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I'm back. :) It's me 'butterfly'. I had to close my account a while back for very personal reasons. There were a lot of things happening in my personal life that I would rather not get into. Needless to say, some of my behaviors were unacceptable as that of a married woman. He and I both have since shown a tremendous amount of immaturity in handling our respective side of things. Since then, life has turned upside down and inside out. My husband and I have separated, are working toward a divorce, and are working on parenting our children the best we know how. It is difficult dealing with the situation as it is now. There are some very personal and very ugly details involved, but I am trying to handle it to the best of my ability.
I enjoyed my time on this site as a motivational tool, and the social network I became a part of. I developed some great friendships on here in that time. I have gotten sidetracked in my training and am now looking forward to getting back to the level of motivation I was at before.
I have been back for a while now, lurking, and watching all of you. :) Reading your stories, those of triumph and those of heartbreak (I can relate).
While my behaviors were not respectful, they were human. I made a mistake and hope that is understood and forgiven.
:)
Looking forward to being part of this community again.
~Chanda~
immuno
11-30-2010, 06:15 PM
No judgment from me in any way. There isn't one of us here who doesn't screw up multiple times a day! Hopefully the separation w/ your husband will help both of you to have some solid "alone" time to think about things, and move in positive directions. Good counselors can also work wonders later. :) Welcome back!
whatevergirl
11-30-2010, 06:19 PM
{{{{chaaaandddaaa}}}}
Muah and hugs...that's all. :)
Glad to see you are back.
kimsquit
11-30-2010, 06:25 PM
Looking forward to being part of this community again.you never stopped being part of this community :)
merlinsrealm
11-30-2010, 06:33 PM
Yay! How are you?
No judgment from me in any way. There isn't one of us here who doesn't screw up multiple times a day! Hopefully the separation w/ your husband will help both of you to have some solid "alone" time to think about things, and move in positive directions. Good counselors can also work wonders later. :) Welcome back!
Thanks immuno :)
{{{{chaaaandddaaa}}}}
Muah and hugs...that's all. :)
Glad to see you are back.
Girlie, I am so happy to see you. Missed you :)
you never stopped being part of this community :)
Thank you :)
Yay! How are you?
I am doing much better lately. Things have been very difficult, but I am hanging in there. Thanks :)
BankWalker
11-30-2010, 06:46 PM
Hello :D
Hello :D
Hey you! :) Now I expect you to follow my journal when I get the damn thing going again. Will start tomorrow! I could use the support and encouragement as well. I will be spying yours daily.
BankWalker
11-30-2010, 06:51 PM
Hey you! :) Now I expect you to follow my journal when I get the damn thing going again. Will start tomorrow! I could use the support and encouragement as well. I will be spying yours daily.
Absofreakinlutely ;)
hochspeyer
11-30-2010, 06:51 PM
Welcome back. Take very good care of yourself. :)
Brackneyc
11-30-2010, 06:54 PM
Hey you! :) Now I expect you to follow my journal when I get the damn thing going again. Will start tomorrow! I could use the support and encouragement as well. I will be spying yours daily.
I'm already subbed, and I haven't even seen it yet. :)
Absofreakinlutely ;)
Thank you :D
Welcome back. Take very good care of yourself. :)
Thanks Hoch :) I will
I'm already subbed, and I haven't even seen it yet. :)
Thanks Craig, will get it started tomorrow. Need to get my ass back on track! Be sure to check in and tell me to work hard :D
WVHEAVYDUTYFRAME
11-30-2010, 06:59 PM
"Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." You know what happened next? They all walked away. I don't know you, & I'll not judge you. However, I WILL welcome you back, & wish you the best as you move forward.
IronCharles
11-30-2010, 07:01 PM
Welcome back, Chanda! :)
"Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." You know what happened next? They all walked away. I don't know you, & I'll not judge you. However, I WILL welcome you back, & wish you the best as you move forward.
Thank you very much for that. :)
Welcome back, Chanda! :)
Thanks for the welcome back. I sure have missed all of you. :)
michvolley
11-30-2010, 07:07 PM
Hi, I'm new but nice to meet ya! :) Sorry to hear about your troubles, stay strong. <3
Brackneyc
11-30-2010, 07:08 PM
Thanks Craig, will get it started tomorrow. Need to get my ass back on track! Be sure to check in and tell me to work hard :D
Absolutely I will. I am subbed to a lot of journals, and they are now my favorite part of the site. I don't respond to every one every day (I am subbed to about 25 now), but I try to. There are some amazing folks here. And one more just came back. :)
*STEVE*
11-30-2010, 07:25 PM
sup spanky :)
wallyworldfatty
11-30-2010, 07:26 PM
Hello
kademrulz
11-30-2010, 07:28 PM
Hey, girl. Glad to have you back.
