we all have it and sometimes..we get a lot of it..
so how do you deal with it?
do you put in extra time at gym?
go for a long run?
call your mama and vent?
curl up with a good book for awhile?
play with your pets?
go for a walk?
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we all have it and sometimes..we get a lot of it..
so how do you deal with it?
do you put in extra time at gym?
go for a long run?
call your mama and vent?
curl up with a good book for awhile?
play with your pets?
go for a walk?
Yeah, I've been tested, lately.
Rabid cleaning and purging of stuff makes me feel lighter and somehow less stressed. Can't explain that one.
TV binge watching--watched two seasons of Scandal a couple of weeks ago.
Had a nice walk through the botanical gardens yesterday--Nature helps a lot.
Activities that don't require a lot of brainwork...
I have a problem recognizing when I'm stressed.
When being stressed has become a way of life, um, you tend not to notice it anymore.
Need someone to keep me in check and not be such a control freak about things.
Let someone else drive for a while.
Working on it.
signs you might be stressed...when your to-do list has no more room to write anything more to-do on it :)
when you tell yourself to sit down and relax and read but realize you cannot concentrate enough to read
because of the million and one things still left to do on the to-do list
:rolleyes:
Depends on what the stressor is. If it's my personal life, I usually run away to work. Accomplishing things in my career makes me feel better about everything else going to chit.
If it's something to do with work, I'm really fortunate to have an awesome roommate that is always ready to get ice cream, watch really stupid tv or walk downtown to the bars. Medial things to help pass the time and remind myself that I have way too much to be thankful for, often more than I probably deserve.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144507983]signs you might be stressed...when your to-do list has no more room to write anything more to-do on it :)
when you tell yourself to sit down and relax and read but realize you cannot concentrate enough to read
because of the million and one things still left to do on the to-do list
:rolleyes:[/QUOTE]
Pro-tip: Don't use to-do list as bookmark.
Out of sight, out of mind.
Maybe. :/
"I've never known any trouble that an hour's reading didn't assuage." ~ Charles de Secondat
Realize that nothing matters, everything will pass and what won't you have no control over. Enjoy the small moments in life and love the people in it.
i use writing as an outlet for stress, as well as ice skating. writing helps me express whatever i am stressed about, and it gets those internal feelings outside of myself, onto paper. ice skating helps because i don't think of anything or anyone when i do it..it's a total escape.
music and reading in combination can also help...reading something beautiful/touching reminds me that life is great, and helps put my own situation into perspective. music relaxes and soothes me.
hope your stress subsides asap!!
I handle it very poorly in general, but exercise always helps for a little while, a hot bath with my Kindle, a massage, ice cream (haha). I have a hard time stepping away to do those things when I feel like the to-do list is a mile long, though. In practice, I just try to pound away at whatever is overwhelming me and make some headway.
[QUOTE=James199117;1144543393]Realize that nothing matters, everything will pass and what won't you have no control over. Enjoy the small moments in life and love the people in it.[/QUOTE]geez.....nothing matters?? I was kinda hoping something would matter..sometimes ;)
I am a fairly organized person..have to be most of time
so you got stuff written all over the place
when to send out bills..when the car insurance is due
you schedule the dentist appointments
get regular oil changes on the vehicle
then there is the holiday stuff your right down
upcoming birthdays and cards to send out
then there are things like schoolwork..tests to study for
papers to write
then there is exercise which must also be fit in..
and whether or not to pick up a part time job
and how to shop for a new car..
and plan menu for the week
and pay attention to my son's homework getting done
did I do the laundry??? :(
holy cow did I take out anything for dinner ??
:D
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]I am a fairly organized person..have to be most of time
so you got stuff written all over the place
when to send out bills..when the car insurance is due
you schedule the dentist appointments
get regular oil changes on the vehicle
then there is the holiday stuff your right down
upcoming birthdays and cards to send out
then there are things like schoolwork..tests to study for
papers to write
then there is exercise which must also be fit in..
and whether or not to pick up a part time job
and how to shop for a new car..
and plan menu for the week
and pay attention to my son's homework getting done
did I do the laundry??? :(
holy cow did I take out anything for dinner ??
