Do girls still like romantic guys?

[rude boy]

it seems like girls dont like when guys do romantic stuff for them anymore. i love to be romantic but i dont wanna waste the effort if the chick's not gonna appreciate it

[artsong27]

it seems like girls dont like when guys do romantic stuff for them anymore. i love to be romantic but i dont wanna waste the effort if the chick's not gonna appreciate it

This girl loves romance and chivalry!

[rude boy]

This girl loves romance and chivalry!

Alllllllrighty then!!

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[lulublue]

I love romance and chivalry but we girls are brought up to be so independant that sometimes it is hard to accept a man wanting to open doors or pay for our meal.
My last boyfriend would pay for everything, to the point that I would not bother even bringing a purse/wallet when we went out, i felt guilty about it but he believed a man should be the provider and it made him happy to do that.

[thenewchamp]

Its so rare to meet a chivalrous and romantic guy that we tend to become hesitant and wonder what he wants or what he is up to. Those who are C and R have the tendency to be a pushover and thats a huge turn off.

[gountilfailure0]

most women run to men who treat them like shyte so being a gentleman means ur soft??? i can see if the man would let another man disrespect u and not do anything thats definatly bad

[thenewchamp]

most women run to men who treat them like shyte so being a gentleman means ur soft??? i can see if the man would let another man disrespect u and not do anything thats definatly bad

No, that's not what I'm saying. I love the gentleman but there is a difference between being romantic and maintaining your individuality and strength; and being a pushover who is just does what his woman says...then she runs all over him and causes a whole other forum question.

[Jamie M]

I'd take a romantic guy any day, especially after my ex. He wouldn't even take me out for dinner...ever (y'rly)

[KennyK]

I'd take a romantic guy any day, especially after my ex. He wouldn't even take me out for dinner...ever (y'rly)
Was this your ex?


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[Blasphemare]

I'm the type that loves romance, cuddling, and all that mushy stuff. However, I think every girl has a little bit of bad lurking beneath the surface.

Luckily, my hubby is a good combo of romantic and crazy! <3 Yay!

[lulublue]

I'm the type that loves romance, cuddling, and all that mushy stuff. However, I think every girl has a little bit of bad lurking beneath the surface.

Luckily, my hubby is a good combo of romantic and crazy! <3 Yay!

Yeah my ex was a tough guy who was sweet and cuddly at heart

sigh big cuddly tough ferocious teddy bear

(not too much to ask surely)

[Blasphemare]

Yeah my ex was a tough guy who was sweet and cuddly at heart

sigh big cuddly tough ferocious teddy bear

(not too much to ask surely)

Awwww *patpat* You sound like you miss him!

But seriously.. ^_^ I don't think it's too much to ask! :D

[Amanda76]

it seems like girls dont like when guys do romantic stuff for them anymore. i love to be romantic but i dont wanna waste the effort if the chick's not gonna appreciate it


The only time I don't appreciate it is when I'm not attracted to the guy. And it's not so much lack of appreciation as it is awkward to know someone put effort into doing something really sweet when I have no desire to give them the kind of relationship they are apparently working toward.

So, IMO if a girl likes you, she'll want to know you like her too and will be pleased with any romantic gesture. If a girl acts funny when you behave in a romantic way, she's trying to figure out how not to encourage you without offending you. I mean, we all appreciate the effort...it's just coming from the wrong guy sometimes.

[anb1683]

I like romance, just not all the time, you have to spread it out, otherwise its expected...It's good for both people to be romantic...I just do't like it over done.

[lulublue]

The only time I don't appreciate it is when I'm not attracted to the guy. And it's not so much lack of appreciation as it is awkward to know someone put effort into doing something really sweet when I have no desire to give them the kind of relationship they are apparently working toward.