Hi, I'm new but nice to meet ya! :) Sorry to hear about your troubles, stay strong. <3
Thanks :)
Absolutely I will. I am subbed to a lot of journals, and they are now my favorite part of the site. I don't respond to every one every day (I am subbed to about 25 now), but I try to. There are some amazing folks here. And one more just came back. :)
Well I will be subbing to some as well. Good to be back. And thanks again, that is a super nice thing to say. :)
sup spanky :)
Hey you, how are ya? Good I hope :)
Hello
Hello to you too :)
Hey, girl. Glad to have you back.
Hey Kim, thank you. :) Glad to be back
*STEVE*
11-30-2010, 07:31 PM
Hey you, how are ya? Good I hope :)
meh , still alive so I guess I cant complain :D
meh , still alive so I guess I cant complain :D
No you really can't, things could always be worse. :) Glad you're doing well, and you should be proud of me. I have been watching 'Walking Dead' :D
*STEVE*
11-30-2010, 07:39 PM
No you really can't, things could always be worse. :) Glad you're doing well, and you should be proud of me. I have been watching 'Walking Dead' :D
good deal , you just got yourself some zombie reps :)
fitmom43
11-30-2010, 07:48 PM
WELCOME BACK MY EVIL TWIN
I missed you Chanda!!!! Glad you are back it has not been the same around here without you!
I have total faith in you that you will get back in the gym and working hard. You know we are here to help you and motivate you!!!
I am the last person on this planet that would judge you. I have made the same journey as you, both personally and in the gym so I understand. Be strong my sister, you will come out the other side a stronger and wiser person!!!!
Love you *Hugs*
rojamay
11-30-2010, 07:49 PM
Hey you. Sorry to hear about the troubles you've been going through. Hope everything works for the best for you and your family.
Good to see you back.
kineticforce
11-30-2010, 08:00 PM
welcome back girlllllly
:D
good deal , you just got yourself some zombie reps :)
Thanks :)
WELCOME BACK MY EVIL TWIN
I missed you Chanda!!!! Glad you are back it has not been the same around here without you!
I have total faith in you that you will get back in the gym and working hard. You know we are here to help you and motivate you!!!
I am the last person on this planet that would judge you. I have made the same journey as you, both personally and in the gym so I understand. Be strong my sister, you will come out the other side a stronger and wiser person!!!!
Love you *Hugs*
Thanks Sara, will e-mail soon :)
Hey you. Sorry to hear about the troubles you've been going through. Hope everything works for the best for you and your family.
Good to see you back.
Thank you :)
welcome back girlllllly
:D
Thanks KF :)
bodyhard
11-30-2010, 09:04 PM
Hey girl welcome back, I wouldn't worry about what people say or think of you, live for you, live for today....Life is too f'cking short.
dungeonmistress
11-30-2010, 09:40 PM
welcome back!
Old-Time-Lifter
11-30-2010, 09:53 PM
Welcome back. :D
eomrat
11-30-2010, 10:27 PM
you never stopped being part of this community :)
For the love of all things Holy, empty your damn mailbox!
TattooLou
12-01-2010, 01:17 AM
Glad to see you are back on track!!
discdoggie
12-01-2010, 01:20 AM
Hi Chand. Welcome back. :) Now time to get back to work with the iron. Go hit it hard.
And I know you said you don't want to go into details, but remember that your story can definitely help others. As much info as you're comfortable with is fine.
Meatpants
12-01-2010, 01:33 AM
Welcome back. Sorry to hear of the trying times.
Keep your chin up.
JolietKev
12-01-2010, 04:02 AM
Welcome back! Hope all turns out well with your situation.
pharmamarketer
12-01-2010, 04:17 AM
Welcome back. Good luck with everything
Hey girl welcome back, I wouldn't worry about what people say or think of you, live for you, live for today....Life is too f'cking short.
welcome back!
Welcome back. :D
Glad to see you are back on track!!
Hi Chand. Welcome back. :) Now time to get back to work with the iron. Go hit it hard.
And I know you said you don't want to go into details, but remember that your story can definitely help others. As much info as you're comfortable with is fine.
Welcome back. Sorry to hear of the trying times.
Keep your chin up.
Welcome back! Hope all turns out well with your situation.
Welcome back. Good luck with everything
Thank you all so much. I am definitely glad to be back. Will be working hard to get myself back on track. :) You all are such a great bunch of people. honestly.
