Another question, how big of deal is no "experience as you get older"

[cooldudemanus77]

I am nervous that since I dont have much experience. I will not be able to get dates as I get older.



Can I get opinions on this?

[phikappa]

Experience with what?

[jdmt37]

Experience with what?

Life apparently.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

I am nervous that since I dont have much experience. I will not be able to get dates as I get older.



Can I get opinions on this?

I assume you mean experience with women. I don't know about the gals today but honestly it's likely only a problem in your mind and not in theirs.

[kineticforce]

I am nervous that since I dont have much experience. I will not be able to get dates as I get older.



Can I get opinions on this?

well start talking with women - its not always about what you have done its where you are going

[fitmom43]

Life apparently.

You didn't have to change your custom tagline I was joking with you thats shy I had a smiley face :D

[whatevergirl]

You didn't have to change your custom tagline I was joking with you thats shy I had a smiley face :D

how did you change your tagline? i don't know what mine should say. lol

to the OP--Be yourself, always. Girls like guys who are confident, not arrogant...and it's not so much experience girls look for, as much as how you treat them, when you're dating them. :)

[fitmom43]

Steve posted the instructions for me on our other thread let me see if I can find it, but you go into user cp and i think edit settings.

[fitmom43]

Whatevergirl here you go.....

Originally Posted by *STEVE*
user cp

edit your details

custom user title

type it in

there ya go

[IronCharles]

I am nervous that since I dont have much experience. I will not be able to get dates as I get older.



Can I get opinions on this?

UjyXsIYAp8o

[fitmom43]

UjyXsIYAp8o

NICEEEEEE you always have the most appropriate videos/images LOL I LOVE JIMI!!!!!!

[whatevergirl]

Whatevergirl here you go.....

Originally Posted by *STEVE*
user cp

edit your details

custom user title

type it in

there ya go

thanks fitmom! now, to think of a tagline. lol

[immuno]

Op, I'd just start talking to everyone.. Men AND women. And don't make the mistake of only talking to women who you are attracted to. It's easy to miss out on some awesome friendships that way!

[immuno]

thanks fitmom! now, to think of a tagline. lol

Sammich maker.
































http://i248.photobucket.com/albums/gg176/immunosuppressor/coolface.jpg

[fitmom43]

Sammich maker.

http://i248.photobucket.com/albums/gg176/immunosuppressor/coolface.jpg


Here ya go..... You just want to see her in heels and in the kitchen LOL Whatevergirl just give him a picture of you in heels LOL it will make everyone very happy ;)

http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d115/SPicior/ultimate-sandwich.jpg

[whatevergirl]

Here ya go..... You just want to see her in heels and in the kitchen LOL Whatevergirl just give him a picture of you in heels LOL it will make everyone very happy ;)

http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d115/SPicior/ultimate-sandwich.jpg

with an apron on...

now we're really getting far fetched. :D

sammich maker i love it...hahahaha

[immuno]

Here ya go..... You just want to see her in heels and in the kitchen LOL Whatevergirl just give him a picture of you in heels LOL it will make everyone very happy ;)


To be exact, *Steve* is the heels guy.. I'm the leg guy. But a pic of legs AND heels WOULD make everyone happy. Maybe that would be a fun thing for the entire ovr35 female segment to do? We could have a thread dedicated to it. :)

[Old-Time-Lifter]

Sammich maker.





[/IMG]

LOL, excellent

[fitmom43]

To be exact, *Steve* is the heels guy.. I'm the leg guy. But a pic of legs AND heels WOULD make everyone happy. Maybe that would be a fun thing for the entire ovr35 female segment to do? We could have a thread dedicated to it. :)

You know me I'm down with anything (after all I'm a secret ninja LoL), but some of the women might take offense LOL

[JoelM05]

Op, I'd just start talking to everyone.. Men AND women. And don't make the mistake of only talking to women who you are attracted to. It's easy to miss out on some awesome friendships that way!

^^There ya go^^

Talk to anyone you can, look them in the eye, be yourself and confident. This will lead to friendships, friendships lead to dates and dates lead to experience. You won't hit it off with everyone, but it's a good way to work on your social skills.