:D[/QUOTE]
This sounds like me. LOL I got to a point last week when I've been really busy with work. Which is a good thing but being busy means having more editing and proofreading to do(I'm a court stenographer) and less time to do it because I keep getting stuck on long deps. By the time I work out and get home and deal with the kids' homework and gymnastics and other social activities, make sure they are fed, bathed, lunches made....I'm just done. And I say to myself, "I'll buckle down and get to work and get all these pages done tomorrow." Until tomorrow is the same thing. Throw on top of it that I've reached my limit with my living situation and my divorce and I want it all to just be over sooner rather than later. So I've been a crazy person getting things together, and dealing with my attorney who I'm about 3 seconds away from firing. I decided to just take a couple days off. I had a counseling appointment on Thursday and I don't take deps on Fridays so I took today off as well. I got caught up on work, probably didn't spend as much quality time with the kids as I should have but I will hopefully have learned my lesson and will start to focus better(I say this every pay period but it never seems to happen LOL) I have a ton of other things on my mind as well but right this second, I feel a lot better than I did on Wednesday when I was about to have an anxiety attack.
I am terrible at dealing with stress. I usually let things eat me from the inside out, until I have a full blow out. I have tried to work on it, without much success.
Working out is my main stress relief. Other things include:
- If I am very stressed at work, I'll walk somewhere for lunch. I am always cooped up in my office so some fresh air is always a good change.
- If I am stressed at the end of the day, I'll take a very long bath before bed.
- If I've had a very stressful week, on the weekend I'll go for a pedicure or a massage.
In general I prefer to decompress with some alone time rather than see other people. I prefer to spend time with friends when I am in a good mood, not when I am some kind of ogre. :)
[QUOTE=sy2502;1144588043]I am terrible at dealing with stress. I usually let things eat me from the inside out, until I have a full blow out. I have tried to work on it, without much success.
Working out is my main stress relief. Other things include:
- If I am very stressed at work, I'll walk somewhere for lunch. I am always cooped up in my office so some fresh air is always a good change.
- If I am stressed at the end of the day, I'll take a very long bath before bed.
- If I've had a very stressful week, on the weekend I'll go for a pedicure or a massage.
[b]In general I prefer to decompress with some alone time rather than see other people. I prefer to spend time with friends when I am in a good mood, not when I am some kind of ogre. :)[/b][/QUOTE]
i'm the same way...i need to take alone time so i can recharge, and be ready to take on the world again! being around people when i'm stressed just adds to my mind clutter.
also, i totally agree with walking in the fresh air to take away stress...i always feel so much better when i'm just out, looking at nature, walking and feeling free.
ya I do the walking which sometimes help me sort thru everything piling up in my mind
I sometimes (when I have time) journal :)
things that I have tried in the past:
alcohol
caffeine
nicotine
binge eating
cursing at top of my lungs
Oye... stress. How I deal:
-Push extra hard in the gym
-Sleep more
-Take my dogs out more
-Paint
-Bake
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[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]I am a fairly organized person..have to be most of time
so you got stuff written all over the place
when to send out bills..when the car insurance is due[/quote]
Automated bill payments
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]you schedule the dentist appointments[/quote]
I schedule them 6 months in advance on the day I'm at the dentist. THen they call and text me to remind me a few days prior.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]get regular oil changes on the vehicle[/quote]
My oil needs changing every 10,000 miles. I drive about 10,000 miles a year.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]then there is the holiday stuff your right down[/quote]
Like what? I don't write anything down concerning holidays.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]upcoming birthdays and cards to send out[/quote]
I don't send out cards. If I can't hand them out in person then they don't get one.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]then there are things like schoolwork..tests to study for
papers to write[/quote]
I already did 7 1/2 years of college. No plan to travel that road again.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]then there is exercise which must also be fit in..[/quote]
Every day @5:30pm - 5 days a week.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]and whether or not to pick up a part time job[/quote]
Never crosses my mind
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]and how to shop for a new car..[/quote]
I shop for a car on the Internet. The only time I step foot in the dealership is after I've already negotiated the deal on the exact car I want.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]and plan menu for the week[/quote]
I eat the same thing every day. No planning required.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]and pay attention to my son's homework getting done[/quote]
Pay attention? My boys better pay attention to doing their OWN homework or there are not so pleasant consequences.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]did I do the laundry??? :( [/quote]
When the laundry hamper gets full, I do a load. Bed sheets are done every Saturday morning.
[QUOTE=latebloomingmom;1144568803]holy cow did I take out anything for dinner ??:D[/QUOTE]
Peanut butter and crackers, plus a glass of red wine = no need to worry about "taking anything out".
