Soliciting Input - How many of you, both male & female...

[BuffedWildCat]

get sexually aroused at the SIGHT of an attractive male or female?

I've always thought it was mainly males who became sexually aroused by looking at an attractive female or in other words that more males are sexually aroused by sight alone as compared to females. But a recent event I experienced leads me to believe this may not be the case. I was approached via an email by a gal who basically told me that I turn her on, when she looks at me. So now this spurred some interesting questions in my mind that I'm hoping to shed some light on. Specifically:

1) To the straight females, are you or have you ever been sexually aroused just by the SIGHT of a man, just by his looks alone?

2) To the gay and bisexual females, same basic question, do you become sexually aroused just by looking at an attractive female (or male)?

3) To the straight males (and I think I already know the answer for 99% of you), do you become sexually aroused by the SIGHT of an attractive female?

4) To the gay and bisexual males, same basic question, do you become sexually aroused just by looking at an attractive male (female)?

Obviously I realize that I'll only get answers from those who are comfortable with their sexuality. So please, if you are willing to share, please do! I find this interesting.

[Dummkopf]

3) yes

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[HeatherAC]

1) To the straight females, are you or have you ever been sexually aroused just by the SIGHT of a man, just by his looks alone?


Obviously I realize that I'll only get answers from those who are comfortable with their sexuality. So please, if you are willing to share, please do! I find this interesting.

I'd rather attend a female strip club than male. Girls are prettier.

I generally find both attractive....but oddly enough, would tend to get more aroused from just an unknown attractive female, or a female and male together, than just an anonymous male alone. UNLESS - it's a nekked pic of MY man, and that does it every time.
Yes, I've been known to read both Playboy and Penthouse.....and I read the articles too! I think that women tend to look at other women for comparison and appreciation of beauty rather than just as a sexual object.

[Artimus Maximus]

I'd rather attend a female strip club than male. Girls are prettier.

I generally find both attractive....but oddly enough, would tend to get more aroused from just an unknown attractive female, or a female and male together, than just an anonymous male alone. UNLESS - it's a nekked pic of MY man, and that does it every time.
Yes, I've been known to read both Playboy and Penthouse.....and I read the articles too! I think that women tend to look at other women for comparison and appreciation of beauty rather than just as a sexual object.

You know you're bi right?

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

1. Yes.

This has only happened recently, since my sexuality was awakened (at a somewhat advanced age) by my much younger (sadly now ex) boyfriend. I could easily get turned on just looking at him, and now I know how amazing sex can (and should) be, I find myself getting aroused by any random sexy bloke who crosses my path. Its great :)

[HeatherAC]

You know you're bi right?

You know that simply admiring or finding someone of the same sex attractive or even arousing does not necessarily make one bi. (not that there's anything wrong with that).

[Artimus Maximus]

3) To the straight males (and I think I already know the answer for 99% of you), do you become sexually aroused by the SIGHT of an attractive female?


Depends on how big her tits are and how much of them I can see. If it's just a pretty girl walking by who's dressed heavily then no. Unless I start thinking about ****ing her or she bends down or something.

[LiftingIsLife]

[QUOTE=HeatherAC;54356921]
I'd rather attend a female strip club than male.

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DEFINITELY!!! :)

hi, straight male here:) (especially when looking at pix of naked women:)

seriously, for most males i know, simply looking at well-built CLOTHED females will get them sexually aroused!! i do think, however, that as males age, and/or get alot more sexual experience, (yes, i am over 40 damnit), it takes a NAKED women or a woman with a LOT of skin exposed to get the same reactions. in fact, i might go as far as saying that, for me anyway, now, simply seeing a beautiful naked woman in a non-sexual 'pose' doesnt affect me the same way as when i was younger. however, if said woman was acting provactively or pictured with some very obvious sexual inuendo, its defnitely FULL SPEED AHEAD for me:)

best,
~lifer

[RImuscle]

I have a very high sex drive and I am very easily turned on by men just by looking at them. It makes life interesting because I work all day with men and then I go to the gym and work with more men. Its like I don't have an off button at all, Im almost always turned on.

[Beklet]

Hmmm.

Generally, the sight of an attractive male doesn't make me sexually aroused, UNLESS it's a particular male I fancy or am seeing at the time, OR it's at a particular point in the month :D It's not necessarily the whole thing either - it can be small details such as nice forearms, arse, decent v-taper, short top and a happy trail, etc etc ;)

As for women - I can find naked females more arousing than a naked male, but I don't fancy them - it's more me putting myself in their place, or imagining what it would be like to be them. It's very difficult to explain.

I'm straight, btw, if that makes any difference :cool:

[Artimus Maximus]

You know that simply admiring or finding someone of the same sex attractive or even arousing does not necessarily make one bi. (not that there's anything wrong with that).

I can look at Klaus or Brad Pitt and objectively say I admire their beauty but I don't get sexually aroused by them because they are dudes. If you're more likely to be turned on by a woman than you are a man then you're definitely bi.

[HeatherAC]

I can look at Klaus or Brad Pitt and objectively say I admire their beauty but I don't get sexually aroused by them because they are dudes. If you're more likely to be turned on by a woman than you are a man then you're definitely bi.

You're 17. And sorry buddy, but girls are different than guys. No, I am not bi. But you are definitely unenlightened.

