I told my girlfriend I don't want her to dance with other guys aka grind on their dicks
She says she thinks it's harmless dancing, but seriously? I don't want her dancing on other guys dicks.
What are your guys' opinion on this?
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I told my girlfriend I don't want her to dance with other guys aka grind on their dicks
She says she thinks it's harmless dancing, but seriously? I don't want her dancing on other guys dicks.
What are your guys' opinion on this?
I would dump mine if she replies back with that!
DUDE -
I keep telling everyone this;
It's a RESPECT ISSUE.
Would she sht bricks if you were grinding your cock on some fine ass lil hoodrat's ass? Of course she would. She'd grab you by the arm, drag you outside, bitch your ears off, then not speak to you for a week.
Yet it's ok for her? Fck no.
Unless you have a semi-open relationship then let's not play this one-sided bullsht.
Dude if the person you're with RESPECTS YOU in the SLIGHTEST, they'll accept that this is not respectful behavior and it makes you uncomfortable.
If they NEED to have that kind of "fun" and male attention, perhaps it's time to consider finding a girl more on your level.
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thing is, shes also said she doesn't give a **** if i grind with other girls..
whats your take?
If my girlfriend did that and then said that I would not have a girlfriend anymore.
In saying that it's all about boundaries. Once you explain this is beyond your boundary if she doesn't change her behaviour then it's time to get rid, if on the other hand she is willing to change then perhaps she's worth holding on to.
Start looking for a new girl.
She thinks it's no biggie, you think it is. This issue is pretty...sensitive. I had something similar and my gf gave in to my request. Seems to me your gf is quite wilful, which isn't really a good sign.
[QUOTE=janky;503879881]DUDE -
I keep telling everyone this;
It's a RESPECT ISSUE.
Would she sht bricks if you were grinding your cock on some fine ass lil hoodrat's ass? Of course she would. She'd grab you by the arm, drag you outside, bitch your ears off, then not speak to you for a week.
Yet it's ok for her? Fck no.
Unless you have a semi-open relationship then let's not play this one-sided bullsht.
Dude if the person you're with RESPECTS YOU in the SLIGHTEST, they'll accept that this is not respectful behavior and it makes you uncomfortable.
If they NEED to have that kind of "fun" and male attention, perhaps it's time to consider finding a girl more on your level.[/QUOTE]
great reply.
just ask her, "do u think it is harmless if i do that to other girls as well?" see what her response gonna be.
always ask something to make the other person feels the opposite if she/he thinks it is right when u think it is wrong.
Okay well the problem is she think its fine if I grind with other girls... and she thinks the grinding is harmless? cause its not physically touching or anything... how the phuck does she get off thinking its fine cause its not touching? ???
whats she trying to get at by saying that
[QUOTE=dsgb2u;503882971]Okay well the problem is she think its fine if I grind with other girls... and she thinks the grinding is harmless? cause its not physically touching or anything... how the phuck does she get off thinking its fine cause its not touching? ???
whats she trying to get at by saying that[/QUOTE]
Obviously she isn't looking for commitment, but rather fun...alarm bells should be ringing?
Thats definitely not it, she doesn't drink and is very smart (3.8 gpa) status and ****.
It's just the whole fact that shes trying to shove this logic bull**** that its harmless and not sexual contact thats bothering the **** out of me...
even said that "its not like im having sex with him or anything..."
The answer is simple, grind with other girls, let's see how she likes it.
[QUOTE=dsgb2u;503883841]Thats definitely not it, she doesn't drink and is very smart (3.8 gpa) status and ****.
It's just the whole fact that shes trying to shove this logic bull**** that its harmless and not sexual contact thats bothering the **** out of me...
even said that "its not like im having sex with him or anything..."[/QUOTE]
WTF brah, you're telling me just cos someone doesn't drink and has a high GPA=always into serious relationships?
answer, dont let anyone grind her, duct tape yourself to her ass the entire night.
forget that tramp dude...
problem is we go to seperate colleges, i won't be there to hold her ****en hand
Only one solution to this problem. Put her to the test and go grind your dick on other girls. If succesfull, go as far as to the point she says its too far. Then say she has to stop grinding dicks or you wont stop doing what you're doing. She's putting you to the test now, you'll have to stand up or end the relation.
[QUOTE=gilbertocalzoni;503884991]Only one solution to this problem. Put her to the test and go grind your dick on other girls. If succesfull, go as far as to the point she says its too far. Then say she has to stop grinding dicks or you wont stop doing what you're doing. She's putting you to the test now, you'll have to stand up or end the relation.[/QUOTE]
So...what makes you think she hasn't done anything else that is sensitive but "non-sexual" already?