So, IMO if a girl likes you, she'll want to know you like her too and will be pleased with any romantic gesture. If a girl acts funny when you behave in a romantic way, she's trying to figure out how not to encourage you without offending you. I mean, we all appreciate the effort...it's just coming from the wrong guy sometimes.

x2

Yep we all want a guy to call but when we're not interested and he calls 5 times a week

yeaaaaaargh!!!!! :mad:

[Sar-Wah]

Yep Romance is nice.... open doors and let them walk in front... stand when they get up from the dining table....make sure your girl is ok when you leave her with your mates..... all these things are nice.... :)

[CoffeCanSlayer]

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Yep we all want a guy to call but when we're not interested and he calls 5 times a week

yeaaaaaargh!!!!! :mad:

Ive run in to this quite a bit lately, but what threw me off was when I saw her in person, she would be all excited to see me, and grab my side, or some sort of cute contact (to me thats showing intrest, but what do I know) and over the phone, she was very rude/uninterested. I havent talked to her since.

[lulublue]

Ive run in to this quite a bit lately, but what threw me off was when I saw her in person, she would be all excited to see me, and grab my side, or some sort of cute contact (to me thats showing intrest, but what do I know) and over the phone, she was very rude/uninterested. I havent talked to her since.

Yeah thats definitely mixed messages

Your'e best bet is to raise the issue with her and try to decipher the reason behind it,
are you calling her at work?
are you calling too often?
there may be reasons behind it

Good luck smallfry :)

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Thanks lulu, but we actually werent dating. She wanted to play games, and I-no play games. I move on to the next, cause there is plenty more :). There is a lot more behind this story, but I dont think you wanna hear it. Definatley a mind twister.

[lulublue]

Thanks lulu, but we actually werent dating. She wanted to play games, and I-no play games. I move on to the next, cause there is plenty more :). There is a lot more behind this story, but I dont think you wanna hear it. Definatley a mind twister.

Smart move Smallfry games are only fun for the one playing them

You're very right, there are people out there who want to treat you right so why waste time with the others :)

[Jamie M]

Ive run in to this quite a bit lately, but what threw me off was when I saw her in person, she would be all excited to see me, and grab my side, or some sort of cute contact (to me thats showing intrest, but what do I know) and over the phone, she was very rude/uninterested. I havent talked to her since.

Maybe she didn't like talking on the phone. My family listens in if I'm on the phone with a guy so I prefer to talk face to face.

[jp8207]

I love romance, but it seems that this day and age it's getting harder and harder to find. I also like a guy that will keep me on my toes and make me think, and that can make me laugh. It's hard to find all that in a guy LOL

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Smart move Smallfry games are only fun for the one playing them

You're very right, there are people out there who want to treat you right so why waste time with the others :)

Exactly, I dont have time for games, nor do I wanna play them if I did. She was the type that wanted to be chased, and beat around the bush on everything I said, or did. Thats not fun to be around, and im not running through hoops, not for her anyway, I know how to treat a woman, and its not behind her, letting her run over me. No thanks.

[kalagan]

I love romance and chivalry but we girls are brought up to be so independant that sometimes it is hard to accept a man wanting to open doors or pay for our meal.
My last boyfriend would pay for everything, to the point that I would not bother even bringing a purse/wallet when we went out, i felt guilty about it but he believed a man should be the provider and it made him happy to do that.

No offense but that's not really what i call being romantic.

Once, i was dating this beautiful girl, and before to leave her appartment on a saturday morning while she was sleeping, i bought some roses, i "putted" them (sp ?) on the table and she woke up 2 hours later while the stereo was playing a love song...then she watched the roses and was like "AWwwwwwwwwwww...............".

[kalagan]

I'd take a romantic guy any day, especially after my ex. He wouldn't even take me out for dinner...ever (y'rly)

AWwwwwwwwwww.




ps : i'm french, just sayin', and french people are very romantic.

[exnihillo]

Its so rare to meet a chivalrous and romantic guy that we tend to become hesitant and wonder what he wants or what he is up to.

This is so true..MOst guys who do things for women now days are just trying to get something..I am married, I am not trying to get with a women but simple things like holding a door and waiting for the lady to pass through or picking up something that was dropped gets me the wierdest looks...I am teaching my sons to be the same way..Most women seem to feel uncomfortable when a stranger does something for them...

[kalagan]

Most women seem to feel uncomfortable when a stranger does something for them...

Most women are really to insecure...or paranoiac.

[gogz]

I hope so, or what's the point

[exnihillo]

Most women are really to insecure...or paranoiac.

must spread some reps around before I can rep you again..