And I clearly stated that I am more likely to be turned on by a random woman than a random guy. Girls truly are prettier. BUT, I will be more turned on by my current man than anything else.

I don't need some 17 year old trying to tell me, a fully grown 31 year old adult, what my sexual preferences are. I'm fairly capable of analyzing them myself, thankyouverymuch.

Oh, I kissed a girl once, and even felt her boobies - guess what? - still hetero!

[BuffedWildCat]

hi, straight male here:) (especially when looking at pix of naked women:)

seriously, for most males i know, simply looking at well-built CLOTHED females will get them sexually aroused!! i do think, however, that as males age, and/or get alot more sexual experience, (yes, i am over 40 damnit), it takes a NAKED women or a woman with a LOT of skin exposed to get the same reactions. in fact, i might go as far as saying that, for me anyway, now, simply seeing a beautiful naked woman in a non-sexual 'pose' doesnt affect me the same way as when i was younger. however, if said woman was acting provactively or pictured with some very obvious sexual inuendo, its defnitely FULL SPEED AHEAD for me:)

best,
~lifer

That was another stipulation I had thought about, age. I was figuring that age would have a lot to do with it too. Thanks, you answered my question perfectly. :)

[BuffedWildCat]

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Generally, the sight of an attractive male doesn't make me sexually aroused, UNLESS it's a particular male I fancy or am seeing at the time, OR it's at a particular point in the month.

Yep, I generally find the same thing true with me. That's why I was intrigued when this girl who hit on me told me that I turn her on when the only place she has seen me was skating at a skating rink and walking around in at Walmart. I was intrigued by the fact that she actually got turned on just by looking at me so I thought I'd start this thread to see how common this is.

[thediabolical]

From my experience, I find myself being sexually attracted to a female...until she opens her mouth and mind to me. From that point on...it's either the sexual attraction continues or just drops off.

I think from what I have experienced with females is that females are attracted to a male, but that attraction or sexual attraction becomes stronger if the guy is good at drawing the female into his personal space and keeping her there by his words, body language, his sense of "giving and taking" when conversing with her. That causes a woman to be even more sexually attracted to the male.

[limniade]

Yep, I generally find the same thing true with me.

I third this statement. I also think that the fact that I have an artistic background makes a difference. From an early age, I was taught to see the human body literally as an object, to learn how to represent it on paper or canvas or film. So I can appreciate the beauty of a body (including bodies and body parts that aren't traditionally thought beautiful) because of the composition of it--but I don't find it sexually arousing, any more than a sunset or a flower is arousing. The two components are decidedly separate in my thought processes.

That said, if I fancy someone (to appropriate Beklet's Brit-slang, since it's a much more accurate word than "like"), they basically just have to be present for me to find it arousing.

[BuffedWildCat]

From my experience, I find myself being sexually attracted to a female...until she opens her mouth and mind to me. From that point on...it's either the sexual attraction continues or just drops off.

I think from what I have experienced with females is that females are attracted to a male, but that attraction or sexual attraction becomes stronger if the guy is good at drawing the female into his personal space and keeping her there by his words, body language, his sense of "giving and taking" when conversing with her. That causes a woman to be even more sexually attracted to the male.

Thanks for your input. And I totally agree with your second paragraph. I might find some male attractive just based on his looks, but that's not enough to get me sexually interested in him, there has to be more to it than that, or in other words he has to have more than just good looks to make me want to do anything with him sexually.

And on your first paragraph, so far I think that applies more to males the older they get. My husband has said something very similar. I get the idea that for the general male population, the older they get, the more control they seem to have as far as not letting all the blood go to their penises, and actually saving some for the brain, heh. I mean they might be just as sexually attracted to some female as they would get when they were younger but when they're older they're able to practice more self-restraint, and that's definitely a good thing in my book!

[Righteous1]

And on your first paragraph, so far I think that applies more to males the older they get. My husband has said something very similar. I get the idea that for the general male population, the older they get, the more control they seem to have as far as not letting all the blood go to their penises, and actually saving some for the brain, heh. I mean they might be just as sexually attracted to some female as they would get when they were younger but when they're older they're able to practice more self-restraint, and that's definitely a good thing in my book!

I would say if you are a male that has a good ability to attract females from a whole-listic point of view...meaning attracting them with your looks, style, personality, and your "way of life"; you, as a male, tend to be more picky in what you desire when dealing with females. On the other hand...beggars can not be picky. And it is brillant on a man's part to leave the female in a state of "wanting more from him" as they are conversing. Being a man...you should think like a female; never throw all your goodies out in front of her when front meeting. Give her something, or a little, to want to know you more, and to be more sexually attracted to you.

[Righteous1]

From my experience, I find myself being sexually attracted to a female...until she opens her mouth and mind to me. From that point on...it's either the sexual attraction continues or just drops off.

I think from what I have experienced with females is that females are attracted to a male, but that attraction or sexual attraction becomes stronger if the guy is good at drawing the female into his personal space and keeping her there by his words, body language, his sense of "giving and taking" when conversing with her. That causes a woman to be even more sexually attracted to the male.

I agree with you totally man.

