How can I escape the past?

[squirrell751]

So my gym closed at 2 today and that left me going to the gym here in town.

A quick background info, I didn't like going to my high school, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and chances to join in some great memories because everyone was racist and mean, I never went to any of my dances and only played football for them my freshman year and never played anything else, everyone hated me and after time it once I was out of that place and was my own I grew to hate that place.

I go to a gym thats in another city thats about half an hour away and I've grown into that and everyones grown into me, I have lots of people there that are nice and are motivating and overall really just great people. I can see myself being part of that gym for my whole life because of all the people and the atmosphere I dont know how to explain it but you know when you're in that one place and you feel great and nothing can go wrong and everything just goes perfect and everything makes you happy there? That's my gym to me.

But today I had to go to the gym in town because mine was closing early and I had stuff to do, well I go and the people in there are just really mean and disrespectful towards me, I don't know what it is or what I did but it just seemed like no one in there likes me and its times like these that ruin my day and affect me for the whole week and really just put me down.

I've tried to make friends with some people but everytime I smile at them they look away and I get a negative feel from them, if I try to make small talk they simply just ignore me and walk completely the other way. I mean its like this with 8/10 people in this town and some of the old people are really sweet but most of the youngsters and teengers are some real jerks, is this how your usually small country town is?

I need some help to get me just mentally out of my past and forget about these people completely and everything tied to it, I don't go there or don't affiliate anything with anyone from this place because they are just *******s but sometimes they get to me and its getting to me more than it should and I don't want it to affect my life anymore.

Thanks to everyone in advance, happy new year.

[saint sinner x]

So my gym closed at 2 today and that left me going to the gym here in town.

A quick background info, I didn't like going to my high school, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and chances to join in some great memories because everyone was racist and mean, I never went to any of my dances and only played football for them my freshman year and never played anything else, everyone hated me and after time it once I was out of that place and was my own I grew to hate that place.

I go to a gym thats in another city thats about half an hour away and I've grown into that and everyones grown into me, I have lots of people there that are nice and are motivating and overall really just great people. I can see myself being part of that gym for my whole life because of all the people and the atmosphere I dont know how to explain it but you know when you're in that one place and you feel great and nothing can go wrong and everything just goes perfect and everything makes you happy there? That's my gym to me.

But today I had to go to the gym in town because mine was closing early and I had stuff to do, well I go and the people in there are just really mean and disrespectful towards me, I don't know what it is or what I did but it just seemed like no one in there likes me and its times like these that ruin my day and affect me for the whole week and really just put me down.

I've tried to make friends with some people but everytime I smile at them they look away and I get a negative feel from them, if I try to make small talk they simply just ignore me and walk completely the other way. I mean its like this with 8/10 people in this town and some of the old people are really sweet but most of the youngsters and teengers are some real jerks, is this how your usually small country town is?

I need some help to get me just mentally out of my past and forget about these people completely and everything tied to it, I don't go there or don't affiliate anything with anyone from this place because they are just *******s but sometimes they get to me and its getting to me more than it should and I don't want it to affect my life anymore.

Thanks to everyone in advance, happy new year.

Your 6'9 inches tall bro, simply squash those puny humans lol. Seriously, the only way out is by going through your problems, there will always be haters and appreciators, you know that, your 19. I'd suggest for you to workout in the gym filled with the haters, and begin to confront them, simply ask them "what's everyones ****in problem?!" I can't believe you travel outside of your town because you dont want to deal with the haters, people hate for many reasons. You need to man up and confront, confront them in a diplomatic manner, not too aggressive nor to passive, keep a balance. Do not pay attention to what those losers are saying, let them know your a star bro, their talking about you, you got the whole ****ing haters association talking about you, consider yourself a certified bad ass. Don't be evasive, be calm, cool and collective about it, and at times a little cocky smile would definetly anger them HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAH

[Subtitles]

I'm sorry your having such a tough time.
I dissagree with the above poster. What is confronting strangers you get a 'bad vibe' from going to accomplish?

There are always going to be people who are unfriendly, stuck up, or simply who keep to themselves. I'm a very friendly person, so I won't lie it always hurts a bit when people don't return a smile or friendly 'hello'. But I always try to brush it off, why should I let someone else effect my mood?

I don't know you, so I really have no idea. When I first read your post, I figured it must be something your doing to be getting a cold responce from such a variety of people. Maybe you are picking the wrong place/time/people to greet and try to be friends with? Maybe it is something with your personality? Are you too abrubt about it?

I didn't have the greatest time in highschool either, but it was by choice that I remained virtually invisible and just stuck with my close group of friends, I was more comfortable that way.

You need to surround yourself with people who are full of life, and go easier on yourself. If you take everything so personal, you will be miserable the rest of your life. Maybe those people were just having a bad day? Maybe they are uncomfortable around new people? Give others, and yourself, the benefit of the doubt.