[lulublue]

This is so true..MOst guys who do things for women now days are just trying to get something..I am married, I am not trying to get with a women but simple things like holding a door and waiting for the lady to pass through or picking up something that was dropped gets me the wierdest looks...I am teaching my sons to be the same way..Most women seem to feel uncomfortable when a stranger does something for them...

Sound slike you are raising your sons to be respectable members of the community and I praise you highly for that :)

There is a huge lack of respect and common decency these days and only though our children can we really make a big change

(nothing to do with romanticness i know but i had to say it)

[Mr. Aries]

not sure if they still like romance and chivalry, but I can't change who I am.

[lulublue]

not sure if they still like romance and chivalry, but I can't change who I am.

Good man stick with who you are a lucky lady will appreciate it :)

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Sound slike you are raising your sons to be respectable members of the community and I praise you highly for that :)

There is a huge lack of respect and common decency these days and only though our children can we really make a big change

(nothing to do with romanticness i know but i had to say it)

Well actually it does, if you do not pass the logic through the family, then they will have to find out the hard way, or in most cases, they wont find out at all. I hear too many situations where the woman is being disrespected or even worse/beaten. Really sucks because theres not much anyone can do about it besides the woman in the situation. Sorry, got of to a rant there, but thats my .02.

[empresscat]

I love romance, but it's got to come from someone I already have a connection with, and it's got to be personal. Flowers on a first date is trying too hard. Flowers in a combination of his favorite color and mine - that's romantic. Candlelight on a first date is cheesy. Candlelight when we're hanging out at his place, and he knows I've had a stressful week - that's romantic.

Doing too much, too soon doesn't feel like it has to do with me, personally - but more with the idea of romance, or the idea of "what women like"... and in my experience tends to be manipulative. And if a guy makes romantic gestures, and I am still busy with work, or not interested in sex or whatever - then he tends to get pissy - as if the effort and money he spent entitles him to getting laid...

If, however, it comes from the heart, and it's personal - then it doesn't matter what it is - and I love little gifts and gestures that show me he's been thinking about me, and that he pays attention to my needs and my preferences.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

I love romance, but it's got to come from someone I already have a connection with, and it's got to be personal. Flowers on a first date is trying too hard. Flowers in a combination of his favorite color and mine - that's romantic. Candlelight on a first date is cheesy. Candlelight when we're hanging out at his place, and he knows I've had a stressful week - that's romantic.

Doing too much, too soon doesn't feel like it has to do with me, personally - but more with the idea of romance, or the idea of "what women like"... and in my experience tends to be manipulative. And if a guy makes romantic gestures, and I am still busy with work, or not interested in sex or whatever - then he tends to get pissy - as if the effort and money he spent entitles him to getting laid...

If, however, it comes from the heart, and it's personal - then it doesn't matter what it is - and I love little gifts and gestures that show me he's been thinking about me, and that he pays attention to my needs and my preferences.

How can you tell whether it comes from the heart, or whether he intends the action to get laid? A lot of times its missinturperated for just wanting to get laid, because in most cases a woman assumes all men are the same, just looking for the lay. I wouldnt think flowers on the first date would inquire that, just a good gesture. Thats what I dont understand, most of the time when a man does something good or romatic, all of you assume he has to up to something, or he is trying to hard. But, if he doesnt try too much, than he is disrespectful, so we are riding on a fine line. I guess thats why women are so damn confusing. (No flamming here, just curious)

[TurbulentFluid]

Depends of the chick. Personally, I think all this "romantic" stuff is there to waste my time. If romantic dinner/walk on the beach takes 1 hour and sex takes 20 minutes, let's do sex and I'll do a 30 minute workout and 30 minutes of programming instead of staring at empty space and listening to bollocks! :D
Also, I'm 100% sure it's all "just" to get layed. Why do you people say "just"? I mean, why'd he BE with me, if he didn't wanna get layed!? And why'd I be with him, if he didn't wanna get layed!? What would be the point? It's not about being "up to something", it's the very REASON why we're together! So save me the trip to the garbage bin to throw away the flowers (I hate them things, what idiot kills plants so they could slowly detherriorate and rot on their table?!), don't waste my time staring at sunsets (Has a dumber action ever been taken!? Well, except staring at the Moon!), let's get layed and go about our business!