[BuffedWildCat]

I would say if you are a male that has a good ability to attract females from a whole-listic point of view...meaning attracting them with your looks, style, personality, and your "way of life"; you, as a male, tend to be more picky in what you desire when dealing with females. On the other hand...beggars can not be picky. And it is brillant on a man's part to leave the female in a state of "wanting more from him" as they are conversing. Being a man...you should think like a female; never throw all your goodies out in front of her when front meeting. Give her something, or a little, to want to know you more, and to be more sexually attracted to you.

Oooh, good one!

[thediabolical]

There are a lot of things that guys need to learn and understand about females. Females are not difficult to understand...but us guys are just so hard headed when it comes to knowing what it is that attracts a woman.

[Below 30]

From my experience, I find myself being sexually attracted to a female...until she opens her mouth and mind to me. From that point on...it's either the sexual attraction continues or just drops off.

I think from what I have experienced with females is that females are attracted to a male, but that attraction or sexual attraction becomes stronger if the guy is good at drawing the female into his personal space and keeping her there by his words, body language, his sense of "giving and taking" when conversing with her. That causes a woman to be even more sexually attracted to the male.

The Relationship Help section could use your knowledge.


For me, I can get aroused by female body parts. A woman can be any age (over 18) and she could even be overweight and if her ass looks nice, I'm aroused. If a woman is again out of shape but has large visable breasts, I'm aroused. Here's the thing though, I would never have sexual relations with those type of women, because it woud scar my brain afterward (I wouldn't be able to get the moment out of my head).

So getting 'aroused' doesn't always mean a desire to actually have sexual relations with said target. For me, I need a girl who is physically fit (she could have no ass and A-cups) and has a face I like, for me to get sexual with her -30-

[claycat]

I love to look at all bodies, male or female, but, I look at them as an artist.

Show me a pic of brad Pitt shirtless with long hair and I might melt but, it doesn't really make me aroused. I think women mostly are attracted to the photos and men get really aroused (literally). If you understand what I mean about the difference.

I also think the female body is way more attractive in general than a mans, there are execptions though! I love the abs....yum, and a nice butt, and a built chest and arms and, and, oh, heck men look good too. I love all bodies!

[bttrthnb4]

I'm a tad confused with myself atm. I can appreciate both sexes, but not be turned on. I can say about a female, oh she's hot or sexy, whatever, but not necessarily be turned on. I can't just look a man and be turned on, I have to smell him, be close to him, talk to him, unless I am already in the mood. BUT, I can't watch male/female porn and be turned on...it just cracks me up. They're comedies to me, lol. On the otherhand, I can watch two women kissing and be turned on. I just don't know.....

[goddessamazon]

I like to look at both but I don't get sexually aroused. I look at the bodies like a work of art. Now there are times when I'll see a picture and become instantly attracted but never sexually aroused.

Maybe I don't get sexually aroused by looking at pictures because I want to know what type of person is in the picture. The woman could be a complete airhead or the guy could be a major jerk with great bodies. To me, that's not sexy. But show me the complete package (mind and body) and I'm hooked!

[HeatherAC]

I'm a tad confused with myself atm. I can appreciate both sexes, but not be turned on. I can say about a female, oh she's hot or sexy, whatever, but not necessarily be turned on. I can't just look a man and be turned on, I have to smell him, be close to him, talk to him, unless I am already in the mood. BUT, I can't watch male/female porn and be turned on...it just cracks me up. They're comedies to me, lol. On the otherhand, I can watch two women kissing and be turned on. I just don't know.....

Bow Chicka Wow Wow...........ha ha

Don't fret. It's normal.........do you watch it with your hubby?

[anb1683]

I get turned on easy...show me a hot guy without his shirt or even with his shirt or even if I'm attracted to their personality I get nervous and excited and all that good stuff, especially if they are flirty and touchy feely LOL. I don't get turned on by seeing a girl, but girl on girl porn can be hot. (No homo) It's just hot, they look better during sex then the guys, they make it look more intense I guess...but I'm strickly dickly, thanks.

[bttrthnb4]

Bow Chicka Wow Wow...........ha ha

Don't fret. It's normal.........do you watch it with your hubby?

NO...I have issues with porn, lol. Deep issues. Unrational issues. My exfiance had ****loads of the stuff, all over his place ( I mean his parent's place) and then I caught him sleeping with two other girls...and then my husband and I have had issues with him and porn. I've offered to do it for him, get it for him, watch it with him, but he chose to hide things from me so we don't really do porn.

I'm a bitch, I know.

[anb1683]

[QUOTE=HeatherAC;54451861]Bow Chicka Wow Wow...........ha ha
QUOTE]


You took the words right out of my mouth!!!

[HeatherAC]

NO...I have issues with porn, lol. Deep issues. Unrational issues. My exfiance had ****loads of the stuff, all over his place ( I mean his parent's place) and then I caught him sleeping with two other girls...and then my husband and I have had issues with him and porn. I've offered to do it for him, get it for him, watch it with him, but he chose to hide things from me so we don't really do porn.

I'm a bitch, I know.

You're not a bitch. You've just lived a life and have some baggage associated with the pornage. No big deal. As long as you and your hubby are working through it somehow, then that's all that matters.

My sister used to freak out about my brother-in-law's porn feeling some sort of betrayal, when really, all he wanted to do was just spank the sausage. I think we as women tend to see fapping to anything that is not us as a betrayal, when in the man's view, it's just fapping.