[IronCharles]

You know me I'm down with anything (after all I'm a secret ninja LoL), but some of the women might take offense LOL

Are you wearing heels with your Bertstare shirtdress? Someone cut off the bottom of the pic.... ;)

[fitmom43]

Are you wearing heels with your Bertstare shirtdress? Someone cut off the bottom of the pic.... ;)

lol no I am barefoot, but heels is the topic of conversation on another thread LOL

[whatevergirl]

You know me I'm down with anything (after all I'm a secret ninja LoL), but some of the women might take offense LOL

we could wear the ninja get up...with heels. there, now that would be a sight... lol

[JoelM05]

You know me I'm down with anything (after all I'm a secret ninja LoL), but some of the women might take offense LOL

There is a leg thread in the Fem misc., but it got buried somewhere...:(

[cooldudemanus77]

Thanks for the responses guys!!!Sorry, I keep coming in here for advice,

[OutOfStep]

I am nervous that since I dont have much experience. I will not be able to get dates as I get older.



Can I get opinions on this?



Just pick up some used up bar skank from a local pub and get some experience. /thread

[KimberleyRN]

Just pick up some used up bar skank from a local pub and get some experience. /thread

Yes, and pick up chlamydia, herpes, and crabs at the same time.

[Brackneyc]

Yes, and pick up chlamydia, herpes, and crabs at the same time.


Well, he will certainly have some experiences to share after that mess. :)

[OutOfStep]

Yes, and pick up chlamydia, herpes, and crabs at the same time.


:rolleyes: Newsflash: you can get an std from anyone. That's why we have condoms. The lad said he needed experience.

[KimberleyRN]

Well, he will certainly have some experiences to share after that mess. :)

What is wrong with learning and exploring everything on your wedding night? It worked for my husband and I.

Well, he was the virgin... it was my 2nd marriage. I absolutely LOVED that he had never kissed anyone else but me. I did not have to wonder how I was 'comparing' to the other girls.

Women tend to be very insecure and will wonder if they are as good as the others.

[cooldudemanus77]

What is wrong with learning and exploring everything on your wedding night? It worked for my husband and I.

Well, he was the virgin... it was my 2nd marriage. I absolutely LOVED that he had never kissed anyone else but me. I did not have to wonder how I was 'comparing' to the other girls.

Women tend to be very insecure and will wonder if they are as good as the others.

This makes me feel craploads better!!!!


So, as long as I keep working out,building a career, and working on my personaility.....I am essentially doing everything I can to be the best I can for whoever I marry?





btw how old was your husband when you got married.


Sorry if you guys are getting tired of my post. I initially posted here because I was looking for hope from people with more life experience. You guys just keep making me feel more hopeful!

[Brackneyc]

What is wrong with learning and exploring everything on your wedding night? It worked for my husband and I.

Well, he was the virgin... it was my 2nd marriage. I absolutely LOVED that he had never kissed anyone else but me. I did not have to wonder how I was 'comparing' to the other girls.

Women tend to be very insecure and will wonder if they are as good as the others.


I suddenly became a huge supporter of people "waiting" once I had a daughter. :)

[KimberleyRN]

This makes me feel craploads better!!!!


So, as long as I keep working out,building a career, and working on my personaility.....I am essentially doing everything I can to be the best I can for whoever I marry?





btw how old was your husband when you got married.


Sorry if you guys are getting tired of my post. I initially posted here because I was looking for hope from people with more life experience. You guys just keep making me feel more hopeful!
First, quit apologizing... it makes you seem whiny.

My husband was 21 when we got married. I was 31 years old.

[Karl_Hungus]

Just pick up some used up bar skank from a local pub and get some experience. /thread

I believe Ann Landers once offered similar advice.

[dungeonmistress]

To be exact, *Steve* is the heels guy.. I'm the leg guy. But a pic of legs AND heels WOULD make everyone happy. Maybe that would be a fun thing for the entire ovr35 female segment to do? We could have a thread dedicated to it. :)

in!!! i wanna showcase my awesome new digi-skull sparkly 5" stiletto platforms by iron fist. :D

[cooldudemanus77]

First, quit apologizing... it makes you seem whiny.