Lots of things that you guys take seriously are essentially harmless. What do you think will happen if your gf grinds on other guys? Do you think she'll end up shagging them?
She said she wouldn't dance with other guys so I guess everythings fine; I was just wondering where she gets off thinking its fine to grind against other guys..
whatever I guess i'll check on her every once in a while
[QUOTE=Tiffany Wantsmore;503887041]Lots of things that you guys take seriously are essentially harmless. What do you think will happen if your gf grinds on other guys? Do you think she'll end up shagging them?[/QUOTE]
It's comfort level. A lot of things just can't really be explained. My gf goes mental when it's late and a good female friend of mine calls and I end up talking to her a long time.
[QUOTE=Tiffany Wantsmore;503887041]Lots of things that you guys take seriously are essentially harmless. What do you think will happen if your gf grinds on other guys? Do you think she'll end up shagging them?[/QUOTE]
LOL WUT? its not only about that but its called respect; maybe if you had some you'd know about it
[QUOTE=dsgb2u;503887961]LOL WUT? its not only about that but its called respect; maybe if you had some you'd know about it[/QUOTE]
My bf's a stripper part-time and lapdances on other girls. It doesn't mean he's gonna sleep with them, or that he doesn't respect me and our relationship. It's a job.
It's less about respect than about confidence in your own relationship. We both flirt and we both wrestle, where I'm the only girl, and often end up being picked up/held/laid on top of by other guys, but that's also just a job. It doesn't mean anything. I often have guys' heads between my thighs, that would drive you guys nuts wouldn't it?
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You said it, jobs. Circumstances a little different here.
[QUOTE=SgSpartan;503888791]...
You said it, jobs. Circumstances a little different here.[/QUOTE]
x2. how the **** u comparing jobs to this ****? u stupid or something, oh wait, u r a female...
[QUOTE=SgSpartan;503885341]So...what makes you think she hasn't done anything else that is sensitive but "non-sexual" already?[/QUOTE]???
he is talking about grinding dicks. have not heard about "anything else that is sensitive but "non sexual"". just saying he should go across her boundries too, wherever they may be. he should prove to her that he is not a pussy. if not willing to do so, he should better end the relation, because seems like she wont stop before he does.
[QUOTE=Tiffany Wantsmoredick;503888591]My bf's a stripper part-time and lapdances on other girls. It doesn't mean he's gonna sleep with them, or that he doesn't respect me and our relationship. It's a job.
It's less about respect than about confidence in your own relationship. We both flirt and we both wrestle, where I'm the only girl, and often end up being picked up/held/laid on top of by other guys, but that's also just a job. It doesn't mean anything. I often have guys' heads between my thighs, that would drive you guys nuts wouldn't it?[/QUOTE]
really? when did u changed your username? and read my above post!
[QUOTE=bogi_style;503889641]really? when did u changed your username? and read my above post![/QUOTE]
Even if it wasn't a job, it still wouldn't worry me. Like I said, we both flirt a lot, and we don't get paid for that. It's just harmless fun. We both know it won't lead to anything.
What you guys fail to realise is that I am much older than most of you, and have learned not to sweat the small stuff. God knows how you'd all cope if there was actually a serious problem in your relationships. Why can't you just relax and enjoy being with someone, instead of constantly expecting the worst? constantly not allowing yourselves to trust? constantly being on the lookout for what you consider "shady" behaviour? Just chill out.
I used to be like you lot. Now I'm happier and more relaxed about everything, and all it does is make life easier.
[QUOTE=Tiffany Wantsmore;503890361]Even if it wasn't a job, it still wouldn't worry me. Like I said, we both flirt a lot, and we don't get paid for that. It's just harmless fun. We both know it won't lead to anything.
What you guys fail to realise is that I am much older than most of you, and have learned not to sweat the small stuff. God knows how you'd all cope if there was actually a serious problem in your relationships. Why can't you just relax and enjoy being with someone, instead of constantly expecting the worst? constantly not allowing yourselves to trust? constantly being on the lookout for what you consider "shady" behaviour? Just chill out.
I used to be like you lot. Now I'm happier and more relaxed about everything, and all it does is make life easier.[/QUOTE]
after u experiencing and hearing all those things about women, its hard not to.
and dont compare your generation with the new one, because its not the same as it used to be.