[bttrthnb4]

You're not a bitch. You've just lived a life and have some baggage associated with the pornage. No big deal. As long as you and your hubby are working through it somehow, then that's all that matters.

My sister used to freak out about my brother-in-law's porn feeling some sort of betrayal, when really, all he wanted to do was just spank the sausage. I think we as women tend to see fapping to anything that is not us as a betrayal, when in the man's view, it's just fapping.

And deep inside I know it's not about anything other than beating it. But, being the women with self image issues that I have, it drives me nuts. I've even considered getting counseling for it, LOL!

[HeatherAC]

And deep inside I know it's not about anything other than beating it. But, being the women with self image issues that I have, it drives me nuts. I've even considered getting counseling for it, LOL!

Do it. Counseling is good. And helps.

And even though I will say that I can't understand your body image issues because you are totally hot (no lesbo) - I know that you are a woman and being one will have a hard time being satisfied with your own image because that's what we do. ;)

[bttrthnb4]

Do it. Counseling is good. And helps.

And even though I will say that I can't understand your body image issues because you are totally hot (no lesbo) - I know that you are a woman and being one will have a hard time being satisfied with your own image because that's what we do. ;)

Thank you Heather :)
You are teh shyit.

[Below 30]

I can't just look a man and be turned on, I have to smell him, be close to him, talk to him, unless I am already in the mood.



Maybe I don't get sexually aroused by looking at pictures because I want to know what type of person is in the picture. The woman could be a complete airhead or the guy could be a major jerk with great bodies. To me, that's not sexy. But show me the complete package (mind and body) and I'm hooked!


I get turned on easy...show me a hot guy without his shirt or even with his shirt or even if I'm attracted to their personality I get nervous and excited and all that good stuff, especially if they are flirty and touchy feely LOL. I don't get turned on by seeing a girl, but girl on girl porn can be hot. (No homo) It's just hot, they look better during sex then the guys, they make it look more intense I guess...but I'm strickly dickly, thanks.

This is good information showing that many females really do need the personality factor from men to complete the sexual attraction-30-

[goddessamazon]

I don't get turned on by seeing a girl, but girl on girl porn can be hot. (No homo) It's just hot, they look better during sex then the guys, they make it look more intense I guess...but I'm strickly dickly, thanks.

This is confusing. You think girl on girl porn is hot and you get turned on by it but you are not bi or gay.

How is that possible? Just asking and not attacking.

[TDetroit]

3.
Yes, but living to depressing of a life right now to get the full benefit.

[kensterz]

Okay, so number 3. If you mean aroused like get an instant hard on, then no. I believe in having self-control, and I NEVER get an erection in just a random public area. When I see an attractive female, I think, "Oh wow, she is good looking. Whoever has her must be lucky." Then I think nothing else of her. Serious. And I'm not homo, I'm pretty sure of that. So that was to answer the question, but what gets me a hard on is physical touching/stimulation, if it's depending on what I think of the person. Regardless of how I see the person as, I WILL get a hard on if I'm touched in the right areas. But to mentally turn me on, it just has to be a very attractive female both physically and personality-wise.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

No, I start to wonder what a big b*** she is, because most good looking women are shallow as hell, call me a liar, but in every case I have been in proves me right.

[kensterz]

No, I start to wonder what a big b*** she is, because most good looking women are shallow as hell, call me a liar, but in every case I have been in proves me right.

I couldn't get myself to judge a person just by looking at them, but that's just me.

[bttrthnb4]

No, I start to wonder what a big b*** she is, because most good looking women are shallow as hell, call me a liar, but in every case I have been in proves me right.

Not a liar...just influenced by experiences...

[CoffeCanSlayer]

Yeah, maybe one day my expierences will lean the other way. Or maybe its the lack of experience, as I am only 20?

[bttrthnb4]

Yeah, maybe one day my expierences will lean the other way. Or maybe its the lack of experience, as I am only 20?

Yes, you have many years ahead of you, grasshoppa :D

[anb1683]

This is confusing. You think girl on girl porn is hot and you get turned on by it but you are not bi or gay.

How is that possible? Just asking and not attacking.
I have no desire to be with a girl...

[HeatherAC]

This is confusing. You think girl on girl porn is hot and you get turned on by it but you are not bi or gay.

How is that possible? Just asking and not attacking.

It is entirely possible. I will admit to finding girl/girl action arousing, just as as I find guy/girl action arousing. I do NOT find guy/guy action anywhere on the scale of appealing.

Yet, go figure - I have turned down the opportunity to actually be with a chick. And, yes, I absolutely adore my man and his nice big Polish sausage. Nothing gets me turned on more. Heck, just the sound of his voice sends chills down my spine!


Yeah, maybe one day my expierences will lean the other way. Or maybe its the lack of experience, as I am only 20?

Good call. As you mature a little and experience new things you will see that not all attractive women are bitchy. That's not to say that there aren't attractive girls that ARE bitchy/snotty, just that not all of them are. Some are actually quite nice, but just the fact that they are so attractive makes them seem unapproachable - even if they are not truly standoffish or snooty.

[anb1683]

This is good information showing that many females really do need the personality factor from men to complete the sexual attraction-30-
I don't need it, I was simply saying that I can be turned on by a man's personality...

