How would a MAN make you feel if he approached you.

[Zodprince]

Hi ladies, Im new to these forums though I had lurked around for some time. Im aware that many topics here are started by and/or responded to mainly by men. Men, feel free to respond though I would like to hear the thoughts from ladies on this especially.

What are your thoughts on a man approaching you like, well a man? No rubbish about the weather, your opinion, none of that. Just coming right up to you and telling you that he finds you incredibly attractive in a very confident way and then proceed to have a conversation with you, which is kept just short enough for a future date to be set up where you know that things would get romantic real quick.

Now I don't care if you ended up in bed with the guy that day/rejected him/ended up in a relationship with him/married him, etc. I would just like to know why is it you did those things. (for example, how did he make you feel when he spoke to you that led you to sleep with him/reject him/marry him) and what type of impression did he have on you when he came up to talk to you. Confident? creepy? intriguing? Annoying? Would you like to be approached and spoken to in that manner? Or would you like someone to ask your 'opinion' on his faux leather pink pants and try to strike up meaningless chit chat when the truth is you both know exactly why he is talking to you. And yes I know the 'uuhh some women like it and some women dont' line, so just tell me why you do and why you dont.

I am leaving this pretty vague so you can answer however you see fit, or not at all.

Thanks!

[sonti]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them :) Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

[Zodprince]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them :) Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

Yeap fair enough. This is what I do, and as you had said it would work for some and it wont work for some. However the women I go for are usually all my age or a year or two older/younger and I cant stand party girls so I wouldnt think its necessarily an age thing.

[AnnieOlson]

I would be very flattered, but would have to tell him I'm married. I've never been approached like that ever lol.

[Zodprince]

I would be very flattered, but would have to tell him I'm married. I've never been approached like that ever lol.

There we go AnnieOlson, I was wondering about that. I'd like to think that even though the girl is taken/not interested or whatever, at the very least she will have a slightly better day knowing that someone found her attractive enough to take the time out and tell her that. (Not in a WK way) That way Im not as annoyed at getting rejected ;)

[discdoggie]

I suppose I would be flattered. I wouldn't run away screaming "rape!" or anything like that. I would be MORE impressed if the approacher had something nice or complimentary to say to me besides my physical appearance.

[sonti]

Yeap fair enough. This is what I do, and as you had said it would work for some and it wont work for some. However the women I go for are usually all my age or a year or two older/younger and I cant stand party girls so I wouldnt think its necessarily an age thing.

I'm 27 :) But I guess I have also forgotten what dating was like, lol.

[RebeccaG]

I would have to be in the situation to know what I would do. There are too many factors that would affect my reaction. I will say, I would appreciate this approach much more than the standard pick up/cheesey line.

(Hypothetically speaking of course since I am married)


I suppose I would be flattered. I wouldn't run away screaming "rape!" or anything like that. I would be MORE impressed if the approacher had something nice or complimentary to say to me besides my physical appearance.

As a stranger, physical appearance is pretty much all he's got. Unless you happen to be reading a book or otherwise doing something commentworthy.

[seanb1979]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them :) Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

its not the only thing we care about, its simply the first thing we notice

[sonti]

Sorry, that's what I meant - the #1 thing they notice. Same for women. And birds - hence those awesome giant red feather dance displays :) That's nature for ya.

[Zodprince]

Thats the thing really, in an approach like this a woman would have to make a quick decision on how attractive she finds the man based primarily on looks and confidence (and apparently they make the decision QUICK ;) ) Nothing wrong with that at all,it is the way it is and it goes both ways. The only reason I would approach a woman is if I find her attractive so if Im not her cup of tea then Il go by the next woman who catches my eye and talk to her and so on.

Also, discdoggie. Of course the both of you could then carry on a conversation, but if the man approaches you because he found you attractive then he is just being honest in expressing it to you isnt it? He is giving you a chance to reject him, or stay and talk to him if you find him attractive or are inrtigued to see if he is capable on actually carrying on a decent conversation and getting along with you. There is just no head games...I HATE head games!

RebeccaG, yeah it would be a breath of fresh air from the 'did it hurt when you fell from heaven' line no? ;)

Sonti: So then you would be the lady who walks away when I come up to you and tell you how sexy I find you. Oh well, at least I'd have made your day.

Pardon my replying in this manner, I dont know how to quote more than one response in a reply. (yes technologically illiterate).