We manufacture our own stress - or we don't.
who the hell eats the same damn thing everyday...sheesh :rolleyes:
that was ummmmm thorough thank you Kurp for playing along..so I take this to mean you have no stress?
never forget what you are doing or feel like you are losing your mind?
this morning for instance I stood in front of the open refrigerator with a load of dirty laundry in my arms
and asked my twelve year old son why I opened the fridge and what I was looking for...
his answer: laundry soap :D
Lifting
Boxing
Running
Batting Cages
And of course, sex.
Writing
reading
Going for a long walk, especially at the beach
Getting outside for a walk seems to really help me - even if I can only manage 10-15 minutes. The change of scenery helps me reboot so-to-speak. I'll take a 10 minute walk a couple of times during the work day if I feel myself getting stressed and losing focus. When I'm stressed, I tend to need alone time just to let my brain slow down a bit and regroup mentally.
Reading for fun (vs work or school) is another thing I've done since college which helps me de-stress before bed. Having some book which I'm reading just for my own pure enjoyment helps me relax and fall asleep. I started this when I was in undergrad and was having difficulty falling asleep because of school work on my mind. So, I gave myself permission to spend 30 minutes each evening reading something for pure enjoyment instead of reading something class. The habit has stuck with me over the years.
If things get really bad, I'll actually take a full day off of work (a mental health day) and regroup with some focused alone time while everyone else is out of the house. Reading a book, drinking tea and maybe a massage and an extra long workout during the day when the gym isn't crazy busy.
Gym
food
sex
more food
Music and being alone. simple yet effective.
The best way to deal with stress is to avoid things that trigger it in the first place.
- Remove people from your life who have nothing positive to contribute.
- Compartmentalize different things in your life. Ex: Keep your professional life out of family life.
- Take on only as much as you know you can handle (workload).
[QUOTE=James199117;1144543393]Realize that nothing matters, everything will pass and what won't you have no control over. Enjoy the small moments in life and love the people in it.[/QUOTE]
LOL that's a pretty nihilistic way to look at life.
removed myself from stressful situations, people, etc.
when im super stressed I save it for the gym
I try to put everything in perspective and accept whatever's going on. That way I can deal with stuff better than with a cluttered mind. Also, I need a balance between my social life and at least one day a week of perfect solitude, to reload my batteries.
Other things:
- comfort food, ranging from spaghetti to cupcakes to green smoothies (I think they're yummie and they make me feel lighter and more focussed)
- painting, drawing, writing and reading with a glass of wine and some music
- working out
- watching shows and movies
- yoga and meditation
- sex and/or solo-time
- go to a coffee shop or a park to drink a coffee and read all by myself
A big cup of Vietnamese lotus green tea, a walk among the plants and some music.
[QUOTE=James199117;1144543393]Realize that nothing matters, everything will pass and what won't you have no control over. Enjoy the small moments in life and love the people in it.[/QUOTE]
This, true it is somewhat nihilistic; but if one considers the world essentially empty then one is free to fill it with whatever one finds pleasing(peacefulness in my case.)
[QUOTE=Igmann;1144958983]The best way to deal with stress is to avoid things that trigger it in the first place.
- Remove people from your life who have nothing positive to contribute.[/QUOTE]
OMG so this!!! I went through a phase in life when I thought more friends, any friend, was better. I collected a whole lot of dead weight that way, people who only want to take advantage, emotional parasites, constant whiners, etc. A couple of years ago I finally started cleaning up house in that department. Best thing I ever did.
[QUOTE=sy2502;1145122563]OMG so this!!! I went through a phase in life when I thought more friends, any friend, was better. I collected a whole lot of dead weight that way, people who only want to take advantage, emotional parasites, constant whiners, etc. A couple of years ago I finally started cleaning up house in that department. Best thing I ever did.[/QUOTE]
Did it a couple of years ago myself. Most of it was actually family getting me involved in squabbles between each other and calling me to be the voice of reason. Had enough crap of my own at the time and told them to leave me out of it! Best thing I ever did! ;)
[QUOTE=danap3681;1145135203]Did it a couple of years ago myself. Most of it was actually family getting me involved in squabbles between each other and calling me to be the voice of reason. Had enough crap of my own at the time and told them to leave me out of it! Best thing I ever did! ;)[/QUOTE]mmmmmmmmmmmm........now ya know I worry about this in my own family Dana..