[Below 30]

Too late -30-

[7deadlycyns]

I'm attracted to both, but I rarely get more than slightly aroused by seeing a random, attractive, clothed person. If they're naked, then it's pretty much inevitable. I don't have to know anything about personality to be turned on. I can appreciate the physical beauty of both males and females, like others said on here, but I also get turned on by both. Um, as far as porn goes, I prefer either female only or male and female, but I think that mostly has to do with the way porn "for women" is usually portrayed. Most of it doesn't do anything for me.

Personality does matter, of course, if I want to get in a relationship with someone. A good personality does make a person more attractive to me, but it's not as if I magically see them as physically hotter. I'm just more attracted to that person as a whole. Brian Peppers isn't going to suddenly look like Gerard Butler to me just because he has similar interests to me and is a great conversationalist.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

heatherac- that is true, but sometimes, and you'll laugh, but I can kinda read people, and alot of times I just get this bitch vibe, like if you dont have a six pack, dont bother talking to me kinda feeling. This one girl I know, made fun of every overweight person, never talked to them jsut ignored like they didnt even exist, and the more women I meet, the more and more I see feeling the same way. Especially with the way the world is now pushing the big hollister preppy boy, have nothing but chest and arms look, ya know?

[4estGimp]

My sister used to freak out about my brother-in-law's porn feeling some sort of betrayal, when really, all he wanted to do was just spank the sausage. I think we as women tend to see fapping to anything that is not us as a betrayal, when in the man's view, it's just fapping.

Finally.... Now we just need the rest of the female population to understand that.

[goddessamazon]

I have no desire to be with a girl...

If you get turned on by girl on girl porn and find it hot doesn't necessarily mean that you want to act on those desires. Not now anyway.


It is entirely possible. I will admit to finding girl/girl action arousing, just as as I find guy/girl action arousing. I do NOT find guy/guy action anywhere on the scale of appealing.

Yet, go figure - I have turned down the opportunity to actually be with a chick. And, yes, I absolutely adore my man and his nice big Polish sausage. Nothing gets me turned on more. Heck, just the sound of his voice sends chills down my spine!


There's this type of porn out (it's been out for years now) where two people put on animal suits and have sex. I saw this video once and found it funny. I wasn't turned on at all. Not but a long shot. But let's say for example I did find it hot. That doesn't mean I'm going to instantly buy a bear costume for me and my boyfriend (and/or girlfriend) so we can do it.

But I'm sure sooner or later I'll act out these fantasies for curiosity sake.

My point is that people find things hot or are turned on by something they have interest in. Whether you act on it or not. Am I wrong?

[HeatherAC]

heatherac- that is true, but sometimes, and you'll laugh, but I can kinda read people, and alot of times I just get this bitch vibe, like if you dont have a six pack, dont bother talking to me kinda feeling. This one girl I know, made fun of every overweight person, never talked to them jsut ignored like they didnt even exist, and the more women I meet, the more and more I see feeling the same way. Especially with the way the world is now pushing the big hollister preppy boy, have nothing but chest and arms look, ya know?

Here is a helpful hint: when you get the bitch vibe, it is generally good to go with your instincts. They're giving it off for a reason, and it's generally best to just avoid altogether.

Oh, and the whole world is not pushing the big Hollister preppy boy thing, maybe just the young 20-something crowd? Cuz', frankly, I'm not seeing it.

[anb1683]

If you get turned on by girl on girl porn and find it hot doesn't necessarily mean that you want to act on those desires. Not now anyway.




There's this type of porn out (it's been out for years now) where two people put on animal suits and have sex. I saw this video once and found it funny. I wasn't turned on at all. Not but a long shot. But let's say for example I did find it hot. That doesn't mean I'm going to instantly buy a bear costume for me and my boyfriend (and/or girlfriend) so we can do it.

But I'm sure sooner or later I'll act out these fantasies for curiosity sake.

My point is that people find things hot or are turned on by something they have interest in. Whether you act on it or not. Am I wrong?
No I see where you are coming from, the thing for me is with the girl porn, I think thats what makes it good, the girl is usually the one who makes the noises and has the intense face and thats what porn is, i def like watching the weiner though...LOL

And exactly, just because I find girl on girl hot, I'm not going to turn bi or gay...I like threesome porn better then just two girls, and usually with girl on girl if its just two they have something to use...which makes it better.

[anb1683]

Finally.... Now we just need the rest of the female population to understand that.
I don't see why girls get so weird about the porn thing...I mean I understand that it can make them insecure, but it's not like the guy can get that girl or even wants that girl...I dunno, I believe if you don't want to be with someone don't waste their time, I know Im a big flirt and I need a secure guy who knows just because I flirt or talk to guys it doesn't mean I want more, and I'm the same way, if I had a boyfriend and he was a flirt I'm fine with it...obviously there is a line that both shouldn't cross, but I think that is known...I hate jealousy and I will admit when I am, but it's rare and you really have to be pushing my buttons for me to get jealous...porn to me is a tool that you can have fun with...alone or with someone.

[goddessamazon]

No I see where you are coming from, the thing for me is with the girl porn, I think thats what makes it good, the girl is usually the one who makes the noises and has the intense face and thats what porn is, i def like watching the weiner though...LOL

But the girl can make the same noises and intense faces with men too! But I think I see where you a coming from. It's not that girl on girl makes you hot or turns you on. You are watching it to take notes for your own sexual usage with men?