[discdoggie]

As a stranger, physical appearance is pretty much all he's got. Unless you happen to be reading a book or otherwise doing something commentworthy.

If I was just walking down the street, I guess that's true.



Maybe I'm completely delusional, but I like to think that most of the time, except when I'm eating, sleeping, or playing around on the internet, I'm doing SOMETHING "commentworthy."

[Keltron]

Maybe I'm completely delusional, but I like to think that most of the time, except when I'm eating, sleeping, or playing around on the internet, I'm doing SOMETHING "commentworthy."weighted pull ups.

[Caesar735]

i'd feel flattered

[JessBM]

I would be flattered. I am a very open minded person so as long as he is being respectful, I would totally see where it could go. The honesty and confidence would be nice to see, but at the same time I may question his character. Possibly. But I am all for chances, so I would see where it went. :)

[kineticforce]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them :) Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.I must say I find your aesthetics fascinating and your rear delts very becoming..... I'd like to take your well sculpted gluteus maximus to a delightful resturant where we would have a couple glasses of red wine and exchange some witty banter and than maybe find ourselves getting closer and closer as the day goes on.... to exchange a kiss or 3...

and than to walk away never knowing each others name - what do you say?

I suppose I would be flattered. I wouldn't run away screaming "rape!" or anything like that. I would be MORE impressed if the approacher had something nice or complimentary to say to me besides my physical appearance.you're front left inner most abdominal muscle makes my loins set fire and my mind just want to expand at the thought of seeing you outside of this fine grocery store establishment. You would accompany me to a great wine bar where we'd eat some nice horse douffers (spelled incorrectly for humor) and have at least one bottle of red wine and laugh about the other people there and how un-cool they were and how much we were a pair of thugs to these punks. We'd walk around the park, randomly stopping at secret entrances and embracing and finding ourselves giddy because of the great chemistry we have ...

you'd smack me on my butt and I the same to you - ending our night near some wild cove doing some things that may or may not be mentionable

:}

I would have to be in the situation to know what I would do. There are too many factors that would affect my reaction. I will say, I would appreciate this approach much more than the standard pick up/cheesey line.

(Hypothetically speaking of course since I am married)As a stranger, physical appearance is pretty much all he's got. Unless you happen to be reading a book or otherwise doing something commentworthy.I would like to take you to a place of dim light and of copious amounts of beer and shots, we'd drink the night away and laugh with the other patrons of the bar. Yelling irish songs and talking about the things we most enjoy, while moderately slipping in the occasional innuendo about certain "Art" on statues we enjoy.

We'd make extreme eye contact while watching each others pupils dilate and become more and more attracted to each other, we find ourselves stumbling over the stools at the end of the night ... we'd be lucky to make it out of the bar at closing since we'd get kicked out because of our antics.

We'd leave each other with hopes of seeing each other again but never knowing each others names....

and ride off in the sunset of our horse cabs....

man I shoud be a writer :}

[kineticforce]

i'd feel flatteredI would like to take you out to the highest end club and get you in VIP style where you'd be lucky enough to accompany me in my 2013 lambo merc. you'd be bought shots and high end champagne all night long, I'd wk the fuuu outta you and tell you - we're no good for each other...

than I'd drop you off on the side of the road

:}

I would be flattered. I am a very open minded person so as long as he is being respectful, I would totally see where it could go. The honesty and confidence would be nice to see, but at the same time I may question his character. Possibly. But I am all for chances, so I would see where it went. :)would you be willing to engage in some witty banter to which we could laugh at each other and see who's intelligence and wit would out do each other? We could go from store to store looking at all the interesting things, every so often stopping and getting a shot with a glass of wine (gotta keep it classy) and than we would make fun of the people getting dressed, just cause we can do that and we are a pair of punks who like to do fun things...

we'd then go to an airport close by and go skydiving, than get caught by a helicopter and taken to the closest island restaurant where we'd be so strung out on adrenaline we would just be so wide eyed and entranced by each other. We then would find ourselves greatly attracted to each other and let the night fade into the darkness as we walk along the beach in our rolled up jeans.....

:}

[JessBM]

Perfect.

[kineticforce]

Perfect.I know I am, what did you think about what I suggested ?

:}

[RebeccaG]

I would like to take you to a place of dim light and of copious amounts of beer and shots, we'd drink the night away and laugh with the other patrons of the bar. Yelling irish songs and talking about the things we most enjoy, while moderately slipping in the occasional innuendo about certain "Art" on statues we enjoy.

