Found this article interesting...discuss

[anb1683]

Came across this, and thought I would post it, since its a common conversation.
(a man wrote this BTW)


Over the last 10 years of coaching men, I have been asked time and time again to come up with a list of the best secrets for meeting, approaching and attracting great women.
Well, guys, there is no magic pickup line that will work in every situation, but there are guidelines that will help you understand a woman better, so you can be more successful in making a connection.
For those of you interested in being successful with women for the rest of your lives, take note of these simple things that will help you understand women far better than you do now.

10 secrets you need to know

1. All women like surprises; women believe they should be surprised at least once a month.
2. All women have fantasies. A man should take the time to find out her fantasy.
3. Women want a man to be sensitive yet fight for them if they needed to.
4. Women want a man to be gentle and rough at the same time.
5. Women want to be told they're beautiful, then after a time told they're sexy.
6. Women want their man to notice when another man tries to pick them up, but refrain from jealousy.
7. Women will alter their appearance with a new hairstyle or buy something skimpy for themselves, not a man.
8. A woman will groom herself that day if there is a chance for her to meet someone that night.
9. Women believe in the fairytale and will look at most men in the first 30 seconds as if they could be the prince they have been looking for.
10. If a woman really likes a man, she will spend all day trying to look good for him and still not feel perfect, yet at times she will not be made up and feel perfect.

10 ways make yourself attractive to woman

1. Be confident in who you are.
2. Have a sense of humor.
3. Show good manners.
4. Be respectful.
5. Be controversial.
6. Be sensitive.
7. Ask her what she wants and likes.
8. Don't just tell her you do, but put your trust in her.
9. Tell her about one time your feelings got hurt.
10. Kiss her softly, then kiss her passionately.

7 sure-fire ways to repulse a woman

1. Tell her what you don't want her to wear.
2. Look at another woman while talking to her.
3. Show her that you have no direction in your life.
4. Be too proud of your qualities.
5. Drink too much or have a serious addiction.
6. Insult her style, friends or family.
7. Use stupid pickup lines like: "Do you want to have sex?" "Can I smell your roses?" "Baby, that's the sweetest butt I've ever seen!" "Hey you, come here!"

The best pickup line

Observe what she is doing, then walk over and have a conversation about what is going on at that moment. For example, she is in the video store and looking at "The Departed." You can either ask her about the movie and what she knows about it, or if you saw it you can say, "Loved that movie...." and start the conversation from there.
Good luck!

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Good post.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

I wouldnt call those secrets really, just pointers. And once again, you ladies are all different and are looking for different qualities. Now the majority may want this, but most of the young ladies have no idea what they want, and wont know until they get their heart broken a couple of times and figure out that the cocky alpha male is nothing but an a$$, just because he looks good, is no indication that he knows how to treat a woman.

[LiftingIsLife]

3. Women want a man to be sensitive yet fight for them if they needed to.

4. Women want a man to be gentle and rough at the same time.



absolutely what i've found thru experience! :)



The best pickup line.....



... is a simple HELLO


best,
~lifer

[breathingsky]

Sorry, no offense to the OP, but I gotta hate on this one...

Seems way too simplistic to me. People are so much more complicated than this. What does it mean to be controversial? I mean, Hitler was controversial. Why isn't it okay for a guy to mention that he likes a certain article of clothing that you own better than the one you have on? You don't have to listen to him, but if I don't like a shirt on my b-friend, I might say something like, "Honey, this other one looks better on you." Also, I think any sane woman knows that fairytale relationships don't exist in the real world, and the part about looking at most men in the first 30 seconds as if they could be their Prince Charming? Uhhh, sounds creepy!

[anb1683]

Sorry, no offense to the OP, but I gotta hate on this one...

Seems way too simplistic to me. People are so much more complicated than this. What does it mean to be controversial? I mean, Hitler was controversial. Why isn't it okay for a guy to mention that he likes a certain article of clothing that you own better than the one you have on? You don't have to listen to him, but if I don't like a shirt on my b-friend, I might say something like, "Honey, this other one looks better on you." Also, I think any sane woman knows that fairytale relationships don't exist in the real world, and the part about looking at most men in the first 30 seconds as if they could be their Prince Charming? Uhhhh, sounds creepy!
Oh believe me I dont agree with the whole article at all...I was just posting it becuase its a huge topic in the FemMisc. it seems. :)

[bttrthnb4]

Sorry, no offense to the OP, but I gotta hate on this one...