My husband was 21 when we got married. I was 31 years old.

Woah seriously? I guess there are no bounds on love though!!!

[immuno]

in!!! i wanna showcase my awesome new digi-skull sparkly 5" stiletto platforms by iron fist. :D

Do it! Lol. (Actually, that really would be kewl to see!)

[fitmom43]

in!!! i wanna showcase my awesome new digi-skull sparkly 5" stiletto platforms by iron fist. :D

ohhhhhh they sound killer I wanna see :D

[kimm4]

What is wrong with learning and exploring everything on your wedding night? It worked for my husband and I.

Well, he was the virgin... it was my 2nd marriage. I absolutely LOVED that he had never kissed anyone else but me. I did not have to wonder how I was 'comparing' to the other girls.

Women tend to be very insecure and will wonder if they are as good as the others.


Kudos for waiting till your wedding night...something I would never do.

Do that many grown women wonder how they compare to other women?

Maybe it's because I've never been that insecure...so I'm just not getting it. It seems so high-school-ish to me...

[hochspeyer]

I believe Ann Landers once offered similar advice.

I'm probably the only person in the Western World who thinks Ann Landers was a loser whack job.

[kineticforce]

Here ya go..... You just want to see her in heels and in the kitchen LOL Whatevergirl just give him a picture of you in heels LOL it will make everyone very happy ;)[IMG]http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d115/SPicior/ultimate-sandwich.jpg[IMG]if I were to ask for a picture of you in heels - wouldya do it?

You know me I'm down with anything (after all I'm a secret ninja LoL), but some of the women might take offense LOLtake offense to you being a ninja?

we could wear the ninja get up...with heels. there, now that would be a sight... lol**jaw drops**

Yes, and pick up chlamydia, herpes, and crabs at the same time.feeeeeel the burrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrnnnnnnnn

This makes me feel craploads better!!!!
So, as long as I keep working out,building a career, and working on my personaility.....I am essentially doing everything I can to be the best I can for whoever I marry?
btw how old was your husband when you got married.
Sorry if you guys are getting tired of my post. I initially posted here because I was looking for hope from people with more life experience. You guys just keep making me feel more hopeful!dude stop it - if you wait till you get married and the sex is bad, you're gonna hate life (esp. if you find out that night) and what if you like things like feet, bdsm, or some other fetish or even SHE does. Im not saying go out and fukk every girl out there but get some tools on your belt about being soical, and understand social dynamics.

dont worry about asking questions either, its a forum, you sound needy and like a little boy.

FURTHER, personality doesnt make a relationship OR even a man. Character, personality, charm, wit, intelligence, life experience, world experience, and some other things (not sure but what I can think of now) are things that round you off as a man. Dont think cause you eat, sleep, train you are gonna win over a girl cause you have 18 inch arms. 18 inch arms dont help you deal with a woman when she is crying or wants to be held or wants you to just shut the hell up.

Learn to be a better man, read books (add to the list above) and understand the world around you and women.

Go get jankys book @ www.relationship101s.com if you have any more questions feel free to ask brah - here to help

in!!! i wanna showcase my awesome new digi-skull sparkly 5" stiletto platforms by iron fist. :DHUBBA HUBBA

[fitmom43]

if I were to ask for a picture of you in heels - wouldya do it?
take offense to you being a ninja?



LOL Good Morning/Afternoon Kineticforce I am trying to convince Whatevergirl and Agillingham to do this with me LOL

[whatevergirl]

LOL Good Morning/Afternoon Kineticforce I am trying to convince Whatevergirl and Agillingham to do this with me LOL

pose as a ninja in heels? hahaha

i'd have to have a reenactment of sunday night at my neighbors...


but i'd participate in a heels thread if one gets set up.... ;)

[fitmom43]

pose as a ninja in heels? hahaha

i'd have to have a reenactment of sunday night at my neighbors...


but i'd participate in a heels thread if one gets set up.... ;)

LOL no not in ninja gear the thread will get deleted again because they might think we are terrorists lol just the heels thread. Tell you what I have a couple of errands to run when I get back I will try and take some pics you do the same and we will start the thread LOL always up to some mischief LOL :D

[Brackneyc]

dude stop it - if you wait till you get married and the sex is bad, you're gonna hate life (esp. if you find out that night) and what if you like things like feet, bdsm, or some other fetish or even SHE does. Im not saying go out and fukk every girl out there but get some tools on your belt about being soical, and understand social dynamics.