We'd make extreme eye contact while watching each others pupils dilate and become more and more attracted to each other, we find ourselves stumbling over the stools at the end of the night ... we'd be lucky to make it out of the bar at closing since we'd get kicked out because of our antics.

We'd leave each other with hopes of seeing each other again but never knowing each others names....

and ride off in the sunset of our horse cabs....

man I shoud be a writer :}

I don't drink beer.

But I am ALL for yelling Irish songs.

[erinlee01]

I'm down for a Guinness and some Irish songs. That is my kind of party.

[discdoggie]

weighted pull ups.
Yes!


you're front left inner most abdominal muscle makes my loins set fire and my mind just want to expand at the thought of seeing you outside of this fine grocery store establishment. You would accompany me to a great wine bar where we'd eat some nice horse douffers (spelled incorrectly for humor) and have at least one bottle of red wine and laugh about the other people there and how un-cool they were and how much we were a pair of thugs to these punks. We'd walk around the park, randomly stopping at secret entrances and embracing and finding ourselves giddy because of the great chemistry we have ...

you'd smack me on my butt and I the same to you - ending our night near some wild cove doing some things that may or may not be mentionable

....
:}

Yes. :D

[latebloomingmom]

OP..gotta say I'd probably either think you were nuts but..would walk away grinning and shaking my head.

[MalteseManbeast]

I must say I find your aesthetics fascinating and your rear delts very becoming..... I'd like to take your well sculpted gluteus maximus to a delightful resturant where we would have a couple glasses of red wine and exchange some witty banter and than maybe find ourselves getting closer and closer as the day goes on.... to exchange a kiss or 3...


holy rep power batman.


just clap dem cheeks phaggot

[Zodprince]

OP..gotta say I'd probably either think you were nuts but..would walk away grinning and shaking my head.

Yea we cant win em all..:)

[latebloomingmom]

Yea we cant win em all..:)Geez man what would ya do with em all if ya did?

[kineticforce]

holy rep power batman.
just clap dem cheeks phaggotsarcasm-missed/10

[Zodprince]

Geez man what would ya do with em all if ya did?

I'd do what any person would do. Be excited....temporarily. Then Il go find something else that challenges me.

[BrotherWolf]

Hi ladies, Im new to these forums though I had lurked around for some time. Im aware that many topics here are started by and/or responded to mainly by men. Men, feel free to respond though I would like to hear the thoughts from ladies on this especially.

What are your thoughts on a man approaching you like, well a man? No rubbish about the weather, your opinion, none of that. Just coming right up to you and telling you that he finds you incredibly attractive in a very confident way and then proceed to have a conversation with you, which is kept just short enough for a future date to be set up where you know that things would get romantic real quick.

Now I don't care if you ended up in bed with the guy that day/rejected him/ended up in a relationship with him/married him, etc. I would just like to know why is it you did those things. (for example, how did he make you feel when he spoke to you that led you to sleep with him/reject him/marry him) and what type of impression did he have on you when he came up to talk to you. Confident? creepy? intriguing? Annoying? Would you like to be approached and spoken to in that manner? Or would you like someone to ask your 'opinion' on his faux leather pink pants and try to strike up meaningless chit chat when the truth is you both know exactly why he is talking to you. And yes I know the 'uuhh some women like it and some women dont' line, so just tell me why you do and why you dont.

I am leaving this pretty vague so you can answer however you see fit, or not at all.

Thanks!

Dude without a picture?? it's not just what you say .. it's how you say it and who is saying it

[latebloomingmom]

I'd do what any person would do. Be excited....temporarily. Then Il go find something else that challenges me.
Ha...I knew it!:)

[Zodprince]

Dude without a picture?? it's not just what you say .. it's how you say it and who is saying it

Yea I know that..This thread was made just so I could pick the beautiful ladies brains on this site as to how they would feel about my particular way of meeting them. And yeah, dude without a picture. for the time being. I lurk here during working hours so it would be unproductive to upload a pic during this time ;)

[BrotherWolf]

Yea I know that..This thread was made just so I could pick the beautiful ladies brains on this site as to how they would feel about my particular way of meeting them. And yeah, dude without a picture. for the time being. I lurk here during working hours so it would be unproductive to upload a pic during this time ;)

That's my point in a case like what you describe appearance plays a big role .. if you look like a creep then I doubt that would go well with the ladies ;)

[Ion26]

No need to comment about appearance OP. I typically just pick out anything odd article of clothing whether it be a scarf, watch, certain type of shoes, what she's carrying in the checkout line, etc.