And exactly, just because I find girl on girl hot, I'm not going to turn bi or gay...I like threesome porn better then just two girls, and usually with girl on girl if its just two they have something to use...which makes it better.

It's not about turning bi or gay. I see a huge fear of being labeled with a lot of people in today's society. But the truth of the matter is.........When it comes to porn we are turned on by things or people we are personally interested in.

[HeatherAC]

There's this type of porn out (it's been out for years now) where two people put on animal suits and have sex. I saw this video once and found it funny. I wasn't turned on at all. Not but a long shot. But let's say for example I did find it hot. That doesn't mean I'm going to instantly buy a bear costume for me and my boyfriend (and/or girlfriend) so we can do it.

But I'm sure sooner or later I'll act out these fantasies for curiosity sake.

My point is that people find things hot or are turned on by something they have interest in. Whether you act on it or not. Am I wrong?

I've seen those furry people - on HBO's Real Sex....LOVE that show, dang, I wish we had HBO! And have found quite a bit of the stuff on there to be more interesting/entertaining/shocking than anything else.

Just having a fantasy, especially a sexual one, does not mean that one is going to try it out. Part of the fun of fantasy is that it is just that - fantasy. Not reality - if I had the chance to act out a girl/girl situation in real life, I would turn it down. Easily.

Yes, I have interest in women as sensual and attractive beings, but that doesn't mean I want to bump uglies with one.

[lulublue]

[My 2 cents]

I find both sexes very attractive in fact i probably look at women more on the street than i look at guys.
I have experimented with women but would never even dream of dating one as i just simply don't have that full on attratcion there.
I think putting a lebel such as bi or straight is ridiculous as it doesn't mean anything or help anyone you are who you are and you feel what you feel.
Personally i like porn but i would have an issue with it being hidden from me if i wa in a relationship, if something is hidden then you feel there is a reason for it to be hidden and you worry.

I think there is a major distinction between finding someone attractive and being turned on by them, i need at least words or actions to have that happen.

[/my 2 cents]

[goddessamazon]

I've seen those furry people - on HBO's Real Sex....LOVE that show, dang, I wish we had HBO! And have found quite a bit of the stuff on there to be more interesting/entertaining/shocking than anything else.

That's it! That's the name of that porn. Furry People. Thanks! My friend is into that and has a shelf load of furry porn. I watched one DVD and I was on the floor laughing my azz off! The best laugh I had in a while. Hee Hee!



Just having a fantasy, especially a sexual one, does not mean that one is going to try it out. Part of the fun of fantasy is that it is just that - fantasy. Not reality - if I had the chance to act out a girl/girl situation in real life, I would turn it down. Easily.

Yes, I have interest in women as sensual and attractive beings, but that doesn't mean I want to bump uglies with one.

**cringes at the term bump uglies**

I can't speak for you Ladies by my "Kitty Kat" is far from ugly! I'm sure it was a man who came up with that term because I can't see how a woman could do that.

[anb1683]

But the girl can make the same noises and intense faces with men too! But I think I see where you a coming from. It's not that girl on girl makes you hot or turns you on. You are watching it to take notes for your own sexual usage with men?



It's not about turning bi or gay. I see a huge fear of being labeled with a lot of people in today's society. But the truth of the matter is.........When it comes to porn we are turned on by things or people we are personally interested in.

Yes exactly...No I love guy/girl porn...thats my favorite, for sure, but I was saying that girl on girl is hot too, and I like threesome porn (Gosh I sound like a perv LOL) but yes porn can be a great teaching tool I believe.

Yeah I understand that thought...maybe I do want to be with a girl LMAO...j/k I dunno I've been asked to join in with a man and women before, always have turned it down, but if I were I would think i would be more into the man...but you never know until you are in that situation.

[goddessamazon]

[My 2 cents]

I find both sexes very attractive in fact i probably look at women more on the street than i look at guys.
I have experimented with women but would never even dream of dating one as i just simply don't have that full on attratcion there.
I think putting a lebel such as bi or straight is ridiculous as it doesn't mean anything or help anyone you are who you are and you feel what you feel.
Personally i like porn but i would have an issue with it being hidden from me if i wa in a relationship, if something is hidden then you feel there is a reason for it to be hidden and you worry.

I think there is a major distinction between finding someone attractive and being turned on by them, i need at least words or actions to have that happen.

[/my 2 cents]


Yeah, I think the label thing is the big issue here. Me? When it comes to labels I can take it or leave it. I'm sort of indifferent to it.

[anb1683]

[QUOTE=lulublue;54504151][My 2 cents]
Personally i like porn but i would have an issue with it being hidden from me if i wa in a relationship, if something is hidden then you feel there is a reason for it to be hidden and you worry.
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I completly agree with you on the hiding it thing...I think that is a definite red flag...no reason to hide porn LOL

[goddessamazon]

Yes exactly...No I love guy/girl porn...thats my favorite, for sure, but I was saying that girl on girl is hot too, and I like threesome porn (Gosh I sound like a perv LOL) but yes porn can be a great teaching tool I believe.