Is the same advice you would give to your own kids, maybe even a daughter (not sure if you have one or not)? Just curious. Maybe you would.

[whatevergirl]

LOL no not in ninja gear the thread will get deleted again because they might think we are terrorists lol just the heels thread. Tell you what I have a couple of errands to run when I get back I will try and take some pics you do the same and we will start the thread LOL always up to some mischief LOL :D

yeah, i figured that's why it was deleted...could be a cool halloween costume...i'm going as a sexy ninja this year...oo la la.... ;) lol

i'm at work...no mischief for me...i'll be looking for my halo while you're out running errands, girlie. ha

[cooldudemanus77]

Is the same advice you would give to your own kids, maybe even a daughter (not sure if you have one or not)? Just curious. Maybe you would.



Do I really sound like a kid? It is an autistic trait btw

He said that somewhere in his post

[KimberleyRN]

I just wanted to get back on track one moment and tell the OP that I know MANY couples that have waited until their wedding day to have sex...

They have amazing sex lives and are not disappointed. I have NEVER heard anyone of them say 'I wish we would have slept around more'.

Your virginity is a gift that you can give only once. Why not give it to the one you hope to spend the rest of your life with?

'Fooling around' to get experience will just leave you feeling empty and cheap... plus could get you messed up in something you do not want to be involved in... think about it.

[whatevergirl]

dude stop it - if you wait till you get married and the sex is bad, you're gonna hate life (esp. if you find out that night) and what if you like things like feet, bdsm, or some other fetish or even SHE does. Im not saying go out and fukk every girl out there but get some tools on your belt about being soical, and understand social dynamics.

dont worry about asking questions either, its a forum, you sound needy and like a little boy.

FURTHER, personality doesnt make a relationship OR even a man. Character, personality, charm, wit, intelligence, life experience, world experience, and some other things (not sure but what I can think of now) are things that round you off as a man. Dont think cause you eat, sleep, train you are gonna win over a girl cause you have 18 inch arms. 18 inch arms dont help you deal with a woman when she is crying or wants to be held or wants you to just shut the hell up.

Learn to be a better man, read books (add to the list above) and understand the world around you and women.

Go get jankys book @ www.relationship101s.com if you have any more questions feel free to ask brah - here to help
HUBBA HUBBA

From ''further'' and on down...this is pretty good advice.

OP--live and enjoy your life...you are young. While you're enjoying your life, the right woman enjoying hers, will come along. :)

[whatevergirl]

I just wanted to get back on track one moment and tell the OP that I know MANY couples that have waited until their wedding day to have sex...

They have amazing sex lives and are not disappointed. I have NEVER heard anyone of them say 'I wish we would have slept around more'.

Your virginity is a gift that you can give only once. Why not give it to the one you hope to spend the rest of your life with?

'Fooling around' to get experience will just leave you feeling empty and cheap... plus could get you messed up in something you do not want to be involved in... think about it.

I better be able to rep you...this is an outstanding post.

[Brackneyc]

Do I really sound like a kid? It is an autistic trait btw

He said that somewhere in his post


Easy there big fella. I was responding to the other guy. :) Look to see who I quoted.:)

[kineticforce]

EDIT: SRS replies in here - be careful :p


LOL Good Morning/Afternoon Kineticforce I am trying to convince Whatevergirl and Agillingham to do this with me LOLmy love for you grows with each and every post (no WK)

pose as a ninja in heels? hahahaHELL TO THE YEAH

Is the same advice you would give to your own kids, maybe even a daughter (not sure if you have one or not)? Just curious. Maybe you would.
actually I think about this more and more - and I want my kids to be smart, socially savvy and understand that while sex is good it also has its bad sides.