Shopping centers are great btw. Any girl shopping alone wants to be approached...

[NOVA888]

What are your thoughts on a man approaching you like, well a man? No rubbish about the weather, your opinion, none of that. Just coming right up to you and telling you that he finds you incredibly attractive in a very confident way and then proceed to have a conversation with you, which is kept just short enough for a future date to be set up where you know that things would get romantic real quick.



I'd feel mightily flattered by the first part (I prefer this approach), and cautious in regard to trying to move things along quickly. I have no problems showing up for 'public' dates at semi-intimate locales, but never where I'll put myself in a position to reject a man physically. But I do like a man to drink a little on those initial dates, this way I can extract the 'juicy' info.

[Zodprince]

BrotherWolf, well said man.

Ion26, Yea thats one way to do it. And I have, on occassion. But I find its best to just be honest, as opposed to using something she is wearing/doing to start a conversation, as I feel that she knows why you're talking to her in the first place anyways, so may as well just go for it. Case in point, I was having a coffee one day and this pretty lady was sitting beside me. I found her very attractive and wanted to comment on it but decided to comment on her tattoos instead (she had quite a few) so we got to talking about that and she was polite but not interested. And I could just 'feel' that she knew I found her attractive but I was using her tattoos as a ruse to start a conversation, nomsayin. After I left I couldn't help but think "Hell, should've just gone for the kill right off the bat. At least if she weren't interested I wouldn't have to waste a good few minutes talking about tattoos."

Nova888, true that. I'd imagine it would be awkward if the guy suggested the first date in a deserted back alley ;) But I'm glad you are one of those who like the approach.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

I've said it before, it's like this:

Decent looking dude who sounds half intelligent and confident= Attractive to the opposite sex.
Great looking buff dude who kind of sounds like a pompus prick= Attractive to the opposite sex.
Ugly dude who sounds intelligent and confident (most likely a never, but there's always an exception)= Still can be found attractive by the opposite sex.
Ugly dude who is not confident, looks at the floor, mumbles, loses the convo= DEALBREAKER
Fat guy= DEALBREAKER

lulz.

[Zodprince]

I've said it before, it's like this:

Decent looking dude who sounds half intelligent and confident= Attractive to the opposite sex.
Great looking buff dude who kind of sounds like a pompus prick= Attractive to the opposite sex.
Ugly dude who sounds intelligent and confident (most likely a never, but there's always an exception)= Still can be found attractive by the opposite sex.
Ugly dude who is not confident, looks at the floor, mumbles, loses the convo= DEALBREAKER
Fat guy= DEALBREAKER

lulz.

Thats a pretty accurate summary for the most part. Though it may not always be the case. I have on many ocassions introduced my good looking male friends to hot girls who wanted to meet them, and have seen the girls lose interest in them real quick. And these guys were confident and could converse well. They just did not know how to make a woman feel sexy I guess. Based on what ladies have told me, they want to be wanted by men. Physically, emotionally, whatever. Basically they want a man to make them feel sexy. And when you can let them know that they have that effect on you, and if they feel you're attractive enough and not a loser/dangerous person, then odds are likely that she will want to continue the conversation with you. I dont doubt looks plays the major role, but I don't think its as important as one might assume.

Decent looking dude with balls = Attractive
Good looking buff dude with balls = Attractive
Ugly dude with balls = Intriguing (maybe attractive)
Good looking buff dude with no balls =Attractive on face level but may not get a shot.
Ugly dude with no balls= feelsbadman.jpg

[CoffeCanSlayer]

I think you overassess way too much. A woman wants to feel as sexy as the dude she's talking to. It's that simple. If you are good looking, you'll get laid. If you aren't, then she's not going to drop her standards because that would drop her self image, and you'll lose out. That's pretty much it.
It's with ALL ages, and of BOTH sexes.

Looks matter to the good looking, for the rest......Well, there's always the "inner beauty" people bullsh!t about. It all comes down to the fukcability of ones image.

Just keep in mind that women are a hole to fill and you'll be fine. Don't put off like that's how you think, just keep it on the backburner. Where's there's one, there's a hundred thousand more.

