**Ladies I need your help!!!!**

[ACslatering]

I quite possibly did the dumbest thing on the planet, yesterday I was sitting on the bus across from this chick that spent 3/4 of her time staring at me and I didn't even talk to her. She looked like Rhona Mitra, was 6ft tall, dressed in corporate wear - she was perfect, so what the hell was wrong with me?

For the whole bus trip i was thinking of something to break the ice with but they all sounded retarded

"Weathers great isn't - its still raining ... "
"either take a picture or ask me out ...."
"So .... long day at work?"
" *smile* .... Hi, how was your day?"

She even took out her phone and was tapping it - on her knee as she stared and still i did didly squat!!!!

so i ended up getting to my stop and getting off.

Same thing happened today - i was sitting across this slightly dorky chick that had mad wicked piercings and was like "damn thats rad (sorry been catching up with my dad - i talk funny now)" and she kept looking over pretending to look out the window behind me and i did nothing. She smelled like she worked in a bakery - but damn i did nothing again.


So i guess this is where I have to post the question


- Ladies, I know you all get approached a bajillion times a day so what kinda ice breakers worked - or you thought that worked but couldn't commit to anything cuz you were already taken? Any tips, tricks, nerve racking solutions? I lived in college so cold pickups, and random approaches are foreign (read:scary) to me

If you need background on me to make a response:

- been a member here forever
- working out since 16
- 5 gf's ever! - only used to dating people i know, at least for a bit.
- recently graduated, may go back for honors
- funny
- not butt-ugly but i don't workout to get ladies - i work out for me.
- working for 2weeks in my first proper job after college

ANy help?
Please ....

I'd post this in the misc but they'd tear me to shreds!

[bm712404]

Pix.

[_XXL_]

How about "Hello"?

[ACslatering]

Pix.
of her or me?

i couldn't even talk to her how'my gonna get a pic of her?

[nedrud relyt]

trickae you're a good looking guy, just be more confident!

[ACslatering]

thanks man - but i found it easier in college - i'm all jello in the city.

[pgb2006]

When the right lady sits or stands anywhere near you then suddenly your brain neurons will fire and you will overcome the fear of whatever is holding you back and you`ll *smile* :)

Small gestures like smiling or just being polite and avoiding pick up lines usually open doors.

[yogastrong]

I definatly agree with the above, just be friendly and genuine, it will show!

[beanbag]

lines don't work for getting to know someone, honestly. they can be really funny after you know them, though. the only guy I've ever dated jokingly used a couple of lines on me before we started dating, and the only reason they "worked" is because I already knew and liked him.

not many girls are going to fall for lines as a get-to-know-you trick. like everyone else said, be genuine and yourself, and don't try to pick up on these ladies. they will be able to tell. instead, trust that if they're someone who clicks with you, being yourself will be enough to further conversation. if nothing happens, it probably wouldn't have worked out anyways.

[vegasgrl]

a nice genuine smile does it for me

[Roke]

Act like you already know her. Just say, " How's it goin' ?"

That way it will look like you already know her and if she plays along then you know everything is cool.

And if she decides to "turn bad" by responding rudely i.e. "huh???", you can easily, easily rebound/defend yourself by saying that you confused her with a friend of a friend, that way you remain with your composure.



I don't know how to continue this, I've never done it myself. This is my theory.