Listen Im not gonna tell my daughter to whore it up and my son to be a gigolo - but Im not gonna sit there and say ok Suzy and Dave don't have sex cause I know you are not. BULLSH*T, Id tell my kids listen if you're gonna have sex, 1) be safe and use a condom 2) dont just sleep with someone just CAUSE 3) to my daughter - understand that guys (mostly all) will want to sleep with you, you should use your better judgment who you're gonna sleep with.

There is more but my morals and how I view life and how to raise my future kids (if I have em) is different than you. There are a lot of things I didnt learn about growing up and some of the innocence my parents tried to conceal from me went against them and it made me mad and angry at them, cause they knew it was there but they chose to ignore it. WHY? Oh cause lil kinetic is so young and ignorant, BS, I knew a lot about what was going on around me - I just didnt understand it - ya know?

I understand you want to protect your kids but denying and acting the fool to your kids is only gonna hinder them. Im not saying be a friend, but be a PARENT, tell them the truth about life vs them figuring it out. You are supposed to teach them right vs wrong not YOUR WAY. Cause they will find out YOUR WAY may not be their way. If my dad warned me against something, lets say for example to not touch an iron, but lil kinetic didnt believe him and touches the iron -- OUCHIE -- its his fault for not listening and maybe next time he will say maybe dad was right.

I dont expect anyone to listen to what Im saying but I feel telling your kids about certain things in life is better than finding suzy and her bf banging in her bedroom cause she wanted to try it out and if I woulda told her maybe she might have thought twice about it. Its not a perfect model but you cant trust one thing and thats the human element, I cant read my kids minds but I can damn sure at least help shape them in the right manner.

Do I really sound like a kid? It is an autistic trait btw

He said that somewhere in his postyou worry about what ppl think on a forum??? really thats what a man does?

I just wanted to get back on track one moment and tell the OP that I know MANY couples that have waited until their wedding day to have sex...
'Fooling around' to get experience will just leave you feeling empty and cheap... plus could get you messed up in something you do not want to be involved in... think about it.I can disagree more than you want to hear, I can tell you about the women who married virgins and are craving more attention sexually, all because their sex life boring (and Im not saying for them its about number of partners its about experience...) bad sex is just BAD SEX ( you could prolly do the same for your side of the discussion)

It seems to me, you say sex is lessened when you have more partners, because of your own moral choices (religious reasons ???? Ill accept that and understand where you are coming from). Having sex with someone for 1 night or 1 year is still sex...doesnt cheapen/lessen/devalue it. If I had 10, 1 year relationships - does it cheapen it??? NO cause I was with 10 women in SERIOUS relationships....does that lessen/devalue it for number 11? heck no....

Again Im not saying go find 1000000 women and screw them...

Im not going to go to much further into this rabbit hole - cause I might offend someone/some people....Ill just say I respect your(Kimberly) opinion, I know both sides of the coin, and I could point out several sides of the "coin" to prove and disprove your side, cause Ive seen both. (you might be able to also)

This is a forum on the intrawebz, we can discuss it off line in PMs but Id rather not say Im right, you're wrong or vice verse its not worth it. People have their own beliefs, me telling you what you believe is not right, is rude and really not worth it, cause I respect what ppl believe - you have that choice and that freedom to do so - and that I respect (and thats YOUR choice).

Why would you listen to some guy on the intrawebz??? I dunno??? I can only give you my side of the discussion and my views - take it or leave it - :D

[whatevergirl]

kinetic...truly, marriage isn't about good or bad sex...it's a component of a good or bad marriage. What happens out of the bedroom, is going to affect what happens in it. That said, sex matters. It does. But, if two people go into marriage with superficial ideas of it, they shouldn't get married. Marriage is so much more than good or bad sex...women who are starved for attention...same as men...are starved before they get into the bedroom. The problems a couple has in the sack, are often results from what's happening out of it.

Just my two cents.

I'm feeling very sad right now...all this marriage talk. :(

Bowing out now...

carry on....

