alone or is she playing games leading me on?
Or play with her and tell her I'm gay and got back with my BF and we're getting a bottle tonight. Lol?[/QUOTE]
Work on building up tension. Next time she tells you that she's single and is looking to start dating ask her if she tried Bumble. See how she responds.
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Or play with her and tell her I'm gay and got back with my BF and we're getting a bottle tonight. Lol?[/QUOTE]
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