View Full Version : Might get married, but is she B.S. ???
benchod
10-31-2006, 09:27 AM
Hey guys,
I met this girl through family and I might get married dont know when but will some day. But anways, this girl was telling me about her past life and I dont know if it should matter at all.
Should her past matter ?
Little bit about the past :
She lied, first of all... She tells me she dated this dude for about two years and cheated on her and that was it.
Than after a while, when we were going somewhere, like anything else you want to tell me and then she tells me that they got back together and just recently broke up like about four months ago or so.
So I am thinking like why in the hell did she lied...on the other hand, I asked her what shes done with him.
She swares on god lol...that she has never given a bj etc....
Shes verfy religious...What do you guys think ?
Should this even bother me. at all ???
So she dated a guy for 4 years and is already over him ...ummmmmmm....
She says, her past is past and she has nothing to do with anything, and she likes me alot and she doesnt want to lose me for anything..
I am like...ummm...ok..
What should I do ?
Help
Bj
TheAustrianOak
10-31-2006, 09:48 AM
why would it matter if she did? they were dating, that's what people do
how long have you been seeing this girl?
OKgymNUT
10-31-2006, 09:50 AM
Even if she let him have every orifice, it doesn't matter. You were not an item then!!!!!
Leave the past in the past.
bin laden
10-31-2006, 09:54 AM
Hey guys,
I met this girl through family and I might get married dont know when but will some day. But anways, this girl was telling me about her past life and I dont know if it should matter at all.
Should her past matter ?
Little bit about the past :
She lied, first of all... She tells me she dated this dude for about two years and cheated on her and that was it.
Than after a while, when we were going somewhere, like anything else you want to tell me and then she tells me that they got back together and just recently broke up like about four months ago or so.
So I am thinking like why in the hell did she lied...on the other hand, I asked her what shes done with him.
She swares on god lol...that she has never given a bj etc....
Shes verfy religious...What do you guys think ?
Should this even bother me. at all ???
So she dated a guy for 4 years and is already over him ...ummmmmmm....
She says, her past is past and she has nothing to do with anything, and she likes me alot and she doesnt want to lose me for anything..
I am like...ummm...ok..
What should I do ?
Help
Bj
are you religious? are you muslim/arab?
Ex-Terminator
10-31-2006, 09:54 AM
Be very cautious about one thing: make SURE she isn't on the rebound from the previous boyfriend. Sometimes, a woman will be with you because she's thinking, "Ha! I'll show him!" toward the guy who just broke up with her or whatever, but she still has serious feelings for him. Be very aware of this.
As for marriage? See my other posts. Marriage has become an extremely risky proposition for any man in the civilized world.
benchod
10-31-2006, 09:57 AM
naw..indian..
Yea, but I dont know...shes thinking about getting married..
yea, past shouldnt matter...but dam it bothers me alot...dont konw why.... I have my past, that it dont bother her...
But, how in da the hell someone is over a 4 year thing, like this...
Besides.....its long distance thingy...until marriage...met through family..
should i do.
benchod
10-31-2006, 09:58 AM
Beening seen her for two months...but since its family thing...cant date for a while.
KennyK
10-31-2006, 09:59 AM
I think the main issue is can YOU get over it. If this is going to continue to naw at you, it will only get worse as you go on.
bin laden
10-31-2006, 10:00 AM
naw..indian..
Yea, but I dont know...shes thinking about getting married..
yea, past shouldnt matter...but dam it bothers me alot...dont konw why.... I have my past, that it dont bother her...
But, how in da the hell someone is over a 4 year thing, like this...
Besides.....its long distance thingy...until marriage...met through family..
should i do.
look bra just find a chick from india/ your home country.
ussually they are very greatfull, clean, and virgins.
they dont whore around before they get married.
thats what i plan on doing, going back to whatever the hell country i am from.
and picking up some nice, clean, virginity still intact, arab/muslim girl, their the best.
their problem solved.
benchod
10-31-2006, 10:03 AM
yea, true...
but the fact is, will she lie again ?
I hate liers...............
What would u guys do
KennyK
10-31-2006, 10:05 AM
yea, true...
but the fact is, will she lie again ?
I hate liers...............
What would u guys do
I would ask her why she lied.
Mundungus
10-31-2006, 10:14 AM
Get over her past or move on. Nothing you or her can do will change what she has done.
Also, I don't really see how she lied? Did she just not tell you the whole story at first? Maybe she did this because she really likes you and didn't want to turn you away. It's still not right but not a HUGE lie. I would let it go unless she continues to lie about other things.
