My Boyfriends 1st Show

[Kirsty37]

Hi there

i was wondering if you could give me a few pointers on what i can do to help out my boyfriend with his first show.

He is on his 2nd week off a 16 week diet.

Have you been with someone through contest prep, if so what did you do to help?

any suggestions would be good :)

[GLHF]

dont expect him to have sex a lot (unles he wants to) just give him head (srs)

[DanTheManB]

Hi there

i was wondering if you could give me a few pointers on what i can do to help out my boyfriend with his first show.

He is on his 2nd week off a 16 week diet.

Have you been with someone through contest prep, if so what did you do to help?

any suggestions would be good :)

Stats:

5'4 65lbs

WUT

[Kirsty37]

Stats:

5'4 65lbs

WUT

should be kilo-didnt even realise, not on here much! My bad.

Any advice

[_jim_]

Going to need a little more info/pics about your boyfriend. Weight, bf, macros, goals, show....

[AustrianOakJr]

Best thing you can do is be supportive. I couldnt do this without my wife. She is behind me 100% even though i know it gets to her sometimes. She tells me when im being a jackass and understands that the diet makes me a bit unbearable at times. But she helps me wherever she can.....posing, picture taking, tanning, etc. But the moral support is the key.

[maximus3]

Hi there

i was wondering if you could give me a few pointers on what i can do to help out my boyfriend with his first show.

He is on his 2nd week off a 16 week diet.

Have you been with someone through contest prep, if so what did you do to help?

any suggestions would be good :)

First what show is he doing. Is in on anything? If so what? This will determine for me what you should do to help him. Bodybuilding is a huge task to complete and compete. Support is very important. Be encouraging but be selective of what you say. His hormones are out of whack.

[maximus3]

Hi there

i was wondering if you could give me a few pointers on what i can do to help out my boyfriend with his first show.

He is on his 2nd week off a 16 week diet.

Have you been with someone through contest prep, if so what did you do to help?

any suggestions would be good :)

Also have him pose in front of you and hold the poses for 20 seconds up to a one minute once he hit six weeks out. he should pose three times per week up to everyday when he hits four weeks out. That will help his confidence and water retention.

[soupermayn]

Going to need a little more info/pics about your boyfriend. Weight, bf, macros, goals, show....

She asked for advice on what she can do too help him. Guessing she means pointers on how to show him support and help with his motivation.

Other than that i dont have anything to help you (op) out sorry.

[mrusa85]

His dieting will be pretty weird at times. Before you make plans, make sure something isn't on a low-carb day or double cardio day or leg day. Talk to him and try to do things around his schedule. He doens't have to totally ignore everything because he's doing a show, but talk to him and see how you can do things together.

Also don't offer him "just one" of anything regarding food. Even though it technically wouldn't make or break his diet, it can easily cause a snowball effect and be the spark for him to go all out and cheat with some forbidden food. If he says "no thanks" to anything regarding food, leave it at that and don't ask again.

Do cardio with him as much as you can. It is something you can do together and it'll really help out if you tell him you want him to be at his best "so let's do one more additional cardio session this week." Especially when he's planned cardio, but says he's "too tired."

Try this one: "Hey, sweetie, instead of watching Sleepless in Seattle tonight can we watch that Ronnie Coleman video again? Maybe that will help you fire up for tomorrow's workout and we can do some cardio together after the video?"

[mrusa85]

Towards the end if he's a total zombie, go shopping and let him sleep:) Buy something nice that "you bought just for the day of the show."

[mrusa85]

Also have him pose in front of you and hold the poses for 20 seconds up to a one minute once he hit six weeks out. he should pose three times per week up to everyday when he hits four weeks out. That will help his confidence and water retention.

Didn't you just offer this very same advice in another thread about a guy wanting to know if he should compete or not?

[alex a]

dont ask him to take you out to dinner...

[Frankdaddy]

I wouldnt act worried or ask if he is alright 100x torwards the end stages of the diet. He is fine, but he cannot help he looks/feels awful and its inevitable for him to feel any different at that point. Just understand!

[slayer_romare]

dont ask him to take you out to dinner...

Hah lol alex! :P

[Kirsty37]

Best thing you can do is be supportive. I couldnt do this without my wife. She is behind me 100% even though i know it gets to her sometimes. She tells me when im being a jackass and understands that the diet makes me a bit unbearable at times. But she helps me wherever she can.....posing, picture taking, tanning, etc. But the moral support is the key.

Thanks for this! Looking forwars to the crabitness already :)

[Kirsty37]

I wouldnt act worried or ask if he is alright 100x torwards the end stages of the diet. He is fine, but he cannot help he looks/feels awful and its inevitable for him to feel any different at that point. Just understand!

Thank you for this - iam a worrier! I have seen him very lean before and looks terrible, ill know now to leave him be!:)

[Kirsty37]

His dieting will be pretty weird at times. Before you make plans, make sure something isn't on a low-carb day or double cardio day or leg day. Talk to him and try to do things around his schedule. He doens't have to totally ignore everything because he's doing a show, but talk to him and see how you can do things together.

Also don't offer him "just one" of anything regarding food. Even though it technically wouldn't make or break his diet, it can easily cause a snowball effect and be the spark for him to go all out and cheat with some forbidden food. If he says "no thanks" to anything regarding food, leave it at that and don't ask again.

Do cardio with him as much as you can. It is something you can do together and it'll really help out if you tell him you want him to be at his best "so let's do one more additional cardio session this week." Especially when he's planned cardio, but says he's "too tired."