[AngryPunkPal]

If I were single, I'd definitely agree to grab lunch or dinner or whatever sometime. Confidence is a major turn-on, and for him to cut the bull**** would appeal to me greatly.

[discdoggie]

Fat guy= DEALBREAKER

lulz.

It's possible I'm totally delusional, but I think I'm moderately attractive. At least average looking. My estranged spouse was fat when we met (became even fatter throughout the marriage) and I still found him incredibly attractive. He was hilarious and brilliant, with a very impressive (to me) career.

[mimich21]

I've had this happen to me once or twice and I have to say I have mixed feelings. When it happened, I got really nervous, laughed, and closed a door in the guy's face. It did make my day, though.

[BrotherWolf]

It's possible I'm totally delusional, but I think I'm moderately attractive. At least average looking. My estranged spouse was fat when we met (became even fatter throughout the marriage) and I still found him incredibly attractive. He was hilarious and brilliant, with a very impressive (to me) career.

ah.... we all know women are weird :D


just kidding I think anyone with half a brain would agree that a great personality is just about the most important feature in a person .. of course a great body helps making the decision ;)

and I am talking about relationships not just pure sex, there is a difference in what people either male or female find attractive in either scenarios (relationship and hookups)
clearly when you go up to a stranger and be very direct, personality has little to do with it

[BrotherWolf]

I've had this happen to me once or twice and I have to say I have mixed feelings. When it happened, I got really nervous, laughed, and closed a door in the guy's face. It did make my day, though.

probably wasn't the right guy .. you can do that 100 times than one day you feel like it might be worth your time not to close the door in his face... could end up that you were wrong anyway though LOL ;)

[Zodprince]

I think you overassess way too much. A woman wants to feel as sexy as the dude she's talking to. It's that simple. If you are good looking, you'll get laid. If you aren't, then she's not going to drop her standards because that would drop her self image, and you'll lose out. That's pretty much it.
It's with ALL ages, and of BOTH sexes.

Looks matter to the good looking, for the rest......Well, there's always the "inner beauty" people bullsh!t about. It all comes down to the fukcability of ones image.

Just keep in mind that women are a hole to fill and you'll be fine. Don't put off like that's how you think, just keep it on the backburner. Where's there's one, there's a hundred thousand more.

I wouldn't agree with that 100% but I see where you're coming from. We just look at it in different ways.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

It's possible I'm totally delusional, but I think I'm moderately attractive. At least average looking. My estranged spouse was fat when we met (became even fatter throughout the marriage) and I still found him incredibly attractive. He was hilarious and brilliant, with a very impressive (to me) career.

There's always exceptions to the rule, and it doesn't happen often. But this doesn't apply, he had an impressive career. Take career away from the same man, and I am not so sure you would find him that attractive anymore.

But what do I know, im a fukcing idiot. It's just been my experience that 9 time out of 10 the fat guy doesn't get the girl he wants. And I am not just speaking about myself here, I have observed a sh!t ton through my years so far.

I just seriously don't know why people make this sh!t rocket science, if you are ugly, you F*** ugly people. If you are hot you f*** hot people. Every once in awhile there will be an exception, but it will be compensated in some other way.

[Zodprince]

I've had this happen to me once or twice and I have to say I have mixed feelings. When it happened, I got really nervous, laughed, and closed a door in the guy's face. It did make my day, though.

Here's a question. Have you ever regretted doing that? Maybe if you gave the conversation a chance you'd find out he was highly educated, intelligent, has a good job, shares similar interests with you, great in bed, maybe he has mannerisms you have always liked, you already know he is confident based on how he approached you, etc.

Or did you just laugh it off and not think about it again? I know sometimes when I walk by/see a beautiful lady and I don't approach her (happens often), I do sometimes ask myself those things. I don't ponder on it for long but it does cross my mind at least once or twice during the day, that perhaps if I took the shot I could've met a pretty cool woman and I may actually find out she is a cool person behind her sexy looks.

[NOVA888]

I've said it before, it's like this:

Decent looking dude who sounds half intelligent and confident= Attractive to the opposite sex.

Sounds great!


Great looking buff dude who kind of sounds like a pompus prick= Attractive to the opposite sex.

I'll pass.


Ugly dude who sounds intelligent and confident (most likely a never, but there's always an exception)= Still can be found attractive by the opposite sex.

Sounds great!


Ugly dude who is not confident, looks at the floor, mumbles, loses the convo= DEALBREAKER

I'll pass.