Don't know much about you, lol, but I hope you get your life straightened out........and welcome back :).
DawnD
12-01-2010, 06:51 AM
I don't know you either. I wish you all the best and welcome back!
Don't know much about you, lol, but I hope you get your life straightened out........and welcome back :).
I don't know you either. I wish you all the best and welcome back!
Thank you both, it means a lot to me to be welcomed back. :)
storm1507
12-01-2010, 06:54 AM
Good morning Chanda.
It always pains me to see marital problems for anyone. It also reminds me to be very alert of any possibility it may arise in any marriage. I sure hope everything works out the best for you. Look forward to your journal.
Good morning Chanda.
It always pains me to see marital problems for anyone. It also reminds me to be very alert of any possibility it may arise in any marriage. I sure hope everything works out the best for you. Look forward to your journal.
Good morning! :) Problems can arise in any marriage, you are right. There were actually problems for a long time in ours, and they just grew. It became a very unhappy thing, and I acted out in ways that I shouldn't have. The blame is certainly not all mine, but I can only take responsibility for my part in it. That's all anyone can do, right? To own it, and learn from it.
In the end, everything will work out.
Thank you :)
kineticforce
12-01-2010, 07:45 AM
Mornin chica
Simpy
12-01-2010, 07:46 AM
First, welcome back. You were missed.
Hi Chand. Welcome back. :) Now time to get back to work with the iron. Go hit it hard.
And I know you said you don't want to go into details, but remember that your story can definitely help others. As much info as you're comfortable with is fine.
Second, I agree with DD. I suspect there are a few others on here who could benefit from hearing a bit of your story, but only as much as you are willing to share.
GreenWave1
12-01-2010, 07:51 AM
Welcome back!
WELCOME BACK MY EVIL TWIN
I have a saying: "They say everyone in the world has a twin. I'm the evil one"
In this case, I think you have it backwards. :p :D
kademrulz
12-01-2010, 07:52 AM
Morning Chanda :)
Mornin chica
Morning! Hope you are doing well KF :)
First, welcome back. You were missed.
Second, I agree with DD. I suspect there are a few others on here who could benefit from hearing a bit of your story, but only as much as you are willing to share.
Thank you Simpy! I may share more later, but right now, I am just trying to get back on track. It is a difficult thing to work my way around. Some of it is extremely difficult. My kids (the best thing in my life) are not with me. My heart is broken, and it is very hard to talk about it without breaking down. So maybe sometime soon, but not now. :(
Welcome back!
I have a saying: "They say everyone in the world has a twin. I'm the evil one"
In this case, I think you have it backwards. :p :D
Thank you! :)
Corbi
12-01-2010, 03:30 PM
Not much to add except welcome back you were missed.
chodan9
12-01-2010, 05:04 PM
welcome back!
much of my life today revolves around how much forgiveness that has been extended towards me. I hope you find the same in your life :)
cozener
12-01-2010, 05:15 PM
I was wondering where'd you gotten to. Welcome back. :)
Not much to add except welcome back you were missed.
Thank you Corbi :)
welcome back!
much of my life today revolves around how much forgiveness that has been extended towards me. I hope you find the same in your life :)
Thank you. I appreciate the thought. :)
I was wondering where'd you gotten to. Welcome back. :)
Thank you :) It feels good to be back
SP1966
12-01-2010, 05:17 PM
Welcome back stranger! Not that you're strange, at least not any stranger then I am. :)
DeathtoToasters
12-01-2010, 05:20 PM
Welcome back...
Has the butterfly transformed once again??
(lol...could not resist)
Welcome back stranger! Not that you're strange, at least not any stranger then I am. :)
Well thanks, I think :p Seriously thank you :)
Welcome back...
Has the butterfly transformed once again??
(lol...could not resist)
Ahhh, funny man! :D Thank you DTT :)
Bando
12-01-2010, 05:25 PM
Good to see you back butter...err "CMBG"
KeepItMoving
12-01-2010, 05:29 PM
Life isn't about how often you get knocked down. It's about how often you get back up.
Good for you for getting back up.
Good to see you back butter...err "CMBG"
Thank you Bando! :)
Life isn't about how often you get knocked down. It's about how often you get back up.
Good for you for getting back up.
Thanks for that. :)
kineticforce
12-01-2010, 05:42 PM
what does cmbg stand for??
chicago miss big gangster?
chuggin my big glass?
cool monster, big guy !
cold mondays by geenie?/
nm....
i cant figure it out.........sheesh