How to get your partner into exercise?

[sporty_girl]

Hi there. :)
Im trying to get my bf to exercise. I dont want to force him but it will be so good for his health and with his family history of high cholesterol and what not, and other personal things, i think that it would be so benefical to him.
Anyone got any tips to help motivate him give it a go?
I know that if he does get in there and try it out he will probably enjoy it.

Thanks very much.
Sorry if this is in the wrong section.

[Classicjamz]

Does he like sports?

[gecko...]

I'll be watching this thread closely - my husband is in the same boat. He has genetic high cholesterol (both his father and his uncle had quad bypasses before 55) and other problems that could be fixed with more muscle mass.
He is fine to go exercise with me, but cant motivate himself to go.

[Classicjamz]

So do you want to get them into lifting or just activity to get their heart rate up and get in aerobic shape? The reason I asked if he liked sports was because a one on one basketball game or some other sport would probably get them motivated to exercise.

[sporty_girl]

Yep he likes sports. - rugby, touch rugby, soccer etc and hes big into his hunting. This would be classed as cardio for him. he would never get on a treadmill or go for a run. lol. i was thinking more along the lines of lifting. not heavy or bulking or anything just to keep fit, look after the bones, joints etc. He went through a phase at the beginning of the year that he really wants to get into weights (watching too much bourne series, i think ;)) haha. so maybe i just need to push him a little. not sure. Any thoughts? thanks heaps for the posts by the way.

[gecko...]

My husband is really into hunting too - but he does it with a bow :)
He also rides his bicycle to and fro work everyday so I guess thats something - but like you, I think I'm going to just push him a bit to 'helping me out' when i do my weight training, then as he builds muscle I'll overflow with the compliments about how sexy he's looking. Hopefully it will stroke his ego to keep going. . ;)

[sporty_girl]

yes the overflow of compliments is probably the best way to go about it ;) especially keeping motivation. i have an awesome picture that would suit this comment - just not too sure in how to load it on. yay! go it.
good luck with it! let me know how you get on. :) if you have any ideas keep me posted.

[mavrick77]

yes the overflow of compliments is probably the best way to go about it ;) especially keeping motivation. i have an awesome picture that would suit this comment - just not too sure in how to load it on. yay! go it.
good luck with it! let me know how you get on. :) if you have any ideas keep me posted.

I have to disagree with that differnce, funny though.

I got my spouse into the gym because she had a treadmill in our basement, and used to run all the time. Then one day she was like "I am trying to loose this"...so I bought her some bands and showed her how to do a few things at home.

One day I told her to come with me to the gym and watch a movie while she runs, and I will work out.....well she finished early, so I took her through a easy workout..from that day on she go tthe bug, and has been lifting ever since.

now is this a good or bad thing, I am still unsure. she has a distorted image of herself, like I do myself. we both are very hard on ourselves, and always have spots we want to fix. It made me think of this when I saw the funny picture you posted about the differnce.

I attached a photo of her, I think she is drop dead gorgeous...but she says she has fat legs and love handles....and not just one of thoose women things looking for compliments, some days she wont even wear shorts or tight pants she gets so self concious..

she was never this hard on herself, before she started working out at the gym... so is it a good or bad thing?

[sporty_girl]

id have to agree with you regarding being harder on yourself when working out. I have always wondered why as i feel the same way and im guessing many others out there do to, man and women. Maybe you see what you can be, and want that so badly? maybe you compare yourself to others? a big one - always notice your faults and never the good?
I guess it depends on the individual but i think you did the right thing :) - you were just looking out for her health and showing her some new things.
keep up the compliments (everyone loves them :P) and goodluck to you and your spouse. i hope she gets her confidence up. I would love to see her pic (its only 4% downloaded lol) will get back to you. :)

Summer

[mavrick77]

id have to agree with you regarding being harder on yourself when working out. I have always wondered why as i feel the same way and im guessing many others out there do to, man and women. Maybe you see what you can be, and want that so badly? maybe you compare yourself to others? a big one - always notice your faults and never the good?
I guess it depends on the individual but i think you did the right thing :) - you were just looking out for her health and showing her some new things.
keep up the compliments (everyone loves them :P) and goodluck to you and your spouse. i hope she gets her confidence up. I would love to see her pic (its only 4% downloaded lol) will get back to you. :)

Summer

oops sorry bout that, I attached BMP....fixed it with a JPEG...should be alot smalller photo now

[sporty_girl]

... she looks great! has nothing to worry about whatsoever!

[mavrick77]

... she looks great! has nothing to worry about whatsoever!

so thats why I say...I am not sure if its good to get your spouse involved in working out....

I get very frustrated with her at times because she is so hard on herself, I mean I am aloud to be(double standard i know)...but not her, she is gorgeous (in my eyes)

[sporty_girl]

but i want to get my partner to work out due to his family history and his problem, so in the future he will benefit.

[mavrick77]

but i want to get my partner to work out due to his family history and his problem, so in the future he will benefit.

have you thought about asking him to go with you, and then go out to dinner afterwards....you can sell it like, that way I dont have to go home to pick you up....

have him a free trial already set up so he doesnt have to deal with the sales guys...and go thru a workout with him, but try to use free weights, dont stick him on the "no mans land" machines