Fat guy= DEALBREAKER

Not necessarily. If I had a choice to spend a night in Paris with either the fat Elvis vs the slim Elvis, I'd beg for a 101 nights with the big, fat, jumpsuit wearing Elvis. Yum!

I also have a male friend that carries some excess poundage, he's a brilliant scientist, and I find him very hot. If I was single...




Nova888, true that. I'd imagine it would be awkward if the guy suggested the first date in a deserted back alley ;) But I'm glad you are one of those who like the approach.

Oh yes, I like knowing that a man enjoys what he's seeing. It makes me feel terrific!




I just seriously don't know why people make this sh!t rocket science, if you are ugly, you F*** ugly people. If you are hot you f*** hot people. Every once in awhile there will be an exception, but it will be compensated in some other way.

I have a bit of an ugly fetish, for some reason it gets me going when men have 'challenging' looks. I enjoy working with that, but only if a man is uber-confident and has his life in good working order.




Decent looking dude with balls = Attractive
Good looking buff dude with balls = Attractive
Ugly dude with balls = Intriguing (maybe attractive)
Good looking buff dude with no balls =Attractive on face level but may not get a shot.
Ugly dude with no balls= feelsbadman.jpg

Pretty spot on, although I'm not into pretty boys. Confidence and swagger are where it's at. A man with the looks of cyclops can convince me that he's a good catch if he's got his act together, is boldly confident, and doesn't moan, whine, or let anything hold him back.

[CoffeCanSlayer]

You like working with ugly guys because it's easier to get them under your finger.

[NOVA888]

You like working with ugly guys because it's easier to get them under your finger.

Blech, no. Not even close to why I fetishize this.

[mimich21]

probably wasn't the right guy .. you can do that 100 times than one day you feel like it might be worth your time not to close the door in his face... could end up that you were wrong anyway though LOL ;)

I doubt he was. I didn't close the door in his face to reject him, it was more so because he did it while I was at work and infront of a group of co-workers. I was embarrassed.


Here's a question. Have you ever regretted doing that? Maybe if you gave the conversation a chance you'd find out he was highly educated, intelligent, has a good job, shares similar interests with you, great in bed, maybe he has mannerisms you have always liked, you already know he is confident based on how he approached you, etc.

Or did you just laugh it off and not think about it again? I know sometimes when I walk by/see a beautiful lady and I don't approach her (happens often), I do sometimes ask myself those things. I don't ponder on it for long but it does cross my mind at least once or twice during the day, that perhaps if I took the shot I could've met a pretty cool woman and I may actually find out she is a cool person behind her sexy looks.

It wasn't a laugh as in "yeah right, get lost", it was a nervous laugh. I did feel bad, but the situation wasn't right and I had a b/f at the time. If it wasn't at work and I was single, it might have been different.

[Dutchie1972]

Hi ladies, Im new to these forums though I had lurked around for some time. Im aware that many topics here are started by and/or responded to mainly by men. Men, feel free to respond though I would like to hear the thoughts from ladies on this especially.

What are your thoughts on a man approaching you like, well a man? No rubbish about the weather, your opinion, none of that. Just coming right up to you and telling you that he finds you incredibly attractive in a very confident way and then proceed to have a conversation with you, which is kept just short enough for a future date to be set up where you know that things would get romantic real quick.

Now I don't care if you ended up in bed with the guy that day/rejected him/ended up in a relationship with him/married him, etc. I would just like to know why is it you did those things. (for example, how did he make you feel when he spoke to you that led you to sleep with him/reject him/marry him) and what type of impression did he have on you when he came up to talk to you. Confident? creepy? intriguing? Annoying? Would you like to be approached and spoken to in that manner? Or would you like someone to ask your 'opinion' on his faux leather pink pants and try to strike up meaningless chit chat when the truth is you both know exactly why he is talking to you. And yes I know the 'uuhh some women like it and some women dont' line, so just tell me why you do and why you dont.

I am leaving this pretty vague so you can answer however you see fit, or not at all.

Thanks!

That would make me smile but it would certainly not result in a date. I would assume that the guy has used the same line a hundred times before and is simply looking to get laid.

[BrotherWolf]

I doubt he was. I didn't close the door in his face to reject him, it was more so because he did it while I was at work and infront of a group of co-workers. I was embarrassed.


that be a good reason ;) there's a time and place !!