Yeah I understand that thought...maybe I do want to be with a girl LMAO...j/k I dunno I've been asked to join in with a man and women before, always have turned it down, but if I were I would think i would be more into the man...but you never know until you are in that situation.

LOL!!!!! I understand but let me tell you about FFM 3somes. Unless the man took viagra or yohimbe to keep both women pleased he is just in the way. Most of them rely on the other woman to pick up the slack anyway! Puh!

[lulublue]

LOL!!!!! I understand but let me tell you about FFM 3somes. Unless the man took viagra or yohimbe to keep both women pleased he is just in the way. Most of them rely on the other woman to pick up the slack anyway! Puh!

Yep you just have to take turns! :D

I think if it is something you want to experience then go for it but if you're not sure then you're better off playing it safe.
There would be nothing worse that getting into that situation and wanting to leave but feeling like you couldn't

[anb1683]

Most guys can hardly handle one women, would never expect them to handle two hehehe

[rmomjian]

Most guys can hardly handle one women, would never expect them to handle two hehehe

you are correct... but keep in mind at one time, we were not able to handle even one.... but with practice we learned.

so... that said, with some practice and good listening skills, i think we can learn how to please two

to be honest.. i agree with the post above by godess but after the first time (assuming he can lkeep going), no viagra needed, a guy can then take his time and go with the flow, especially if he knows the two women well and knows their needs

again, it all comes down to practice, practice, practice (joking and serious)

[anb1683]

you are correct... but keep in mind at one time, we were not able to handle even one.... but with practice we learned.

so... that said, with some practice and good listening skills, i think we can learn how to please two

to be honest.. i agree with the post above by godess but after the first time (assuming he can lkeep going), no viagra needed, a guy can then take his time and go with the flow, especially if he knows the two women well and knows their needs

again, it all comes down to practice, practice, practice (joking and serious)
yeah you're right...practice makes perfect in any situation, and a lot of guys get stuck with girls who don't put out, people like Oprah/Dr. OZ are hopefully changing that (Dr. Oz says that you should have sex like 5 times a week or something which equals out to a lot in a year, but its good for you)

[goddessamazon]

you are correct... but keep in mind at one time, we were not able to handle even one.... but with practice we learned.

so... that said, with some practice and good listening skills, i think we can learn how to please two

to be honest.. i agree with the post above by godess but after the first time (assuming he can lkeep going), no viagra needed, a guy can then take his time and go with the flow, especially if he knows the two women well and knows their needs

again, it all comes down to practice, practice, practice (joking and serious)

See! Now this is the complete package! Brains and Bod.

Hello Airtan? I need a ticket to San Fransisco please! ;)

[rmomjian]

yeah you're right...practice makes perfect in any situation, and a lot of guys get stuck with girls who don't put out, people like Oprah/Dr. OZ are hopefully changing that (Dr. Oz says that you should have sex like 5 times a week or something which equals out to a lot in a year, but its good for you)

sad but women's lib took hold in the early part of the century and it took this long for women to realize it is okay to enjoy sex. one of the most natural thing humans can do was turned into a dirty thing by the ones who want to do it the most, men. this backwards type thinking is the same **** the glbt community is dealing with now... but that is life i guess.

i'm all for sex 5 times a week. i'm all for women being liberate in practice and mind. but please, don't make me do dishes... i hate cleaning dishes. (total joke.. please don?t neuter me) :D

[DonMegaR]

3) To the straight males (and I think I already know the answer for 99% of you), do you become sexually aroused by the SIGHT of an attractive female?


yes, sometimes even walking by a girl or seeing one across a room, or even a glance will trigger an fantasy to be remembered later

[anb1683]

sad but women's lib took hold in the early part of the century and it took this long for women to realize it is okay to enjoy sex. one of the most natural thing humans can do was turned into a dirty thing by the ones who want to do it the most, men. this backwards type thinking is the same **** the glbt community is dealing with now... but that is life i guess.

i'm all for sex 5 times a week. i'm all for women being liberate in practice and mind. but please, don't make me do dishes... i hate cleaning dishes. (total joke.. please don?t neuter me) :D
Well women are so insecure today...society does that, I mean you have these supermodels, actresses, singers all super thin and girls think that's what guys want, (Again this goes back to me saying, if a guy doesnt want to be with you he will leave, vice versa) and it warps their brains, and they don't want to be naked or feel liberated, and always worried about what they look like...when you're worried you can't enjoy it, therefore have no desire for it. Frankly, I think that times are a changing and more and more women are exploring and being more open. **** we have classes that teach us how to strip, pole dance and belly dance...they're are no classes for guys to take LOL...the ladies are coming around.