[whatevergirl]

Listen Im not gonna tell my daughter to whore it up and my son to be a gigolo - but Im not gonna sit there and say ok Suzy and Dave don't have sex cause I know you are not. BULLSH*T, Id tell my kids listen if you're gonna have sex, 1) be safe and use a condom 2) dont just sleep with someone just CAUSE 3) to my daughter - understand that guys (mostly all) will want to sleep with you, you should use your better judgment who you're gonna sleep with.



when you have kids someday, everything you ever thought about ANYTHING will change.

remember where you heard that. ;)

[Brackneyc]

when you have kids someday, everything you ever thought about ANYTHING will change.

remember where you heard that. ;)



This^^

:)

[kineticforce]

kinetic...truly, marriage isn't about good or bad sex...it's a component of a good or bad marriage. What happens out of the bedroom, is going to affect what happens in it. That said, sex matters. It does. But, if two people go into marriage with superficial ideas of it, they shouldn't get married. Marriage is so much more than good or bad sex...women who are starved for attention...same as men...are starved before they get into the bedroom. The problems a couple has in the sack, are often results from what's happening out of it.I understand marriage isnt about good or bad sex, but it does make a difference...not about going into sex with expectations its about working shiz out...like i said above what makes a man....

what is the quote 90% of life is experience 10% is how you deal with it (google couldnt find what i was lookin for :( )

getting through difficult times >>> sex

its how you handle life's situations with your S.O. <=== thats most important (imo)

when you have kids someday, everything you ever thought about ANYTHING will change. remember where you heard that. ;)thought about this also....plus the wifey factor...**hold strong kinetic hold strong**

[whatevergirl]

I understand marriage isnt about good or bad sex, but it does make a difference...not about going into sex with expectations its about working shiz out...like i said above what makes a man....

what is the quote 90% of life is experience 10% is how you deal with it (google couldnt find what i was lookin for :( )

getting through difficult times >>> sex

its how you handle life's situations with your S.O. <=== thats most important (imo)
thought about this also....plus the wifey factor...**hold strong kinetic hold strong**

lol--ok, your advice is getting better. ;)

Maybe you're not the marrying kind...not everyone is, you know. And that's perfectly ok.

No one in this life has to get married...it's people who get married with fairy tale expectations, that have the most problems...But, if you are the marrying kind, just know...things change when you have others to think of...other than yourself. :) It's not all about getting head whenever and however you want.

If it were...more marriages would last...

Think about that one, everybody!

Alrighty then...how 'bout them yankees?

I'm going to quietly eat my salad now...

;)

[kimm4]

I just wanted to get back on track one moment and tell the OP that I know MANY couples that have waited until their wedding day to have sex...

They have amazing sex lives and are not disappointed. I have NEVER heard anyone of them say 'I wish we would have slept around more'.

Your virginity is a gift that you can give only once. Why not give it to the one you hope to spend the rest of your life with?

'Fooling around' to get experience will just leave you feeling empty and cheap... plus could get you messed up in something you do not want to be involved in... think about it.

I'm trying to word this the best way I can without offending anyone.

How can a virgin possibly know the definition of amazing sex, when they've only been with one person? They wouldn't because it's all they've ever had, so they have nothing to compare it to.

The majority of my relationships have been serious and I have no regrets about any of the men I've slept with. There were a few times when I wasn't as serious with certain men, but I still fooled around with them. It never left me feeling empty and cheap...if left me smiling.

This is just my personal opinion, which really means nothing. :)

[dbx]

I'm trying to word this the best way I can without offending anyone.

How can a virgin possibly know the definition of amazing sex, when they've only been with one person? They wouldn't because it's all they've ever had, so they have nothing to compare it to.

The majority of my relationships have been serious and I have no regrets about any of the men I've slept with. There were a few times when I wasn't as serious with certain men, but I still fooled around with them. It never left me feeling empty and cheap...if left me smiling.

This is just my personal opinion, which really means nothing. :)

Repped for such an excellent reply.













































Negged for actually posting in this thread :D

Oh, wait.........

[V-240]

... It never left me feeling empty and cheap...if left me smiling.... :)

And just WHAT'S WRONG with empty and cheap, dammit?!? :D