Seems way too simplistic to me. People are so much more complicated than this. What does it mean to be controversial? I mean, Hitler was controversial. Why isn't it okay for a guy to mention that he likes a certain article of clothing that you own better than the one you have on? You don't have to listen to him, but if I don't like a shirt on my b-friend, I might say something like, "Honey, this other one looks better on you." Also, I think any sane woman knows that fairytale relationships don't exist in the real world, and the part about looking at most men in the first 30 seconds as if they could be their Prince Charming? Uhhh, sounds creepy!

I wonder if the author meant "You better not wear that"

I liked it tho, lol.....I'm just a simple gal.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Sorry, no offense to the OP, but I gotta hate on this one...

Seems way too simplistic to me. People are so much more complicated than this. What does it mean to be controversial? I mean, Hitler was controversial. Why isn't it okay for a guy to mention that he likes a certain article of clothing that you own better than the one you have on? You don't have to listen to him, but if I don't like a shirt on my b-friend, I might say something like, "Honey, this other one looks better on you." Also, I think any sane woman knows that fairytale relationships don't exist in the real world, and the part about looking at most men in the first 30 seconds as if they could be their Prince Charming? Uhhh, sounds creepy!

Very true, ive seen ladies that look good one day, and then jaw dropping the next day just by what they are wearing. I cant think of one guy who likes every peice of clothing a woman owns, and id tell her that, in a gentle way of course. Womans clothing can greatly effect their physical attributes. Good points on the whole fairy tale idea too, not gonna happen. I agree with the whole sensitve thing, a little bit they like, but not too much or your just like them, then your just another girlfriend.

Edit- A woman will never feel perfect, otherwise there would never be room for improvment. Always making yourself better is a good thing.

[anb1683]

The whole article is about balance the way I see it. we want sensitive but willing to fight, we want suprises, but not all the time, we want gentle, then we want rough...don't tell me what not to wear, but be positive and tell me what looks good, and when I ask, Do I look fat, please tell me, cause I know I still have a lot of work to do LOL (this is probably just for me), it's all balance the way I see and honesty...and of course love.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

The whole article is about balance the way I see it. we want sensitive but willing to fight, we want suprises, but not all the time, we want gentle, then we want rough...don't tell me what not to wear, but be positive and tell me what looks good, and when I ask, Do I look fat, please tell me, cause I know I still have a lot of work to do LOL (this is probably just for me), it's all balance the way I see and honesty...and of course love.

I cant see what you said, but I think all women would want all of that, in varying degrees. Know what I mean?

[Karsk]

So... women like men who are walking contradictions... that's... that's just super... really.

Gentle and rough at the same time? Sounds like someone's just shared with me new and exciting ways to get slapped by strangers.

No, seriously... that article was really informative... cause I can't count the number of times I've tried that 'hey you, come here!' line

[anb1683]

So... women like men who are walking contradictions... that's... that's just super... really.

Gentle and rough at the same time? Sounds like someone's just shared with me new and exciting ways to get slapped by strangers.

No, seriously... that article was really informative... cause I can't count the number of times I've tried that 'hey you, come here!' line
No one said this is easy...understanding us girls, we think we are simple, but I'm starting to see that maybe we are simple to us cause we are so complex...and men are just super simple (not a bad thing, I love simple men LOL)

[GrayWolf]

Lolll, good article... All girls in all culture and contry dream romance. They soft flirt and dreaming romance with nice guy (sometime with gay friend) but at the end Girls fall for jerk... Exemple ? Evrebody here have seen in certain moment Hot quality women crumch for jerk in the same time the nice quality man turn around her but she's not crunch for him.

[Karsk]

No one said this is easy...understanding us girls, we think we are simple, but I'm starting to see that maybe we are simple to us cause we are so complex...and men are just super simple (not a bad thing, I love simple men LOL)

Heh... it was more the fact it's written by a man that's laughable... as if we have even the faintest idea of what a woman actually wants in all aspects... perhaps a few, by (painful) trial and error. It'd be ironic if the author was single.

By the same token though... a physicist doesn't find physics complicated because he has background knowledge, and deals with the formulas every day... I'd think that would be a suitable analogy regarding a woman's innate understand of another perhaps?

Simple? I'm as simple as they come, luckily for me!

[anb1683]

Heh... it was more the fact it's written by a man that's laughable... as if we have even the faintest idea of what a woman actually wants in all aspects... perhaps a few, by (painful) trial and error. It'd be ironic if the author was single.

By the same token though... a physicist doesn't find physics complicated because he has background knowledge, and deals with the formulas every day... I'd think that would be a suitable analogy regarding a woman's innate understand of another perhaps?

Simple? I'm as simple as they come, luckily for me!
Most likely LOL...who knows, maybe we are all just not meant to ever understand eachother, maybe we are meant to be facinated with the opposite sex for the rest of our lives...