[lulublue]

There is absolutely a insecurity about our bodies issue i agree with you there anb but i also think there is still a stigma attatched to women who like casual secs
Personally i would love to be in a relationship with a man i love and if i am i don't cheat or crave anyone else but when single I like to get some also.
Unfortunately quite often i don't give in to my urges as i know that i will be seen as a sl%t or something like that.
I know i shouldn't care what others think of me but unfortunately we all do and having a reputation for sleeping around is not something i desire so i just don't do it!
There are plenty of guys that miss out (and i do too) just because of a label that i don't want to acquire

[anb1683]

There is absolutely a insecurity about our bodies issue i agree with you there anb but i also think there is still a stigma attatched to women who like casual secs
Personally i would love to be in a relationship with a man i love and if i am i don't cheat or crave anyone else but when single I like to get some also.
Unfortunately quite often i don't give in to my urges as i know that i will be seen as a sl%t or something like that.
I know i shouldn't care what others think of me but unfortunately we all do and having a reputation for sleeping around is not something i desire so i just don't do it!
There are plenty of guys that miss out (and i do too) just because of a label that i don't want to acquire
I totally agree with you on that as well...you don't want to be known as the town slut that's for sure LOL...two words F*ck Buddy...seriously great for those in between relationships LOL. I think that casual sex with women is coming around and the whole "how many people have you slept with" conversation really isn't a conversation anymore, I never ask it...cause I don't care, as long as your clean, we're cool. you can't change the past and your decisions you made, just make smart ones.

[arobot]

Honestly, not really. When I see a hot guy I think, "Damn, he's hot." It doesn't make me want to do the dirty or anything.

[limniade]

Actually, women's lib took hold in the latter half of the century. (The last century.)

[BuffedWildCat]

Thanks so much everyone for all your input, I've enjoyed reading everyone's responses, I think this turned into a great thread, thanks everyone! As I read thru it I came up with some more to add:


This is good information showing that many females really do need the personality factor from men to complete the sexual attraction-30-

Oh yes, most definitely, at least in my case.


This is confusing. You think girl on girl porn is hot and you get turned on by it but you are not bi or gay.

How is that possible? Just asking and not attacking.

I think where the line is drawn is if you will actually DO something sexually with another female. If you actually do something sexual with another female then I would think that that would classify you as bisexual. But then I suppose if you did and decided you didn?t like it, and never did it again, then I guess you?d be straight.


Okay, so number 3. If you mean aroused like get an instant hard on, then no. I believe in having self-control, and I NEVER get an erection in just a random public area. When I see an attractive female, I think, "Oh wow, she is good looking. Whoever has her must be lucky." Then I think nothing else of her. Serious. And I'm not homo, I'm pretty sure of that. So that was to answer the question, but what gets me a hard on is physical touching/stimulation, if it's depending on what I think of the person. Regardless of how I see the person as, I WILL get a hard on if I'm touched in the right areas. But to mentally turn me on, it just has to be a very attractive female both physically and personality-wise.

No, not necessarily an erection, but just anything that normally happens to you when you get turned on, albeit some things happen without your noticing.


No, I start to wonder what a big b*** she is, because most good looking women are shallow as hell, call me a liar, but in every case I have been in proves me right.

Well hopefully someday you?ll be proved wrong. ;)


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My point is that people find things hot or are turned on by something they have interest in. Whether you act on it or not. Am I wrong?

Nah, you?re off base. Me for example, I can get turned on watching two girls, but it doesn?t mean I actually want to do anything with another girl. It?s basically just the ACTS, the things they are doing that turn me on, not the girls themselves. So as Heather (I think) posted, I can get turned on watching a guy and a girl or a girl and a girl, but not guy on guy, that?s just yuck to me personally. But yeah, it doesn?t mean that you want to do something with a girl. It?s the erotica itself that works to get me turned on. Does that make sense?

Oh and hubby and I liked watching that show "Real Sex" too when we still had HBO. We also watch that show where people call in to ask that old lady sex questions, I forget the name of the show and the lady's name though, hubby would know, but he's in bed now so I can't ask him, heh.

[rmomjian]

Actually, women's lib took hold in the latter half of the century. (The last century.)

yup, definitely meant last century but as far as your other point, i think it all depends on what you and i mean by "took hold". basically, women's rights movement formally began in the late 19th century (around 1870 i think) and things started moving forward from there. I was not trying to make a specific point, just a general statement.

anyway, i would rather not talk too much about women's lib. when a guy start talking about women's rights it is usually seen as he is just trying to kiss up to women, which I am not...

[empresscat]

get sexually aroused at the SIGHT of an attractive male or female?

I've always thought it was mainly males who became sexually aroused by looking at an attractive female or in other words that more males are sexually aroused by sight alone as compared to females. But a recent event I experienced leads me to believe this may not be the case. I was approached via an email by a gal who basically told me that I turn her on, when she looks at me. So now this spurred some interesting questions in my mind that I'm hoping to shed some light on. Specifically:

1) To the straight females, are you or have you ever been sexually aroused just by the SIGHT of a man, just by his looks alone?

2) To the gay and bisexual females, same basic question, do you become sexually aroused just by looking at an attractive female (or male)?

3) To the straight males (and I think I already know the answer for 99% of you), do you become sexually aroused by the SIGHT of an attractive female?

4) To the gay and bisexual males, same basic question, do you become sexually aroused just by looking at an attractive male (female)?

Obviously I realize that I'll only get answers from those who are comfortable with their sexuality. So please, if you are willing to share, please do! I find this interesting.


I used to be bi, but I have lost interest in women, sexually. I still find pictures of women arousing *sometimes* but not often. Usually it's because of something they are doing with a man - not because of the woman. (Yes, I do look at porn.) Pictures of men I often find arousing... more so if it's pictures of a guy I know and have feelings for, but yes - the pure visual image can be a huge turn on.

[kalagan]

3) Hell yeah !!
4) Yes !