Don't worry tho, if you want to do romantic crapiola, just find a girl that digs that kinda cr@p. You'll know; just try doing it and watch her: if she's staring through you, STOP! :D

[exnihillo]

Sound slike you are raising your sons to be respectable members of the community and I praise you highly for that :)

There is a huge lack of respect and common decency these days and only though our children can we really make a big change

(nothing to do with romanticness i know but i had to say it)

I think it does...If I teach them to respect and be considerate to women now, than it will become habit for them to be chivalrous to there wives/girlfriends/any women and they will be less uncomfortable being romantic....



And they may get laid more often..just saying

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Depends of the chick. Personally, I think all this "romantic" stuff is there to waste my time. If romantic dinner/walk on the beach takes 1 hour and sex takes 20 minutes, let's do sex and I'll do a 30 minute workout and 30 minutes of programming instead of staring at empty space and listening to bollocks! :D
Also, I'm 100% sure it's all "just" to get layed. Why do you people say "just"? I mean, why'd he BE with me, if he didn't wanna get layed!? And why'd I be with him, if he didn't wanna get layed!? What would be the point? It's not about being "up to something", it's the very REASON why we're together! So save me the trip to the garbage bin to throw away the flowers (I hate them things, what idiot kills plants so they could slowly detherriorate and rot on their table?!), don't waste my time staring at sunsets (Has a dumber action ever been taken!? Well, except staring at the Moon!), let's get layed and go about our business!

Don't worry tho, if you want to do romantic crapiola, just find a girl that digs that kinda cr@p. You'll know; just try doing it and watch her: if she's staring through you, STOP! :D

No I think your right, its not working for me anyway. I think ill just cut through the sh!t and get to the point from now on. Im sick of trying to figure you all out, get in and get out. Good points, I mean like you said, its all a waste of time anyway.

[empresscat]

How can you tell whether it comes from the heart, or whether he intends the action to get laid? A lot of times its missinturperated for just wanting to get laid, because in most cases a woman assumes all men are the same, just looking for the lay. I wouldnt think flowers on the first date would inquire that, just a good gesture. Thats what I dont understand, most of the time when a man does something good or romatic, all of you assume he has to up to something, or he is trying to hard. But, if he doesnt try too much, than he is disrespectful, so we are riding on a fine line. I guess thats why women are so damn confusing. (No flamming here, just curious)

Hey hon, flowers on the first date is trying too hard because until a couple knows each other a little bit - the special gestures should wait... and when they do start to know each other, and know that the investment (emotional and monetary) in doing more is worth it, then the specific gestures can be personal... they can be what they know the other person will like.

Women like a little of the thrill of the chase as much as men do... don't give everything on the first date, because then there's no challenge, and there's nothing left to earn. Also, if you wait on things like flowers, she'll know you well enough to understand the intention behind your actions.

What's the rush?

[SexyChic]

I love when my guy is romantic.

[Jon1989]

Heck I just do little things so far, such as opening the doors, sitting her down at the resteraunt, bought her a necklace and surprised her with it. Don't know if that'd be romantic, but heck I just like to love on her you know. But now it's back to the single game. ha ha

[anb1683]

How can you tell whether it comes from the heart, or whether he intends the action to get laid? A lot of times its missinturperated for just wanting to get laid, because in most cases a woman assumes all men are the same, just looking for the lay. I wouldnt think flowers on the first date would inquire that, just a good gesture. Thats what I dont understand, most of the time when a man does something good or romatic, all of you assume he has to up to something, or he is trying to hard. But, if he doesnt try too much, than he is disrespectful, so we are riding on a fine line. I guess thats why women are so damn confusing. (No flamming here, just curious)

I love getting flowers on the first date...or a teddy bear, got a couple of those from frist dates...How I usually tell if a guy is just trying to get laid is by getting me drunk. Seriously though, bringing me flowers shows respect and some old fashion good manners in my opinion, now taking me to dinner and ordering shots for us and bottle after bottle of wine is pretty much sleezy and no class. Don't loose your manners, bring girls flowers, there is nothing wrong with making someone feel special like that. Plus when a girl who hasn't gotten flowers in like three years gets them, (me) You probably will make her entire month LOL...