Try this one: "Hey, sweetie, instead of watching Sleepless in Seattle tonight can we watch that Ronnie Coleman video again? Maybe that will help you fire up for tomorrow's workout and we can do some cardio together after the video?"

Repped! thank you

[7ABSOLUT7]

Massages and backrubs.

Repeat.

He'll be a happy man :)

[wrkoutfrq]

a lot of good advice soe far, i would just add that you should def practice patience... his hormones will be all over the place, so he can be happy one minute, angry the next, and then crying for no reason five min later. if he snaps at you for seemingly no reason it's not because of something you did, it's because his emotions are running away from him

also, try to stay away from comments about how small he looks, like don't say "honey you are so skinny!". those kinds of comments could make him think he's lacking muscular size, even if you didn't mean it like that. if you wanna comment on his conditioning use statements like "you are getting shredded!" or "wow you are lean!".

one more thing: don't let people rag him about having to stick to the diet. if you are able to go out somewhere odds are he'll have to either be very picky about what he orders, or he'll have to pack food (srs). if you have friends that you are with, they may be inclined to try and tease him w/ food, or talk smack about his eating. at this point defending him will absolutely make you his hero

[BigPicNut]

I am not the spouse of an amature bber so I can only tell you what my gf did to be supportive of me, and what helped me out the most.

I had a long talk with her WAY ahead of time to let her know what she was in for.
It was important for me to make sure that she had a clear understanding of everything I was putting my self through, and how I would be effected by those decisions.
First is diet - She had to be on the same exct page as me, and my trainer. She had to know my diet just as well as I did so that she could not only hold me accountable if I decided to cheat, but also for her own sake so there would be no surprises. Like when went to an office party and I brough 2 meals of ground turkey and rice with me. She expected that kind of behavor and was able to decide on her own when and where she would be ok with me staying home.

It was also important for me that she knew how the diet would effect my patience, and my ability to handle stress, regardless of how justified it was.

I needed her to be able to tell me, honestly when I was out of line, which didn't happen too often, but it was better that she was ready to let me know, than ill prepared to call me out on my ****, especially when I was depleted.

Cardio
It was important for me, the she knew my cardio routine.
Towards the end, it was twice per day PLUS a 90 minute weight lifting seession in the middle of the day. This meant I was up at 5am, and gone again at 11am.
This also meant that no matter what we were doing that night; tv, movie, lounging, chores, at some point, I would have to leave for an hour or more, and go knock out my cardio. I needed her to expect this behavor from me, so that she would not get tired of me leaving her, every single night.
She supported me very well by encouraging me to do the cardio, and often went with me, and walked the treadmill next to mine, even though she is not a gym rat herself.

Posing & pictures.
She knew that every Saturday I had to take pics and send them to my trainer. She helped with that a ton. She learned the name of each of the poses and called them out to me, pausing 30 seconds between each pose. We did this several times per weeks together and it was very helpful to be able to count on her for that.

She also did a lot of other things to support me that I did not ask for.
She did my laundry, Cooked some meals, encouraged me to call my trainer if I was unsure about something. She was a mojor reason for my success. Without her support I would have never gotten as far as I did.

After all of that is said and done the one thing she did (and still does) that meant the world to me, was this:
After cardio, when we got home, She would sit me down, and take off my shoes, and socks and rub my feet. Amazing woman that Kathy is!

IMO you can make or break your BFs prep.
It won't be easy, but as long as you learn this hobby as much as he has to, you will at least be on the same page and will be better prepared to give him the support he needs, and not allow him to drive you crazy either

Good luck to both of you!

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[FunkymonkAW]

His dieting will be pretty weird at times. Before you make plans, make sure something isn't on a low-carb day or double cardio day or leg day. Talk to him and try to do things around his schedule. He doens't have to totally ignore everything because he's doing a show, but talk to him and see how you can do things together.

Also don't offer him "just one" of anything regarding food. Even though it technically wouldn't make or break his diet, it can easily cause a snowball effect and be the spark for him to go all out and cheat with some forbidden food. If he says "no thanks" to anything regarding food, leave it at that and don't ask again.

Do cardio with him as much as you can. It is something you can do together and it'll really help out if you tell him you want him to be at his best "so let's do one more additional cardio session this week." Especially when he's planned cardio, but says he's "too tired."

Try this one: "Hey, sweetie, instead of watching Sleepless in Seattle tonight can we watch that Ronnie Coleman video again? Maybe that will help you fire up for tomorrow's workout and we can do some cardio together after the video?"

This.

Also, don't pull any punches if he asks for an honest opinion of his progress. If he's 8 weeks in, and you think he's a bit behind, let him know. If you don't, it will only hurt him down the road.

[rewaste]

dont ask him to take you out to dinner...

Oh that one is Key. We will just sit and stare at your food a bit scary at times.

[Kirsty37]

Oh that one is Key. We will just sit and stare at your food a bit scary at times.

haha he does this anyway!! :)

thanks for all your help and suggestion folks much appreciated!

ps i wont be rubbing his smelly feet anytime soon :P

[alex a]

hi Kirsty if you encourage and support him through all this madness .. he surely should appreciate it... I sure put my wife through the ringer many times.. the first show was the toughest.. yet most memorable.. I wish you guys the best!

[Kirsty37]

hi Kirsty if you encourage and support him through all this madness .. he surely should appreciate it... I sure put my wife through the ringer many times.. the first show was the toughest.. yet most memorable.. I wish you guys the best!

Thanks Alex - We are both pretty excited about it all!! :)