(I hope this post made sense, I'm half asleep)

[Blacksmith80]

Just let it go brah, you dont have to escape from anything. You're not the only one who didn't have good time in the past, lots of us have mostly bad memories. I have lots of them myself, and i heard some really bad stories from the other people. I dated a girl who was abused by a member of her family, imagine that. Life is short, dont let unimportant things make it worse for you. Just find a way to spend every day in the best possible way. What upsets you is not real priority in ur life, what you need is one good girl and after you find her, you wont even have a wish to hang out with those unfriendly basterds. Never follow your heart, be smart and follow your common sense, it will tell you what is really important for you. Real friendship is almost ilusion bc most of the people are mean bastards, much more than 8/10 like you said. They will never appreciate what youre trying to do, so dont try to make a friends of them. Be nice to them, but hold your side.

[Rick1824]

Everything seems to be a bit vague with respect to what and why and all of that stuff. There is no reason to "escape" anything...just let it go and move on, the more you dwell on it the worse it's going to be. If people have a problem with you...that's their problem, not yours and you shouldn't let it effect you or turn it into your problem. Just get on with your life and do your own thing and be happy doing your own thing, you have to take care of #1.

But just because your regular gym closed early, is no reason to go into a gym where you feel you're unwelcome or subjected to any other type of mistreatment by others. This for the most part is/was your fault. You put yourself into a bad environment/situation by deliberately walking into an environment/situation you knew to be bad.

[johnderriLLL]

the way i deal with mean awful people is ignoring them, they hate that more than anything. just be nice back to them and walk on.

they cant help being mean and ignorant. im sorry:(

[sharktank29]

everyone hates you? they must be a reason. : /
escape the past?
i tried forgiving myself, it seems to work a little....now I'm TRYING to be the best i can be, and try to avoid/block out the negative energy...

[Blue_Sky]

i know what ur talking about man, i moved to a small down for 4 months, most of the kids (teenagers, i was around 14-15 back then) are racist, its really ****ty. i'm glad i got out of that place. but yeah back when i was 9 i was in another small down to the west and alot of ppl were racist too. i think its a trend, but there's still alot of really nice people, its mostly kids that are disrespectful tho

[LG155]

Use it as motivation or just ignore it. Some places are like that, and sometimes your perception might intensify it to. Everywhere I go it seems like people don't like me, but it's what i think about every time I pick up the weights, or head to the martial arts gym. Another thing you can do is just go about your day and pretend they don't have an attitude. People will get to know you and realize your not a bad guy. Me personally though, i would rather them hate me.

And yes, a lot of small towns are like that. The only thing they hear about people of other ethnicity most of the time are bad so that's what they think of them. Some were just raised that way. If you make a few friends in a small town though, it goes a very long way.

[TNetz]

So my gym closed at 2 today and that left me going to the gym here in town.

A quick background info, I didn't like going to my high school, I missed out on a lot of opportunities and chances to join in some great memories because everyone was racist and mean, I never went to any of my dances and only played football for them my freshman year and never played anything else, everyone hated me and after time it once I was out of that place and was my own I grew to hate that place.

I go to a gym thats in another city thats about half an hour away and I've grown into that and everyones grown into me, I have lots of people there that are nice and are motivating and overall really just great people. I can see myself being part of that gym for my whole life because of all the people and the atmosphere I dont know how to explain it but you know when you're in that one place and you feel great and nothing can go wrong and everything just goes perfect and everything makes you happy there? That's my gym to me.

But today I had to go to the gym in town because mine was closing early and I had stuff to do, well I go and the people in there are just really mean and disrespectful towards me, I don't know what it is or what I did but it just seemed like no one in there likes me and its times like these that ruin my day and affect me for the whole week and really just put me down.

I've tried to make friends with some people but everytime I smile at them they look away and I get a negative feel from them, if I try to make small talk they simply just ignore me and walk completely the other way. I mean its like this with 8/10 people in this town and some of the old people are really sweet but most of the youngsters and teengers are some real jerks, is this how your usually small country town is?

I need some help to get me just mentally out of my past and forget about these people completely and everything tied to it, I don't go there or don't affiliate anything with anyone from this place because they are just *******s but sometimes they get to me and its getting to me more than it should and I don't want it to affect my life anymore.

Thanks to everyone in advance, happy new year.


I hate to say it but it sounds like you really need to lower your expectations of people. Everyone goes through what you've described. I use to say hi to people all the time. It use to piss me off because nobody would say hi back lol. I finally realized that people are different. Some are too insecure to talk to a person they don't know. Some are shy, some are just dicks and not worth your time anyway. Live and let live man.

[selffirst]

Haters are always gonna hate...you can either feed into the hate and live in the past or go forward and look towards the future.....You need to ask yourself this....Why do these people I dont care about effect me so?....Why does it matter?....you have nothing to prove to anybody but yourself...Your successes are your successes,your failures your own...Your living in the past...and it's that past that's hampering your progress.....