Finally, why are you already talking about marriage after only semi-dating for two months? That word shouldn't even be in your vocabulary until you have dated for over a year, preferably several years. Just my .02
benchod
10-31-2006, 10:19 AM
cuz...we met through famliy and its different culture...etc...gay ****... men.
If you have to ask us, you aren't ready to get married.
Wendel_Clark_17
10-31-2006, 10:47 AM
You're chasing Amy. Might as well sleep with the tracer.
benchod
10-31-2006, 10:49 AM
Got it....funny...naw, it dont bother me much but ****...its not like I got a clean slate.. on me
jrocker
10-31-2006, 10:54 AM
Even if she let him have every orifice, it doesn't matter. You were not an item then!!!!!
Leave the past in the past.
yep so true leave it alone man
TheAustrianOak
10-31-2006, 11:11 AM
yea, true...
but the fact is, will she lie again ?
I hate liers...............
What would u guys do
first off, you can't prove that she did actually lie
but if it was me, it wouldn't matter anyways... but that's because i wouldn't care if my gf gave her ex bf head when they were dating
she's supposed to do that
23glock
10-31-2006, 11:18 AM
Be very cautious about one thing: make SURE she isn't on the rebound from the previous boyfriend. .
yep all chicks jump on a rebound to make themseolves feel better and look good before their ex
no offense, but you might be the rebound...its too soon for her to be over him, esp if he cheated
Vante
10-31-2006, 11:25 AM
look bra just find a chick from india/ your home country.
ussually they are very greatfull, clean, and virgins.
they dont whore around before they get married.
thats what i plan on doing, going back to whatever the hell country i am from.
and picking up some nice, clean, virginity still intact, arab/muslim girl, their the best.
their problem solved.
LOL... yeh dude... problem solved :rolleyes:
To the OP -
Dude ... Fellow Indian here ... I live in Mumbai... I know all the culture BS ur talking abt ...
Personally, let me ask u... Do u really wanna do this, or are u just in it to please ur parents?
I know ur situation exactly, and if u want my opinion - DONT DO IT!!!
Do not marry this girl... She is clearly not over her ex ... Shes doing this because her parents her forcing her to do it... She says "its her past" and all of that crap because thats what she has been told to say...
Honestly until u date this girl for 2+ yrs, know her through and through, and actually know u wanna spend the rest of ur life with her, only then should u 'think' about marriage...
Marriage is not a game... And its certainly nothing like those idiotic Ekta Kapoor shows ... Indian culture makes marriage out to be very trivial with a vascade to make it look sacred...
Every such arranged marriage(with very few exceptions) I have seen has failed miserably...
Marriage has become so completely artificial, it has begun to sicken me...
DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT marry this girl unless U R SURE... FORGET UR PARENTS, FORGET UR CULTURE, THIS IS UR LIFE! Marriage is a life changing decision, 2 months gives u absolutely no basis to even contemplate marriage...
Offcourse u can go ahead and listen to everybody else but urself and get married, but theres a better chance u ll end up settling for less then what u deserve then there is of u being completely happy, and trust me, this decision is one u dont want to regret. It not only effects u, this girl, ur family, her family but it will effect ur kids aswell (if u r unsure abt this)....
THINK about this ... Please...
And yes my parents were the same as urs .... I ve already told them what I want to do in life regarding sex and marriage... They had to change their views... They realized, this isnt their life, this is my life, and I call the shots...
If ur parents love u, they will understand...
PS. I know what ur username means ... :p
md3sign
10-31-2006, 11:44 AM
I didn't read the rest after you saying you've been seeing her for 2 months .. not even dating.
1) kinda hard to know if you want to marry someone in that time
2) past shouldn't matter BUT ...
3) go by what a girl does, not what she says. draw your conclusions from actions EXCLUSIVELY. she's religious, good for her. that doesn't mean she'll be more faithful, or a better person than someone who's not. don't let it cloud your judgement
4) everyone lies. you're never going to find someone who's completely honest about everything all the time. deal with it
5) how old are you?
benchod
10-31-2006, 11:47 AM
naw..dude, her parents arent forcing her or neither are my parents are forcing me...
But we both started talking, and we liked each other etc.......
so I dont know what to do.
Bj
md3sign
10-31-2006, 11:50 AM
umm .. stop worrying about it? no one is forcing anything, so get on with your lives. what happens happens. if you're happy, stick with it. if you're not, get out. I don't see the complication ..