How to get my girlfriend to workout and eat good????

[30th t/a]

Ok I know this is a pretty weird question and I might get flamed for it but here goes. Im really into working out and eating healthy. When I first met my girlfriend she came out and said how she loves that im into working out and eating healthy. However after being with her the last few months Im finding out her diet SUCKS and the only times she works out is the few times she goes with me. She doesnt seem to give a crap about what she eats and that bothers me bigtime!

When I first met my girlfriend she was really in shape but she was only 18 and danced alot and was really active. Then she went to college and packed on a not so solid 25lbs.

I really want her to get into eating healthy and working out but she doesnt have much desire and I feel im going to feel like a total d*ckhead talking to her about this but it bothers me alot to see her eating all this junk and not caring. Is there anyway to talk about this without getting into a huge fight and hurting her feelings????

[musicianman]

Ok I know this is a pretty weird question and I might get flamed for it but here goes. Im really into working out and eating healthy. When I first met my girlfriend she came out and said how she loves that im into working out and eating healthy. However after being with her the last few months Im finding out her diet SUCKS and the only times she works out is the few times she goes with me. She doesnt seem to give a crap about what she eats and that bothers me bigtime!

When I first met my girlfriend she was really in shape but she was only 18 and danced alot and was really active. Then she went to college and packed on a not so solid 25lbs.

I really want her to get into eating healthy and working out but she doesnt have much desire and I feel im going to feel like a total d*ckhead talking to her about this but it bothers me alot to see her eating all this junk and not caring. Is there anyway to talk about this without getting into a huge fight and hurting her feelings????

Pull the "I'm losing motivation because you're not driven to workout consistently" card if she's the kind of person you think you can guilt trip.

[localstommy]

Here read this, same situation.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=120207741

[nugzta]

Put posters of hot super models in bikini in your room. Then tell her those posters motivate your workout because she doesn't give you motivation anymore. :)

[Inked187]

i use to be the same way, but as she saw me training and eatting right and my Army PT was getting far better scores, she started to see she needed to do the same. and i had bodybuilding mags all over my place, but over all she is who she is. i had to sit down and talk it out, its a work slowing moving, but its moving. and hopling once i get back from here and she done with her deployment we can workout, but before she always had a reson not too. Also it helpped having gym girls talking to me and other girls trained with me from my unit. so that also woke her up.

[30th t/a]

Thanks for the good info guys. That thread helped out.

Last night at work i got all depressed thinking about how am I going to talk to her about this, I got a extreme headache and wouldnt text her back. I just didnt even want to talk to anyone.
When I talked to her today she asked what was wrong with me last night and I just said I was stressed out about some stuff. I didnt want to tell her over the phone....and just my luck she's on her period now!!...so now she's even more emotional and bloated feeling so now Im going to have to wait to talk to her about this.

[Suckmykiss]

For someone to be dedicated to health and fitness, they have to want to do it, they have to have that passion for it, it's not something you can push onto someone. But best of luck with finding a way, let us know how it goes.

[30th t/a]

For someone to be dedicated to health and fitness, they have to want to do it, they have to have that passion for it, it's not something you can push onto someone. But best of luck with finding a way, let us know how it goes.

I totally agree with the person has to have the desire to want to eat healthy and look good.
Hopefully with her seeing the way I look vs the way she looks, she'll start getting into working out & watching what she eats more.

[bluebloodedpony]

I would have to say your cause is hopeless and that is from personal experience. My family had been on me for the past...6 years to get in shape. Sure every now and again I would diet or workout for a week, just to shut them up, then I would go back to my old ways until the next time around. It wasn't until I got a hold of myself and said this lifestyle has got to go and the fact that I was ruining career options greatly affected that. I didn't have a reason to care, now I do. It just comes down to the person. It is as the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. You could tell her you will leave her, she will just look at you and say "fine, i will just find someone who can appreciate me for me. bye."