[MomasBoyOnline]

I would like to take you to a place of dim light and of copious amounts of beer and shots, we'd drink the night away and laugh with the other patrons of the bar. Yelling irish songs and talking about the things we most enjoy, while moderately slipping in the occasional innuendo about certain "Art" on statues we enjoy.

We'd make extreme eye contact while watching each others pupils dilate and become more and more attracted to each other, we find ourselves stumbling over the stools at the end of the night ... we'd be lucky to make it out of the bar at closing since we'd get kicked out because of our antics.

We'd leave each other with hopes of seeing each other again but never knowing each others names....

and ride off in the sunset of our horse cabs....

man I shoud be a writer :}

Intredasting. What kind of Irish songs?

Can't wait to go to Canadia to visit my brother, supposed to be even easier to pull women there.

[AsManThinketh]

http://www.freecodesource.com/movie-poster/51nWe8T2ywL/-The-Tao-of-Steve.jpg

I find this film relevant to the thread. Steve is an inspiration.

[Zodprince]

That would make me smile but it would certainly not result in a date. I would assume that the guy has used the same line a hundred times before and is simply looking to get laid.

Good point. But what's the alternative though? How would you like to be approached by a man who finds you attractive? Would you like him to comment on something you're doing, or mention the weather or a mutual place you both are in and then let the conversation go from there? You do realize that the motive of him coming over to talk to you is the same right? He is attracted to you and would like to pursue a romantic and/or sexual relationship with you. Its just that in the first way that I had mentioned, he would do so in an honest and straight up way whereas in this scenario he will beat around the bush (hide the real intention of him coming to talk to you) and try to get a date out of it. Also not to mention that he would have also likely used the same method to get laid over and over again before.

The way I see it one guy is being honest as to why he came to speak to you right from the start and the other will try to sneak around using different topics of conversation and other things when his end result is the same as the first guy. And lets be real, 99% of the time. for a man to randomly approach a woman it means he fancies her. What are your thoughts on this?

[tomboxah]

No matter how good looking and confident you are. It all depends on the women and that (click) response.

I've got many good looking and confident mates that are secure in their lives, but sometimes they can't get this women or that women because the women is interested in a different persona.

All women are different in what they find attractive

statistically if you are good looking and confident you may have more success over numbers of girls. but not all.

Where if you are less attractive but can connect with the women you have a chance.

just my 2c.

[aproc]

As long as he's still respectful, I would absolutly love it. I don't think I'd be able to turn a guy down if he showed that kind of confidence.

[N0LeafClover]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them :) Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

HAHAHA my words exactly!! Except I am childless and not single; doesn't matter though cause guys will still go after you if they know you're in a relationship.

[BrotherWolf]

HAHAHA my words exactly!! Except I am childless and not single; doesn't matter though cause guys will still go after you if they know you're in a relationship.

how you doing ?? ;)

[Meaner4]

First off, it would depend on where and the circumstances. Being approached at the gym would be the least likely of places to have a friendly experience with me. Unless I'm done working out and or cooling down and stretching.
I am not saying that I will be snobby, from experience of men disrupting my burn but, it is not as effective as I'm sure they would hope it to be and I would later avoid that person because of past occurances.

On the other hand, if walked up to while I am not concentrating on something. I would fully engage in the conversation and depending on where it would lead, I would offer for a chance to go out for coffee or hiking.

Ion26 is right in this aspect. When a woman is alone at a shopping center, you have a greater chance of conversation. I have actually chased after guys that I know had the "look" of wanting to approach me and didn't just to have someone to talk to. Maybe it's just me and I'm crazy.

[BrotherWolf]

I have actually chased after guys that I know had the "look" of wanting to approach me and didn't just to have someone to talk to. Maybe it's just me and I'm crazy.

That is a very cool thing to do not crazy at all

[paulett]

I've said it before, it's like this:

Decent looking dude who sounds half intelligent and confident= Attractive to the opposite sex.
Great looking buff dude who kind of sounds like a pompus prick= Attractive to the opposite sex.
Ugly dude who sounds intelligent and confident (most likely a never, but there's always an exception)= Still can be found attractive by the opposite sex.
Ugly dude who is not confident, looks at the floor, mumbles, loses the convo= DEALBREAKER
Fat guy= DEALBREAKER

lulz.

Buff dudes who sound like pricks =/= attractive IMO
Fat guys can still be attractive depending upon other things.