[TheFranchise714]

just dump the fatass

[Shinet]

For someone to be dedicated to health and fitness, they have to want to do it, they have to have that passion for it, it's not something you can push onto someone. But best of luck with finding a way, let us know how it goes.

Agreed.

[selffirst]

I'll give you a no bull**** answer.....If she doesn't want to workout or change..no motivation in the world from you will change things......Focus on your goals.....A healthy lifestyle requires inner motivation and passion....it can't be forced even when it's well intentioned.......Self

[F22-Raptor]

I'll give you a no bull**** answer.....If she doesn't want to workout or change..no motivation in the world from you will change things......Focus on your goals.....A healthy lifestyle requires inner motivation and passion....it can't be forced even when it's well intentioned.......Self
This man speaks much truth... I have the same issue with mine.

[Inked187]

besides you dont want someone holding you back, its best to have someone with the same mindset as you, something to share and it helps you both in the long run

[Reach_Yeah]

Good luck. Getting a girl to do something she doesn't really want to that requires a lot of effort... good luck!

[AnimalDJ185]

Good luck. Getting a girl to do something she doesn't really want to that requires a lot of effort... good luck!

Agreed man, the wife has finally agreed that she needs a change and is ready to do so. I totally know what the op was/is going through

[ljwede7]

Threads like these make me realize just how much I won in life.

I ended up with a girl who is a Certified Athletic Trainer/Strength and Conditioning Specialist.

(Yes brag)

[vvarhead17]

Tough situation for sure man, i was going through something similar. I hate that we are considered shallow for trying to change their bad habits.
Best bet is to buy heathier groceries and keep them around the house, and throw away the occasional bad food when shes not looking. Plan B, find another girlfriend. good luck!

[Tweeds]

I don't think there is anything a man in your position can say that will have a positive outcome. I tried very very subtly to broach the situation with my fiancee last year - didn't end well :) So I left it well alone and didn't mention it again - then a few months later she adopted a healthy lifestyle by her own accord and looks her best ever now. My only advice would be to not mention words like weight - keep it to health benefits rather than aesthetic ones. Suggest forms of exercise you could do together, that she would enjoy. For example, mine desperately wants to take up salsa dance lessons together (much to my dismay) - so i'm going to have to swallow my pride and start shaking my hips next week.

Whatever the outcome, best of luck to you - i sympathize with your predicament.

[joshuasullivan]

well man, i don't know the type of girl she is, but I really see only one of two options.
1) if this is something thats important to you (and it sounds like it is), she needs to respect that. After all, you are looking out for her own good. You might want to consider approaching it from that angle. At least, try to get her to think about her eating choices before she acts, thats an easy and life enhancing thing to change.
Personally, i'm a huge advocate of working out, but if she isn't that type of person (i.e. she doesn't wan't to spend forever in a gym), then there isn't really anything you can do other than make suggestions to come along.
But, i'd be real careful with it, because you don't want her to get really mad at you because your 'accusing her of being fat'. If she can't respect something that important to you, then maybe she isn't for you.

Sorry, i forgot what door number two was. If i remember, i'll let you know.

[darkartist81]

There really isn't much you can do. If she lives with you, you can at least stock your fridge with healthy foods... only buy what works for your diet. Eat clean when you eat out, and it might just work on her over time. She will probably feel bad when you guys go to Outback and you get a salad while she munches down a huge burger...

Not to mention that over time, as you become more chiseled... she feels more flabby and unattractive in bed when you guys are getting busy.

You can't force her into it... I've been there, tried that. It never ends well. All you can do is try to work through it, and hope that she adapts to it. If she can't adapt or if she starts giving you Hell for being healthy... drop her and find someone who doesn't.

[Tel]

just go out somewhere and flaunt your guns when the fit ladies come over start flirting, and ivite them to come work out with you cos your wife doesnt want to.. pretty sure she'd get the point hahaha